DH's mother is divorced. His
dad remarried a long time ago, when DH was 6. His dad married
his secretary. Need I say more on that? So, MIL is bitter,
alone, and controlling. During the course of us living in
the same state, she was in the middle of our relationship.
Now, if any of you have heard the expression "Marriage takes
three", it means you, husband/wife and God, NOT your MIL!!!
Well, she tried to think for us, and would volunteer DH to do things
without his consent, as if she owned him. It took her a while
before she acknowledged that we were getting married. I believe
that she asked if I was pregnant. We decided to baptize our
son on my birthday. I had no idea what I would get for him
to wear. The day before his christening and my birthday, I
went out and bought a white three-piece tux, complete with bow tie
and cummerbund that was on clearance for $20. It was the cutest
little suit. The morning of the christening, she popped over
with a hideous suit that she bought for our son to wear. I
brought him out already dressed and showed her that he already had
something to wear. She was absolutely furious. She did
not acknowledge my birthday, and had an attitude the whole time
that we were at the church. For some strange reason, they
would try to downplay me on all sides. His mother would try
to big up his sister and her relationship with this psycho loser.
One time, DH's evil stepmother commented to me (after I'd had our
son) that I didn't look like a picture, that I had of myself, anymore.
Also, on another note, I dislike both sides of his family - mother,
sister, father and the alien stepmother. Of course, I came
into the relationship looking forward to forming a bond with them,
only to discover their dislike for me when they didn't know me.
Finally, I couldn't take it anymore. We packed up our stuff
and moved to another state.
Signed - Evil MIL Survivor
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My FIL just had surgery
to remove cancer from his throat. My MIL was there the day of
the surgery, and for a couple of hours each day after that.
Her excuse for not spending more time with him was that she has to
run their family business. I thought that was why my SIL (who
lives with them and works for them) was not coming to the hospital?
My poor DH and his stepsister have been taking turns spending the
night at the hospital with FIL so that he is not left alone in case
he needs something. And, then, they both have to go to work
each day. Other relatives are staying with him during the day.
MIL is a real piece of work.
Signed - Just Wait Until
SHE'S In The Hospital!
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- desperately seeking sanity, 2 of 4 needed
/Posted: 12-NOV-03
I work evenings, during which time MIL and FIL
visit. Curiously, the nights I work are the only convenient
times to visit (if I have a shift change for any reason, they can't
make it on their usual night, but they come around on the day that
I have swapped for instead!). One week, I was unwell with a
cold, and took a night off, so DH phoned them to let them know that
I was ill, in case they wanted to avoid picking up my virus.
MIL said, "Tell her not to worry about cooking. I'll bring
dinner over." How thoughtful, I thought. DH can cook, but
it's not one of his strong points. When they arrived, they had
3 dinners with them - one for DH, one for DD, and one for DS.
They hadn't asked if I was off my food (I wasn't), and made no mention
during their visit as to why I had been excluded! DH made me
something to eat when they left!
Signed - Desperately Seeking
Sanity
RESPONSE: Desperately Seeking Sanity
Why did he wait until they left? To make a point, he should have
given you his plate.
RESPONSE: Desperately Seeking Sanity
This is ridiculous!! Why didn't DH ask where your food was? And
why did he wait until AFTER they left to make you food? Didn't he
eat his food right away?
RESPONSE: Desperately Seeking Sanity
I would have been very aggravated that they were that inconsiderate.
Your DH should have said something to them. Just my opinion.
RESPONSE: Desperately Seeking Sanity
DH made you something when they left? Um, hello? Did he say something
to them?
RESPONSE: Desperately Seeking Sanity
Although the opportunity has passed, your DH should have given you
his meal - right in front of them - and made himself something. He
would have let her know that you are the most important person in
his life. By eating without you, he let her know that her behavior
was ok.
RESPONSE: Desperately Seeking Sanity
Please tell me that your DH said something to them, and that he refused
to eat the food that they brought. If he didn't, then that is totally
out of order, and he is a poor excuse for a husband. So what? He
made you something after they left. He should have told them off
big style. Oh, by the way, your ILs are pretty horrid too. Poor
you!
RESPONSE: Desperately Seeking Sanity
DH made you something to eat when they LEFT??? He should have done
it while they were there, taking as long as necessary. Sorry to say,
but DH is majorly enabling their shabby treatment of you. He is giving
them the message that he can't do anything if you're around. Shame
on him!!!
My stepmother is so greedy
that when my business partner and I split up after 16 years, she sent
her kids to our office and emptied it out without my knowledge.
Even though she attends religious services every week and bible study
regularly during the week, she is allowing the state to charge me
with a serious felony. She act's like she's done nothing wrong,
and has since fabricated stories to protect herself. Now that
she's taking care of my bedridden father, I feel like I'm being blackmailed
into having to cover for her, or she'll take it out on my dad, as
she has already done. I don't know enough about how our courts
work, but for 3 years I've been struggling with what to do.
Now I am considered to be an accomplice to a criminal theft, and she
won't come forward to tell the truth. And, she thinks of herself
as . . .
Signed - A Good Woman
RESPONSE: A Good Woman
Make a complaint to social services about your father's mistreatment.
Have your lawyer contact the police about her blackmail attempts.
RESPONSE: A Good Woman
Can you talk to her pastor? She must go to a particular church more
than others. What does your lawyer say? Will her kids admit anything?
Can you take care of your father yourself?
RESPONSE: A Good Woman
Don't be insane! Tell the courts who emptied the office. BTW, how
did she get into the office if you didn't know what she was doing?
RESPONSE: A Good Woman
I don't know what I would do if I were you, but I would sure figure
out something. Hope you get things straightened out. You have my
sympathy.
RESPONSE: A Good Woman
I hope you get yourself a good lawyer in order not only to protect
yourself, but your poor dad!!!
RESPONSE: A Good Woman
SAVE YOURSELF - tell the truth If you cover for her/them, you are
guilty!! And, she will make you take the fall for anything and everything
that she can.
RESPONSE: A Good Woman
Sad to say, people like her feel that as long as they pay lip service
to god, they can get away with anything. Forget deities - you need
a good lawyer, pronto!
RESPONSE: A Good Woman
Find someplace else to put your father. Even if you don't tell the
truth about her (and you should), you don't know how she will treat
your father. If this "religious" woman doesn't have a problem
with stealing and lying, what makes you think that she'll have a problem
with mistreating or neglecting your father?
RESPONSE: A Good Woman
YOU HAVE TO CALL YOUR COUNTY ATTORNEY AND TELL THEM WHAT HAPPENED!
It doesn't do you or your step-siblings any good to continue lying
for the step-witch. And, felony charges are really hard to overcome
when trying to start a new business or get a job. One of the first
questions employers ask is, "Have you ever been convicted of
a felony?" Please, don't take the blame for her. If she takes
it out on your father, it should be a wake-up call that he's married
to a lying thief and he needs to get the hell out of dodge! Good
luck, and keep us posted.
RESPONSE: A Good Woman
Get a lawyer! If you are being charged with a crime that you are
innocent of, and you have proof of who really committed that crime,
get a good lawyer and sort it out! Ordinary people generally don't
know too much about the law or how courts work, that's why ANYONE
who is accused of a crime needs a lawyer, especially if they are being
blackmailed to take the rap (as you are). If you think that your
stepmother is abusing your father, call Social Services and report
it as abuse. If she treats him badly now, what makes you think that
she will treat him any better while you are in prison? My stepmother
is so greedy that when my business partner and I split up after 16
years, she sent her kids to our office and emptied it out without
my knowledge. Even though she attends religious services every week,
and bible study regularly during the week, she is allowing the state
to charge me with a serious felony. She act's like she's done nothing
wrong, and has since fabricated stories to protect herself. Now that
she's taking care of my bedridden father, I feel like I'm being blackmailed
into having to cover for her, or she'll take it out on my dad, as
she has already done. I don't know enough about how our courts work,
but for 3 years I've been struggling with what to do. Now, I am considered
to be an accomplice to a criminal theft, and she won't come forward
to tell the truth. And, she thinks of herself as "A Good Woman".
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