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Mother-In-Law Mall
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Mother-In-Law Stories
July 9, 2004
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My MIL thinks Mother's Day is
a day especially set aside to honor her and only her. Never mind
that I might want to honor my own mother! DH and I have been
expected to celebrate every year with her: lunch, dinner and whatever
other activities she chooses. Well, now that I have a son of
my own, I decided that the holiday was no big deal to me, but
I had no reason to have to spend the day celebrating goddess MIL.
We stayed home. I slept in, and we went on about our day. MIL
was warned, cheerfully, that I was going to enjoy my first Mother's
Day and not travel 3 hours to visit her. She was very put out.
She did not send me a card, and made sure to send DH a card on
Father's Day to prove her point. That was last year. This year,
she again assumed that we would be spending Mother's Day with
her, and she was again disappointed. No card for me. I'm waiting
to see if DH receives a Father's Day card again. I guess I don't
deserve to enjoy Mother's Day, even though I'm a mother now.
Signed - Having A Son
Must Not Make Me A Mother. Can Anyone Clue Me In On What Does?
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I am not ready to share
any of my MIL stories yet. But, I'd like to know if anyone has
ever felt guilty about their confrontations or dealings with their
MILs. I sometimes feel like I haven't tried hard enough, and that
I should respect MIL more. After all, most MILs are older and wiser.
These are some of the things being said to me by various people
(even DH sometimes).
Signed - Tortured, Yet
Torn
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( here is my story )
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I have been with my DH
for 8 years, and married for two years (we started dating at 19).
While dating, my MIL was generally polite, but she seemed to find
any opportunity to disrespect, and threw the following comments
to me, plus many more, "My son is a mama's-boy, and he knows
it." "Me and his sister will always be #1 in his life."
"His family is first, you're second." "You'll never
take my baby away,", etc., etc. So, over the years she would
make smart remarks, and DH did not stick up for me. I told him
that if I do it myself, I will be seen as evil. His excuse was
that he has a small family, does not like confrontation, and his
parents will not speak to him if he were to ever confront them about
the way MIL treats me. I can say that he is right. My BIL spoke
up for his wife, and they didn't speak to him for many years. Nonetheless,
I married him anyway because, of course, I love him. MIL continued
to look for any opportunity to throw rude comments at me, including
saying that I was "handicapped" because I haven't been
able to conceive a baby. Just recently, we had a gathering, and
at the time DH and I were in the middle of a spat. No one was aware
of our spat, but it was obvious that we were not lovey-dovey at
the moment. My MIL pulled me to the side, asked me what my problem
was, said that it made her feel unwelcome, said that she does not
act like a b!tch in her home when she has company, and said that
if anyone acted like I did in her home, she would tell them to leave.
I stuck up for myself in a polite, but firm manner and managed not
to tell her to scram. I told my DH about this incident. Last night
was the last straw. She called and told DH that she was going to
pick up an item that we had that she needed. My DH fell asleep
during that time, and when she arrived, she proceeded to honk for
15 minutes. I did not go outside, since I am used to adults ringing
my doorbell. She then called on her cell and asked me if I could
hear her honking. She told me what she came for. To avoid cursing
her out, I told my DH that she was rudely honking, and to go deal
with her. He did go outside, and finally told her that he will
not allow her to disrespect me. They discussed this issue for 45
minutes, and she told my DH that she had never liked me, and that
I was a spoiled b!tch. With that said, nothing has ever been handed
to me and I work for everything that I have, just like most people
in the world. My DH was in the house very upset, and said that
he had just lost his family, but he would never give me up for them.
I know how much they mean to him, but I also cannot deal with her
emotional abuse anymore. I am wondering how smart it would be to
go to her home, discuss our differences, and make peace with her.
Signed - Need Peace With
MIL
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