I just got off the phone with my
mother. I told her about this site, and she gave me some more
"information" to add here. Every year, about a month
before Christmas, my family goes out to get a tree. When I
moved out, I continued the tradition by going with them to get my
own. This past year, I thought it would be nice for DH and
I to go together, seeing as we were planning to be married the following
June. I thought it would be a nice way for him to spend time
with my family. To go and cut your own tree is expensive,
but we go because it's tradition. MIL didn't see it that way.
I knew she had said something to DH about it, but I didn't think
it went any farther than that. She approached my mother, as
well as DH, to tell them how outrageous and wasteful it was - and
at my bridal shower, of all places, 5 months later! Unbeknownst
to me until now, she bashed me in front of a bunch of family and
friends, saying that this is how I am with everything!! I
don't know why I thought that that woman ever liked me - even for
a short time - because cr@p is coming out of the walls about millions
of things that she's said in the past. I wish she would have
told ME what she really thought of me so that I could have put a
stop to her Pinocchio tactics then one way or another.
Signed - I Must Have
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They harassed us about the
cost of the rehearsal dinner so much that we had a rehearsal LUNCH
instead, and then I received NOTHING for my wedding. No gift,
no card. NOTHING. My in-laws are the cheapest people on
earth. At least I have her favorite son - the best gift of all!
Signed - One Less Thank-You
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I USED to call my MIL and
let her know of upcoming events with the family, the kids, ourselves,
dinners, etc. I would give her all the info, and then she would
look at me in front of my husband and everyone, and in the sweetest
little voice she would say, "Oh, you never told me. I didn't
know about that. When was this? I was never told."
Blah, blah, blah. My solution was to stop calling her and stop
informing her!! DH would say, "Call my mom," or, "Did
you let my mom know?" And I would say, "YOU CALL HER!!"
Guess what? He began to call her and let her know things.
And, guess what??? She would then say to him, "Oh, you
never told me. I didn't know." And, I would say to
DH, "Didn't you call her????"
Signed - I Got The Last
Laugh On That One
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Great ending!!!!
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Good for you!
RESPONSE: I Got The Last Laugh On That One
Nice one! I bet you enjoy saying that to your DH.
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What a great solution you have found!
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I can't believe that MIL was so stupid as to use the same cheap trick
on her son as she did with you.
RESPONSE: I Got The Last Laugh On That One
Isn't it amazing how the blinders are on with DHs. Mummsy couldn't
be WRONG or embarrass you in front of everyone if you had TOLD her
of these things. Now, the tables are turned. Lets see how long he
puts up with her cr@p.
RESPONSE: I Got The Last Laugh On That One
Before I got married I decided, after watching my own mother play
secretary to my father and his mother's relationship, that my DH would
be the one informing his family of mostly everything they needed to
know about what we were doing. I also choose not to tell them every
single move that we make. Our lives aren't completely their business.
DH and his sibling have
not gotten along very well, and are not, nor have they ever been,
close. When there is even a higher level of friction, or she
feels that she is losing control of her children, she reels them in
by playing the illness card! She pulls it out and slaps it on
the table, and they all come running! It disgusts me.
This woman has claimed to have cancer and all kinds of things wrong
with her, but I have never known her to go for any long term treatments
or extra care. She is always out of town. I'm not her
doctor, and I can't be sure of what was discussed by her and her doctor
in the privacy of an exam room. But, I am not stupid, either,
and it is just all too convenient how it just happens to pop up when
she most needs to be sick to get her way!!
Signed - I Am Not Stupid,
Either
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Two words: DRAMA QUEEN! I find it odd that her illnesses last just
long enough to call attention to HER. Her kids are either that stupid
or wear rose colored glasses when it comes to MUMMSY.
RESPONSE: I Am Not Stupid, Either
Good for you for recognizing your MIL's control tactics! She'll be
sorry one day when she really is sick, but has cried wolf so many
times that no one cares.
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OMG. My MIL and SIL do the same thing!!! It drives me NUTZ!!!!!
So far, she has had cancer 2x's, and almost died in a car accident.
She doesn't have cancer, and she walked away from the accident without
a scratch. She called crying, and got my DH all upset, "My mom
has cancer." Little did he know that she was going to her annual
appointment, which always has shown her to be fine. And, the accident
- NOT A SCRATCH. Need I say more? SIL called us, crying about how
worried we must be about her, because she was living where the blackout
occurred - like she was dying! We've all lost electricity before
- no big deal! And, the kicker - she wanted me to cry about her having
no electricity, and having to walk 10 blocks, while I was having a
miscarriage! Most recently, the SIL went to the hospital "dying,
of course". The calls kept coming, crying calls, BOOHOO. She
was released with acid-reflux!!! Over RE-ACTORS! "ACTORS"
being the key. I hear you. It's all a ploy to see how far we will
go to please them. It's like a "how much do you love/need me"
test. It's their own insecurities and low self-esteem. But, it is
not a good reason to put anyone through that. It's the old crying
wolf story. I never buy it anymore. And, it will be them who suffers
when something is really wrong for playing these childish games!
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