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Mother-In-Law Mall
A place to find great gifts!
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Mother-In-Law Stories
August 17, 2004
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AUGUST
2004
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I have been dealing with my MIL
for going on 5 years now. The day that she met me she asked
what my intentions were toward her daughter. She drew an
instant dislike toward me, for some reason, the first time we
met. She has told her daughter that I am a control freak.
About a year ago, she developed breast cancer and subsequently
lost her job. She had tried to open a shop just before my
wife and I met. She poured all of her inheritance and social
security money into it. The shop failed, and she was unemployed.
So, she had no choice but to come live with my wife and me.
I have done everything that I can for the past five years to be
as kind and nice to her as I could be. She has been living
with us the whole time, and she has pretty much stayed in her
room. I took the time almost every day after work to talk
to her and spend some time with her. We never asked her
to pay rent or do anything with the bills. We just wanted
her to enjoy her retirement. I have told her how much I
enjoyed having her live with us. In the past month, my wife
and I got a house and have been moving all of MIL's stuff in.
She has been in poor health, and has been in and out of the hospital
during our move in. DW and I have taken every measure necessary
to get her stuff moved in and to arranged it for her. Since
this move has been going on, she has gotten back to being spiteful.
All of this blew up last night. When I got home, I needed
to finish up the computer room. That required returning
her computer to the den, which we have given her as sort of her
own living room. I walked in and told her that I was going
to put her TV and VCR on her TV stand for her, and move her computer
back in. When I started to do this, she had a hissy fit
about it. The evening ended with her telling me how I was
a control freak, and that I would not run her life like I ran
her daughter's. I tried to talk things out with her, but
she merely told me how inconsiderate of other people's feelings
I was, and proceeded to scream at me. Then, she ordered
me out of (HER) room, calling her DD and telling her how I was
going to cause her to go back to the hospital. After 5 years
of me apologizing every time she has one of her little moods,
I told my wife that I was no longer going to swallow my pride
and apologize to her. I no longer want to have anything
to do with her, but I can't have her leave the house, as she has
nowhere else to go.
Signed - Living With
A Demon
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Please Seek Counseling
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Continue on Message
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A while back, my MIL
and I had a huge argument. MIL didn't have a leg to stand on.
Of course, MIL waited until my DH was deployed before she verbally
assaulted me with nonsense. When I told her off, and made several
valid points, she swore never to speak with me again, which was
fine by me! A few months after my DH's return home, she apologized
and claimed that she wanted to have a relationship with me again.
This was fine, but I know MIL and kept as much distance between
us as possible. But, I was civil at all times. Not long after
that bunch o' cr@p, I went to visit her web page (which she had
always insisted that I look at) and found a photo that I had sent
of DH and me at his welcome home party. The only problem was that
I was cut out of the photo. When we confronted her about this issue,
she claimed that she had cut me out because her other DIL was not
in a photo anywhere on her web page and she didn't want DIL to feel
"left out". First off, it's not like it's science to
post a picture of other DIL on the page, and second, DIL doesn't
even have the internet, let alone a computer!
Signed - She's A Moron
Per
the poster's request, no responses collected.
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I just stumbled across
this site, and felt like commiserating with you all. My MIL
is extremely passive-aggressive. She has been the source of
many a fight between DH and me. Just a few of her shining
moments: At a family party, we were talking about DH, and
I mentioned how he always says that he used to be his mom's favorite.
My MIL laughed and said, "And then he got married."
At dinner one evening, she proceeded to ask everyone at the table
whether they wanted some bread, with the exclusion of me.
We have fabulous wedding memories - his mother and sister are scowling
in every picture, and his sister's bridesmaid's dress, that we paid
for, was all wrinkled because she shoved it in the back of her car
until the day of our wedding. His sister was being a *** the
whole day, and when my DH said something to his mother, she replied,
"Well, what do you expect? She is losing a brother."
MY mom said, "No she's not, she is gaining a sister."
And, I found out, a year later, that during our wedding, at the
head table, his sister was badmouthing me, calling me a gold-digger.
And, we heard that her mother told her that I made my DH pay for
the wedding, and we could've bought two BMWs for the amount that
we spent. Mind you, the wedding cost less than 5k, we both
paid for it, and I double my DH's salary and workweek! However,
MIL never speaks ill of me to DH or others, and, in fact, she dotes
on me when they are around, always telling my DH to give me a big
hug. Yet, when no one is looking, she always has a look of
disgust towards me. I constantly try to kiss her @ss, trying
to make her like me. Some things just aren't worth it in life.
Signed - The Supposed
"Gold-Digger"
RESPONSE: The Supposed "Gold-Digger"
Grow a spine, lady, and stop being an @Ss-kisser
RESPONSE: The Supposed "Gold-Digger"
Stop kissing her @Ss, and give her as good as you get! If you're
quiet about it, she has no reason to stop.
RESPONSE: The Supposed "Gold-Digger"
Why are you kissing up to her? She doesn't make the earth go 'round,
or the sun rise and set. Tell her to knock off the cr@p, and stop
seeing her so often!
RESPONSE: The Supposed "Gold-Digger"
Well, heck - stop kissing her @Ss It's not working. As a matter
of fact, it's making her respect you even less. What does your
DH have to say about all this?
RESPONSE: The Supposed "Gold-Digger"
Stop kissing her @Ss, and start standing up for yourself.
RESPONSE: The Supposed "Gold-Digger"
While I totally sympathize with you, I think that you need to rethink
your strategy in dealing with MIL. Would YOU like someone who constantly
kissed your @Ss, trying to get you to like them? I doubt it. Stop
kissing @Ss, Goldie. If MIL doesn't like you, it's her loss.
RESPONSE: The Supposed "Gold-Digger"
STOP KISSING HER @SS! Be nice to the bat and her daughter, but
for the love of all that is holy, stop kissing her @Ss She is never
going to like you and you need to stop giving her control.
RESPONSE: The Supposed "Gold-Digger"
Why are you kissing her @Ss? Why bother? It's not worth it. Do
you tell your DH about MIL? What does he say? Does he stand by
you, or does he stick up for her? Just ignore her. She isn't worth
worrying over.
RESPONSE: The Supposed "Gold-Digger"
Why are you trying so hard to make her like you? Her attitude reflects
poorly on her, not on you. You'll be more at peace once you accept
the fact that some people, including your DH's family, won't like
you no matter what you do. So, stop trying to please her, and just
get on with your own life. If you constantly find yourself needing
the approval of others, or if you're often drawn to people like
MIL who withhold their approval, you may need counseling or therapy
to help you with your own insecurities.
RESPONSE: The Supposed "Gold-Digger"
How I hate fake people, especially fake people who manage to screw
up someone's wedding. If you are still kissing your MIL's @Ss,
then please, stop. Obviously, she is NOT worth it, and neither
is your SIL. I think that you should confront them about what they
said and did, because you have a right to know what people are saying
about you and why. As far as I can tell, you have done nothing
to deserve this, so they deserve to be told off. Good luck.
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