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Mother-In-Law Mall
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Mother-In-Law Stories
August 13, 2004
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- HazardousBeauty, 1 of 4 needed
/Posted: 13-AUG-04
Recently, my BF made a deal with his mom that allowed
me to come to the house again (but not stay over night).
At first, everything was VERY uncomfortable. Nice as I was
to her, she barely said a word to me. With his dad and grandma,
it was as if nothing had happened. As I came around more
often, I felt a bit more at ease, and almost as if the situation
was behind us all now. I still felt some tension with BF's
mom, but I have accepted the fact that it will probably ALWAYS
be that way with her. I know that she doesn't like me (despite
what BF says), but I can live with that. However, last night,
BF and I were on the phone. He had to go, and asked me to
call him back in 10 minutes. I did. We spoke for a
few more minutes, and then he said that he would call me back
because his mom needed the phone. Well, he called me back,
but by the time I got to the phone, no one was there. So,
I called HIM back. He picked up, and I heard his mom in
the background saying, "Why is she calling every two minutes?
That is so ANNOYING!" I had not called every two minutes,
only twice in a span of 3 hours. He went on to try and explain
to her that he had tried to call me, and I was only calling him
back. I heard her say, "That is BULLSHIT! This
had better be the last time I hear this phone ring. It's
really annoying me!" This was at 8:30. If it
were later, I would understand, and wouldn't have called back.
I asked BF to tell her, "I apologize for bothering you."
Her indignant attitude never ceases to amaze me.
Signed - She's A Looney!
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Please Seek Counseling
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Continue on Message
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Worst gift: MIL is so
cheap. She always complains of having no money, but she smokes
2 packs every day, eats foie gras, and drinks burgundy wine very
frequently. When it comes to giving me and my children gifts, she
is too poor to afford anything decent. The gifts that we get are
trash. Every time I get a gift, I feel that she must have been
clearing up her basement and decided to give us what she was going
to throw away. These include old candles, plates broken from one
side, and a collection of tea cups with missing or broken cups or
saucers. She gets my children stuffed animals which are old and
look used. Even when we go to her place for food, she asks me indirectly
to bring something for the meal, usually expensive stuff like smoked
salmon, beef tenderloin, or an expensive bottle of wine. Sometimes,
she asks me to prepare certain time consuming desserts or dishes.
If I am healthy, and my kids are, too, then things are ok. But,
if we ask her a favor (to come and help us in any way), then she
suddenly acts sick. If she hears that we are going to an expensive
restaurant, she starts moaning to DH that we should take her with
us. But, if we go to an inexpensive restaurant, then she is busy
and dizzy and not feeling well. If we plan to go to a café,
then she is ready to come with us. But, if one of us is in the
hospital, she disappears and suddenly develops all kinds of illnesses.
Signed - MIL Is
So Cheap
Per
the poster's request, no responses collected.
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Of course, my MIL is
a controlling, manipulative, disapproving wench, which is why I
contribute here. But, the latest is this: Does anyone
have a MIL who constantly tries to turn their kids against them?
She came to watch our children not long ago (not a normality, as
I suspect her of foul play), and after being alone with them for
a few hours, my son got mad at me for something, and said, "I
like granny better than you. I'm going to live with her!"
Of course, I was shocked and hurt, but I also tallied it up to him
being 4 years old. A few weeks later, he revealed to me that
she was always asking him if he wanted to come live with her, and
then he said that he always wanted to live with me. What the
he!! is a grown woman asking a 4 year old if he wants to come live
with her instead of his own mother?!! I'm sure that she delights
in the whole thing. Any suggestions for retaliation, besides
telling her, "Don't be such a b!tch!!"?! Also, does
anyone think about divorcing their DH (even though there is a good
marriage there) simply because you can't stand your ILs? I
don't really believe in divorce as a way out (except for abuse and
infidelity), but I find myself wanting to get away from DH so that
I can get away from HER!! Is that letting her win to let go
of a good marriage?
Signed - I Want OUT!!
RESPONSE: I Want OUT!!
Any suggestions? For starters, don't leave her with your children.
She is not owed any sort of contact at all.
RESPONSE: I Want OUT!!
MIL does not see your children again - EVER. If DH has any problem
that, you do not have anything with him worth saving.
RESPONSE: I Want OUT!!
Yes, it would be giving up. What you need to do is dramatically
reduce your contact with MIL. If at all possible, move far away.
Get caller ID and stop taking her calls. And, do not leave her
alone with your children. The first step, of course, is to have
a *serious* discussion with your DH, and let him know that the status
quo is not acceptable. Tell him that you've been contemplating
divorce, not because you don't love him, but because you cannot
stand MIL's constant interference. Then take it from there.
RESPONSE: I Want OUT!!
Your MIL sounds like mine! ANY TIME that the grandchildren are:
Busy living their own innocent lives; not making her the #1 woman
in their lives; talking about DIL's family more than hers; generally
not living to please her schedule, and seeing where she can fit
into their activities, she thinks that they "don't love her".
Numerous guilt trips then ensue, "You spend more time with
your "other" family," or, "You don't see your
cousins enough (even if they are all older, due to all the divorce
and remarriage in the family - wonder why???)," etc. She goes
as far as to punish and reward "good behavior", based
on how much she gets to see them, with gifts and money. "This
year, you stuck up for your mother's side of the family, and spent
more time with them, so we will 'depersonalize' your gift by giving
you only a card and $$$." Now we are talking $$$$!! This
speaks volumes for that family! Don't cross her path by loving
the DIL's family or being too close to them. She couldn't even
raise sons who would stay married, let alone learn how to love without
condition! How about this one?? She secretly opened trust accounts
for my children, which the ILs contribute to. They told DH, but
only asked me for their social security numbers to do so!!! HMMMMM.
It sounds like we want to cause some serious divorce "ammo"
when the sh!t hits the fan, after daddy and the ILs get control!!!
Major problem here. I empathize. I could never potty train good
enough, work hard enough, or support my kids well enough, in any
capacity, without her constant put downs. She only puts me down
when she has beaten me to the floor and can do so with my DH's permission.
She LOVES defeating my efforts and I will never trust her because
she doesn't have my best interests at heart, let alone my kids'
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