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Mother-In-Law Mall
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Mother-In-Law Stories
June 29, 2004
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Worst gift: Worst gift
ever: Valentine's Day 2002: DH got a pair of boxers with a cartoon
character dog on them, with hearts and candy. DD got a stuffed
animal, and a charm for her bracelet. I also got my own box with
my NAME on it - it had a CHARM in it. Later, my ILs were visiting,
and DD had her bracelet on. FIL and MIL both looked at each other
and then they looked back at me and said, "Where is her charm?"
I said, "Which?" They said, "The heart charm. It
came with the other charm!" I was sooo shocked and hurt that
I just told them that I hadn't put it on yet. I was sooo happy
on that Valentine's Day to think that they included me, and WHAM,
they smacked me in the face. I mean, the darn box had my NAME on
it!!!!!! That hurt. And, on Christmas in 2001 I got a pillowcase.
And, every single picture taken that Christmas has my head cut out,
except for one - DH took that one. Gee. How nice for DD to look
back at, huh?
Signed - Thought It Was
Mine
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I almost think that my
MIL's goal in life is to hurt my feelings. After I had been married
to her son for 2 years, she forgot my name at a family dinner.
DH insisted that she forgets everyone's name. Hmmm. I didn't hear
her telling anyone else in the room that she couldn't remember their
name. BIL married a girl whom he had gotten pregnant, and since
DH and I don't have kids yet, the world revolves around them. All
she can do is tell me what SIL is doing and how great she is. Once
DH told his mom that I wanted to go eat lunch with her (boy, was
I mad that he volunteered me for that), so I agreed to go. Well,
lo and behold, she brought SIL with us. She can't even have one
meal with just the two of us, and all she does is nag me about when
we will have kids. She should be happy that 1 out of 3 of her children
decided to wait until they were married a few years before having
babies. She has a shrine to SIL in her sewing room. SIL is not
even her daughter, it's her DIL. So, I find this really creepy.
The room is filled with pictures of SIL. She has 1 picture from
our wedding in her house, and I am not even in it.
Signed - Maybe It's Me
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We have had a lot of
problems with my MIL since I got pregnant with her first grandchild.
Every time that I wanted to tell her something nice or interesting
about my pregnancy she told me, in a very hateful tone of voice,
that she didn't want to be a grandmother, and that she wasn't one
bit happy about this pregnancy. DH and I weren't so surprised,
at first, because we both knew that she had a real problem with
her only son getting engaged maybe ten years before she had expected
it. When we had our first child, DH had just passed his mid-twenties,
but he really wanted this child, and fell madly in love with our
little son the moment that he was born. MIL doesn't want to acknowledge
her son's feelings for his children, or for me, his wife. She keeps
on insisting that it was all a mistake. She has invented her own
sick fantasy about our relationship, because in her world her son
could only love her (and maybe also a few other family members of
her choice, such as her daughter and MIL's ex-husband). It is as
if she wants to keep her family as it has always been, with her
as the wife and the mother. When she divorced DH's father, I think
that DH became the man in her life. She really thought that he
would never grow up, fall in love and start a family of his own.
At least it seems that way because of her terrible behavior when
it finally happened. He fell seriously in love with me, and we
decided to start our own family, no matter what MIL thought about
that. A lot of really bad things have happened between us and MIL
since we announced our first pregnancy. But, I must say that she
has kept her promise about not wanting to become a GM for our child.
She insisted that she didn't have time to come and see him until
he was a month old, and then I happily announced that DH and I had
already decided that we wanted another child, because having a child
was so much better than we could ever imagine. She then replied
that she didn't want that child to be a "mistake", too.
What she meant was that, obviously, our first pregnancy was due
to that failure of birth control devices, or even worse. I actually
think that she sees it as if I tricked her son into getting me pregnant.
None of this is the least bit true. I told him that I would like
him to get me pregnant because I had spent a long time thinking
it over, and I finally had found the courage to go through with
it. So, we didn't use any birth control device. We had talked
about having children together since we first met, and we actually
waited two whole years because we wanted to be sure that we really
had time to know each other well. For those two years, we also
lived together most of the time. Still, MIL doesn't want to acknowledge
that we now are a married couple with two wonderful children, so
far. We are actually trying to become pregnant again, because we
have decided that we want a big family. MIL doesn't see things
this way. I think that she is just waiting for us to get divorced
so that she can have her son back and so that she won't have to
share him with me, not to mention our children. She uses our children
to get revenge. For example, last Christmas, our children didn't
receive any presents from her. She wanted to hand them over personally
two days after Christmas. She made her arrangements without discussing
anything with us. We figured it out, because, normally, the presents
arrive within a certain day, or else it is too late. We then told
her that we thought it would destroy Christmas for the children
if they didn't have their Christmas presents at the normal time,
as it is the custom in our culture. She got really offended, and
didn't try to send them in time. Now, six months later, both of
our children had birthdays, and what did she send them? The Christmas
presents. One of them was a book about a snowman. A really odd
present to receive in the middle of May!!!!!!! We thought about
asking her if she would get the children a bathing suit or maybe
sunglasses for Christmas. Even worse, she sent the presents about
nine days too late. So they arrived at a time where we had forgotten
all about the birthday. But, she managed to hurt us when we had
the birthday party, because she made us think that she again wouldn't
give our children any presents. It is not the first time that she
sent presents or birthday cards much too late. So, it cannot really
be a coincidence or a mistake. I think that she must be a little
bit sick in her head, because she wants to take it out on her grandchildren
(the idea that her son now loves another woman, rather than her
- moreover, a woman she clearly didn't approve of - but he wanted
to marry me and have children with me anyway!!!). We actually did
invite her to the birthday, but she wouldn't come unless she could
also take my SIL with her. We didn't want that, because they are
extremely nasty when they are together. We could only handle one
of them at that time and we didn't think that it was appropriate
for a guest to decide whom we should or should not invite. We tried
to explain to her that we would like to invite SIL some other time.
But she wouldn't come unless she could have it 100% her way. She
hasn't even seen our second child yet. My DH and I are trying to
survive all the hateful and nasty things that she does to us and
our children. It hasn't been easy, since DH has been a little reluctant
to realize what was really going on. Still, he has admitted to
it now. It just isn't easy to be closely related to a person like
her, because I honestly don't think that she or the family members
who support her war against our marriage will ever let us be. Sometimes,
I just don't know what to do, because this war is ruining so much
of the wonderful time with our small children. But, I have decided
to fight her back with all my strength. All her hate will be returned
to her. My DH and I will find a way to be happy together and enjoy
our marriage and our children. I am so much looking forward to
having our third child, because children really bring such joy to
our lives. I am just curious to know if she will also call our
third child a "mistake". I live in Europe, so please
excuse me if my English isn't 100% perfect.
Signed - The Happy Wife
And Mother Who Will Win This Fight, Big Time!
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