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Mother-In-Law Mall
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Mother-In-Law Stories
July 3, 2004
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I just want to know what
everyone else thinks about my MIL. I've been married for 17 years.
I'm wife #2 (no, I didn't break anyone up, nor was I the other woman).
My MIL is a real treat. She compares me to my DH's other relationships.
I should tell you that I am younger than DH by 14 years. She will
say rude comments to me when my DH is not around. It's just the
small comments that get me. When we celebrated our fifth anniversary
she said, "Well, I guess you deserve a medal," as he has
never been with anyone for more than 5 years. I couldn't believe
it. That hurt. I have nothing against wife #1, as I have never
met her. MIL also has two DDs, and she tends to play one against
the other. She constantly talks about them behind their backs (things
about their mates, or their children). So, I know that she does
the same with me. She says that she doesn't like the other SILs
very much, and finds fault with everything that anyone does. She
is a very negative person. She has tried to get me to say bad things
about my SIL (the one with whom I get along very well) and I think
it ticks her off because I won't. SIL#1 has one son whom my MIL
pretty much has raised herself. SIL#1 is a bit on the flaky side.
MIL is into all of her business, and SIL doesn't seem to be able
to make any decisions with my MIL. When they come to visit MIL
and FIL, all she talks about is that grandson. None of the others
can do any right. MY MIL always comments on how SIL#2's (we get
along) children are, and how bad they are. Let me tell you, I would
rather have SIL#2's kids for a month than SIL's kids for an hour.
My SIL#1 also treats me like I don't exist. When she and her mate
came to visit, they basically ignored me in my own house. I mentioned
that to my DH after they left, and I said that next time they "drop
in", they can visit him. After all, I think his sister only
came to see him, anyway. Over the years, I have put up with a lot
of cr@p. I know that they (MIL and SIL #1) don't like me much -
they are entitled to their opinions. To each his own. I think
it burns my MIL to see DS happy. At a family function, his aunt
and uncle came over to me and said, "You must be doing something
right, as we haven't seen your DH this happy before." I'm
lucky. My ILs live five hours away. Also, every time my ILs visit,
my MIL likes to snoop around. I have no idea why. I think that
she is just a very rude and cold person. The total opposite of
my parents. I could go on, and I find it hard to write as there
are so many things in the past. My motto now is that I married
my DH, not his family, as anything that I do is not good enough
and will never be. She wants to control me and . . .
Signed - I Won't Allow
It
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Per
the poster's request, no response necessary.
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My MIL is pretty aggressive
about "jumping in" when it comes to decorating or taking
over our house. She visits once a year. Several years ago, she
took it upon herself to reorganize where we kept things in the kitchen.
It took me months to straighten it all out. Last summer, I had
planted several flower arrangements in planters for our patio.
My MIL took a beautiful pot of flowers that I had planted, dug up
all the flowers, and transplanted them into the middle of our yard
(just in the middle of the grass) for some unknown reason. This
year, she asked my DH to drive her into town to "run some errands".
When I returned in the afternoon, she had taken down the plants
from two windowsills and from planters throughout the house. She
was removing all of the existing plants and replacing them all with
gaudy, artificial flowers! I dread her visits, and can only wait
to wonder what she is going to do next. DH is very protective and
defensive of her and says, "She's only trying to help",
which I know is true, but it doesn't help me anyway. I've considered
having a heart to heart with her, but she isn't very much on top
of things, and would only hear, "please don't dig up my flowers".
The following year, she would invariably find something new to do
(maybe paint our furniture, or add stenciling to the walls?). Lord
only knows. If anyone has any advice, please reply. I dread her
visits.
Signed - Awaiting Another
Surprise
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I'll try to keep this
as short as possible. I never thought that I would have a MIL who
would cover the spectrum of craziness. 1) The 2nd time I met the
ILs, my MIL insulted my family, calling them inbred hillbillies.
My response, "Lady, I can talk about my family that way, but
you can't." 2) When DH asked me to marry him, MIL's first
response to seeing my engagement ring was, "You should have
spent that money on a house." It was immediately followed
by, "When am I going to get grandchildren?" My response,
(while smiling sweetly),"As soon as you buy stock in the baby
factory." 3) For our first Christmas after we became engaged
I purchased an extremely expensive, one of a kind photo from an
artist who drew pictures of the university that we attended. DF's
response was, "You love me like no one I've ever imagined."
I completely melted. However, when I told the story to his mother,
she burst into tears, and ran up to him crying that she was his
biggest fan, and asking why he wouldn't ever say things like that
to her. EEEWWW. 4) At my bridal shower, she gushed continuously
about how, as soon as we have children, she is going to move in
with us for a month to help take care of them. Something to keep
in mind is that I have been told by doctors that I can never have
children, and she knows this. Second, the likelihood of her even
being allowed overnight in my house is slim to none. 5) She tried
to stage a major coup two weeks before our wedding, telling my DH
that she didn't approve of me, and didn't approve of our marriage.
She said that she wouldn't come if he went through with it. I was
also on the phone at the time and almost fell over laughing when
DH told her to "stay your happy @ss at home then." 6)
Rehearsal dinner was a real joy (yes, she showed), as she insisted
that we sit with her and talk only to her. My family understood,
because I had kept them up to date on the stories. However, I really
felt like I neglected people who drove hundreds of mile to be there
(and I didn't even sit there the whole time). 7) At the reception
(she behaved during the wedding), one of the servers asked if she
enjoyed herself and her response was, "I guess, considering
I didn't get to help plan anything." I'm sure that I have
it easier than some, but this woman has done everything in her power
to turn DH's family against me from the beginning. She is convinced
that I ruined her baby (that's why he is now out of debt and getting
a master's degree). This woman is OUT OF CONTROL. She was irate
when DH only called on her birthday, no card or gift. However,
he didn't even rate a phone call when he turned 25.
Signed - This Woman Is
OUT OF CONTROL
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