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Mother-In-Law Mall
A place to find great gifts!
and products related to mothers-in-law and other family members.
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Mother-In-Law Stories
August 20, 2004
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Worst gift: On my last
birthday, my MIL gave me a perfume sample. It said "For
Demonstration Only" on it. I thought that it was pretty
cheap of her.
Signed - DIL
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Please Seek Counseling
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Continue on Message
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I had read many things
about wicked MILs, and I think that the worst thing they can do
is to make us so sick and tired of them that we search out a space
on the web to talk about them and hate them, and we lose time over
them. I think that I feel worse now, since she has captured all
of my attention (while I am here writing, and thinking about her).
She is just being herself, making others as miserable as she is
herself, without even noticing. Oh!! I feel so bad. I really
hope that one day I can just laugh about all this and have a day
without even thinking about how unhappy she makes me. Now that
I finally said it, I feel better. But, I still don't like her at
all. I feel sorry for her, because at least I'm still young and
I can learn from her - how not to be with my kids' spouses. But,
this lady needs a couple of prayers, because I am sure that she
is not going straight to heaven.
Signed - Bitter Because
of the ILs
Per
the poster's request, no responses collected.
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Worst gift: At my wedding
shower, in front of 50 ladies, my MIL gave us a card with a picture
of a gift that she had given us over a year prior as a housewarming
gift. The picture of the last gift was to remind us that she
had already given us a gift. Also, she had promised us a new
microwave, etc., but she gave us nothing. It shouldn't have
surprised us, since she backed out on helping pay for the shower,
and she did not give us the little money that she had promised us
towards the wedding. She has the money, so that was not the
issue. We weren't doing everything exactly as she would have
wanted, so she felt justified to renege at the last second.
The best gift that she did give us was silence, since DH and I haven't
seen her since the wedding!
Signed - Best Gift Was
Silence
RESPONSE: Best Gift Was Silence
How cheap. But YAY! She's leaving you alone now. Maybe there
really is a God out there.
RESPONSE: Best Gift Was Silence
No one owes you a gift, but there are occasions where a gift is
expected, showers and weddings included. Reminding you that she
gave you a gift before is just rude. She has given you a very nice
gift since your wedding.
RESPONSE: Best Gift Was Silence
Surely there's an upscale department store where you could ask to
take pictures of a fur coat, diamond jewelry, or other expensive
items. Mail these to MIL as Xmas, her birthday, or other holidays
occur.
RESPONSE: Best Gift Was Silence
MIL is not obligated to give presents or money for showers, weddings,
or anything else Her promising to do so and then reneging just
tells what a class act is she - NOT! Also, the trick of giving
you a picture of a past gift shows her true character. In the end,
she did give you something that a lot of DILs would envy.
RESPONSE: Best Gift Was Silence
There seem to be unspoken assumptions and expectations about money
on both sides: You assume that you've acquired some sort of rights
to her money, and she assumes that she can buy your cooperation.
You are both setting yourselves up for disappointment. You and
DH have already learned that it's best to rely on yourselves to
foot your own bills. Don't ask her for money again. If she offers
you any on her own initiative, you should politely decline. Whatever
other problems there are in your relationship, things will at least
be somewhat smoother if you leave money strictly out of the equation.
RESPONSE: Best Gift Was Silence
And the problem is? She gave you a gift prior to the shower, great.
She did not pay her part for the shower? Who says she should?
Is it not your maid of honor's duty to throw the shower? Why does
MIL have to pay for it? Also, regarding the wedding, why is she
on the hook to pay for that? If you want her cash, you should do
it her way.
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