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Mother-In-Law Mall
A place to find great gifts!
and products related to mothers-in-law and other family members.
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Mother-In-Law Stories
August 2, 2004
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AUGUST
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Father's Day was approaching.
I asked DH what he was going to do for FIL. He said that
he planned to call him and wish him a happy Father's Day.
Not more than a day or two after that conversation, MIL got involved.
MIL made arrangements for all of us to meet for dinner.
They knew of this great place. I'm thinking, "What
business is it of hers to get involved in what DH does for FIL?"
Being that my DH never says no to them, we all met there.
It was one of the most expensive restaurants in town. We
ended up paying for everyone. We left the restaurant $100
dollars poorer. MIL got a free meal, which included appetizer
and dessert!! How egocentric must one be to invite themselves
at someone else's expense?
Signed - Can't Say
No and Stuck With The Bill
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Please Seek Counseling
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Continue on Message
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Worst gift: MIL has
been going on a lot of business trips out of town. BIL has a baby
with his girlfriend, and, of course, MIL's world revolves around
them. MIL has excluded me from the family from day one, since I
didn't "give her any grandbabies" before we were married
(and, now she tells me that I'm "too old" to have a healthy
baby - I'm 28). Anyway,MIL always brings back tons of gifts from
her business trips for DH, BIL, BIL's baby and especially BIL's
GF (including a $400 pair of boots!). She brought me ONE gift ONE
time - a bar of soap!!!
Signed - Dirty DIL
Per
the poster's request, no responses collected.
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My ILs live in the same
town as my parents, and are an hour away. They invite themselves
up to our place, which is ok. But, as my DH and FIL play golf,
they usually spend the whole day on the course, while I have MIL,
who now always comes (as we have a 10 month old son, her only grandchild).
MIL is nice enough, but we don't have that much in common.
She is quite old fashioned for her age (she's 51, I'm 24), and tends
to treat me as "the child", making comments to FIL about
what I've had to drink. "She's had 2 drinks!", which
irritates me, as she tends to exchange glances with him when they
are together. The thing that bugs me is that, when we go down
to our home town, we are never invited to stay, and always stay
at my parents. This suits me, as I feel more relaxed there,
and my parents have a cot, etc. But, they don't even invite
us for a meal while we are down, so we just end up popping in.
This is OK with me, and my DH never says anything. It's just
that, when they come here, I'm never consulted.
Signed - Maybe I Am Lucky?
RESPONSE: Maybe I Am Lucky?
If MIL and FIL come up again without consulting you, tell MIL, "I
hope you enjoy golfing with the boys. I'd love to stay and chat,
but I have to run."
RESPONSE: Maybe I Am Lucky?
Your problem is your DH, not your ILs. He needs to consult you
before his parents plan a visit. And, he should arrange things
so that you are not stuck alone with your MIL. He can plan for
you to all do things together as a family.
RESPONSE: Maybe I Am Lucky?
Next time they're in town, why don't you take your son with you
and go somewhere, on the premise that you've already made plans?
RESPONSE: Maybe I Am Lucky?
Tell MIL (in front of DH and FIL) that you actually had SIX drinks
- two in front of her and FOUR to brace for her visit.
RESPONSE: Maybe I Am Lucky?
Yes, you are lucky. Count your blessings. They don't put lots
of unreasonable demands on you.
RESPONSE: Maybe I Am Lucky?
Yes, you are very lucky that you are not obligated to visit with
your ILs when you visit your parents. And, you are blessed that
you don't have to stay overnight with them. I am sure that their
comments and glances when they come to your house is a bit annoying,
but ignore it and be grateful that you don't have to put up with
them often!
RESPONSE: Maybe I Am Lucky?
I am glad to hear that I am not the only one who gets treated like
a baby by their MIL. I had a similar experience with drinking.
We went out for dinner with my ILs right after I passed my graduate
school entrance exams (they're a big thing - most people go out
to celebrate with people in their program, but since my ILs decided
to come visit, I had to go out with them). To celebrate, I ordered
a long island ice tea (an alcohol mixed drink) before the meal.
My MIL had the nerve to hand me the bread basket and say, "Maybe
you shouldn't drink so fast. Here, have a roll. I wouldn't drink
any more until the meal comes." For goodness sakes! I was
24 at the time. Doesn't she think that I could make my own decisions?
I could write a book on the ways that she treats me like cr@p!
MIL Makes Me Feel Like Sh!t
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