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Mother-In-Law Mall
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Mother-In-Law Stories
June 19, 2004
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My MIL - I thought that she was
wonderful when I first met her. I envied my FDH because his family
was so close, and I was from a broken home. My mother left for
good when I was 2, and my sister and I went to live with a horrible
aunt and uncle. After I had grown up in an abusive house, I met
the man of my dreams. He had a great family, or so I thought.
When we met, we lived 5 hours apart. So, when we were to get
married, I moved for him. Everything was great with MIL until
BIL got married (he and SIL were having a baby, so they married
quickly). They married almost 2 years after we did. We were
having dinner with the ILs, and MIL proceeded to tell me that
she couldn't remember my name. She said this in front of everyone.
I was so hurt and humiliated. I had been with her son for 3 years
at this point, and married to him for two. She had a new DIL
now, so she could not care less how she hurt my feelings - it
was because her new DIL was pregnant, and I wasn't. Life still
revolves around the new DIL, and I am still just someone who is
married to her other son.
Signed - She Couldn't
Remember My Name
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- sonotthedrama, 2 of 4 needed
/Posted: 19-JUN-04
As I've mentioned before, we are living with MIL
until we move to Germany with the military. DH, the 3 kids and
I, all sleep in the living room on the pull out couch (actually,
baby sleeps in a pack n play). So, imagine my surprise when, on
Saturday night, MIL went to a swinger's party in our apartment complex
and came home with a guy! She went into the kitchen with him and
got some more booze and blasted the light. Then, she came over
to the bed and started trying to tickle and rile up DD (age 4),
who had woken up because of the light and noise. MIL told me to
go sleep in her bed because it was more comfy, and she wasn't going
to sleep in it that night. Thank God I didn't. I found out the
next morning that, after we had all fallen back asleep, MIL came
back to the apartment with this STRANGER! Thank goodness he didn't
turn out to be violent or a pervert, and thank goodness none of
the kids woke up and wandered into her room! The next day, we had
to listen to her ask us, "Are you sure you didn't hear anything?",
and all about how well endowed he was, etc., etc. I can't believe
that she's that trashy that, not only does she have a one night
stand with a swinger, she brings him into the apartment where her
young grandchildren are sleeping!
Signed - Disgusted!
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My MIL looked at my modest
and affordable (for her son) engagement ring and only sneered and
said, "You will get that caught on everything!" She looked
miserable at our wedding, and many times called me an "outsider"
in their family. She sends me birthday cards that are from a box
of miscellaneous cards, and they are always late. On the last one,
she scratched out the "We are thinking of you", and wrote,
"We were not thinking of you on your birthday". This
offended me, and their response was that I don't have a sense of
humor. They totally ignored my pregnancies with my 2 beautiful
daughters. When visiting the babies for the first time, she never
brought any sort of gift, and they can well afford it. They would
only criticize my mothering skills, and flat out told me that my
first born was an ugly baby. She did go through a lot of bruising
and head molding at childbirth, but this was their first grandchild
ever, and my DH and I thought that she was the most beautiful child
ever. My FIL asked if my child would be retarded because of her
misshapen head right after birth, and these harsh statements offended
me as a new mother. The first thing that they said about #2 daughter
was, "THIS one is a pretty baby, and looks more like our side
of the family." Even when we visited them at Christmas, when
I was pregnant with first child, no one ever mentioned the baby
on the way, and MIL actually wanted to take next year's Christmas
card photo with only her 4 "boys" in it. I felt left
out, and I was sure that people would certainly wonder where DH's
wife and baby were. They come to my house and criticize my cooking
and my height (I am a slim 5'9", and they are all very short
people). My MIL goes on and on about how unusually tall I am, and
that, "she has NEVER aspired to be tall." When we were
only married a month, MIL sent me (on 3 separate occasions) books
that basically told, "How to be a better wife". I took
offense to this, because we were doing great as newlyweds, but DH
always acted tense around them, and they blamed his behavior on
my making him unhappy. He even felt uncomfortable touching me or
kissing me with them around. They had 4 boys, and never owned a
pet. I love dogs, and have a sweet little dog. Both ILs refuse
to touch him, and act like he is feces on the floor. DH loves the
dog, but ignores him when they visit. There is much, much more
that has occurred over our 23 year marriage. There have been many
horrible arguments between me and DH, because he never defends me
against their attacks, and tells me that they didn't really mean
what was said. We are not big alcohol drinkers, but we usually
have a bottle of wine or a few beers in the refrigerator. The ILs
hate drinking of any sort, and DH, at nearly 50 years old, hides
the alcohol when they visit. DH rarely calls them, but chooses
them over me every time. I have recently called the ILs and told
them that I am "divorcing" them, and they will no longer
insult me and intrude in my life. I told them that their son could
have any kind of relationship that he wanted with them, but I was
no longer subjecting myself to their insults. I'm almost certain
that this latest action on my part of "divorcing" my ILs
will end my marriage. I no longer feel that DH has a spine, and
I do not respect him because of his excusing their insults to me
from the beginning. My mother treats DH like a dearly loved son,
and I deserve the same treatment from ILs, but it will never happen.
Also, want to tell you that DH's brothers are 54 and 47, and have
never been married or ever brought a woman to their family. I think
that the brothers know the "he!!" that I have endured
through the years, and won't subject anyone to that. If DH had
made it clear in the very beginning of our marriage that he would
not allow me to be hurt by them, I think that I would have had more
happiness, and some joy in my marriage. I now regret ever marrying
into that family, but my 14 year old daughter falls apart when I
tell her that I must divorce her father. I might wait another 4
miserable years until she graduates from HS, and take that time
to plan my exit. Thanks for listening to me. I am completely spent.
Signed - I Am Completely
Spent
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