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Mother-In-Law Mall
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Mother-In-Law Stories
August 28, 2004
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- sonotthedrama /Posted: 28-AUG-04
I was looking over my stories and realized that
I hadn't posted about the 2 things that really started me on the
war path with MIL. The first was New Year's Eve. At
this point, we had been living with MIL for 2 months. I
had not wanted to move in with her, but she pressured and pressured
us until we gave in. Up until this point, I thought that
things were ok. I knew that she complained behind my back
to DH that I was lazy, spent too much time on the computer, didn't
watch the kids well enough, etc. But, I just tried harder
to please her. On New Year's Eve, we decided to just spend
a quiet evening at home, as I was 8 months pregnant, and DH doesn't
really drink anyway. So, we were all sitting at home.
MIL and DH had had a few drinks, and then she asked DH to walk
with her to drop off the rent check to the apartment manager.
Silly me, I took that at face value, and didn't clue into the
fact that something was going on - even when it took them over
an hour to come back. When they came back, DH seemed a little
ticked off. But, since I hadn't done anything, I didn't
think anything of it. Then, my two year old DS broke a Christmas
ornament under the dining room table. MIL and DH cleaned
it up. I did not help because a) I was as big as a
house, it was hard to get down there and, b) How many adults
does it take to clean up an ornament?? DH started telling
me that I was lazy, and that I should have been watching DS more
carefully. I just ignored him and told him, "Whatever,"
because I didn't deserve any of his comments. He continued
to get irate. MIL was playing the martyr, "It's OK,
I'll clean it up, don't worry about it," in that sickly "put
upon poor me" voice that she has. Finally, DH got so
angry that we had a physical confrontation. My kids were
scared and crying, and MIL was just standing there watching her
handiwork. I grabbed my 2 kids and went to sit on the curb
while I figured out what I was going to do. MIL came out
to convince me not to go to the police (honestly, it hadn't even
crossed my mind, but the b!tch had to make sure that her baby
didn't get punished for what he did). So, I was sitting
in the cold, crying, with the kids and DH came out and asked me
to go for a walk with him. He said that he was sorry, and
that he wanted to talk it out with me. I put the kids inside
and went with him, grudgingly. I asked him why he got so
angry with me out of the blue like that. I told him, "Everything
was fine before you went on your walk with MIL. Then, you
came back and started a huge fight with me. Where did that
come from?" He told me that while they were "dropping
the rent check off", his mother spent an hour telling him
how "no good" I was. She said that I was going
to keep getting pregnant, and never work again. For the
record, I have worked full time during 3 years of our 5 year marriage.
She said that he should divorce me and get custody of the kids,
and she would live with them and help him raise my kids.
So, he spent the whole hour countering her, telling her that he
loves me, and that I'm not lazy, etc. Then, when they came
home and found the broken ornament, and I didn't help clean it
up, she used it to goad him. In the kitchen she was whispering
to him, "See what I mean? Look how lazy she is.
She's not even helping clean up. She should be watching
the kids better so that they don't get into stuff like this.
She's making you do all the work, and that's not fair. She's
dragging you down," etc., etc. So, that's what set
off his temper, her whispering and me being mouthy because I didn't
realize what was going on. Not to excuse his behavior one
bit, but had I known that MIL was egging him on, it wouldn't have
gotten as far as it did. BTW, she thinks that he could get
custody of the kids because she lost her DD in her divorce.
So, she thinks that in our state it's easier for a dad to get
custody. No, she was unfaithful and dating a violent drug
addict, and so she was refused supervised visitation. Of
course, she lost her DD!!!
Signed - She's Not
Getting My Kids, Either!!
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Please Seek Counseling
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Continue on Message
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Just had to vent. Just
had to vent. 123. Today was my MIL's birthday. She is super rich,
so shopping for her is extremely difficult. She lives in the next
town over. So far, everything that I've gotten her has not been
displayed in her home. I've found about 5 birthday gifts and 6
Xmas gifts in the cabinets. I shell out hard earned money and time
to get her some nice stuff. We live close to her, and we have 3
kids. I am a SAHM. I went the route of getting her flowers. So,
after spending an hour or so at the florist, picking out some really
nice flowers, I got the kids all excited that we were going to see
grandma and sing her the "Happy Birthday" song. We got
to the house, and no one was home. I thought that she was at church.
Her church has a retreat this week and she was involved in it.
I left the flowers on the steps, and left happy. DH came home for
lunch and I told him about the flowers. He called his mom at home,
and there was no answer. He left a voice message. He called mom
on the cell phone. She said that she was not in town, and that
she was visiting her daughter's family because her grandchild had
a birthday the next day. ARGGG. She has seven grandchildren.
My son, her last grandchild, had his 1st birthday was last week.
But she was off on a vacation with her favorite granddaughter in
the Bahamas! She forgot his birthday. I went to MIL's house and
picked up the flowers that the kids had picked out at the florist.
DH said, "Nice flowers, honey. You did great." I told
him, "She totally wasted my time." So, here I am looking
at some nice flowers, and the kids are a little confused as to why
grandma's flowers are at home right now.
Signed - DIL Down South
Per
the poster's request, no responses collected.
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This didn't happen to
me. It involves a woman whom I work with, who happens to be
the MIL. She also is the one who tells this story, like there
is nothing wrong with it. She pushed her son and DIL for a
baby, forever. They were very young, and they didn't want
kids yet. She went so far as to tell her DIL that she was
just an incubator, and that she should "put out or get out".
To top off this story, she wonders why, to this day, her son was
upset with her for saying this.
Signed - Thank God She
Is Not My MIL
RESPONSE: Thank God She Is Not My MIL
I would have put her in her place, related or not.
RESPONSE: Thank God She Is Not My MIL
That woman is such an idiot!
RESPONSE: Thank God She Is Not My MIL
I'd would have said something like, "Really? How was it being
an 'incubator' for your DS?!"
RESPONSE: Thank God She Is Not My MIL
Put out or get out? Isn't that the line high school boys use on
girls when they take them out for a drive? Something tells me that
MIL didn't come up with this kicky one-liner all by herself. She
probably was one of the ones who "put out".
RESPONSE: Thank God She Is Not My MIL
What's really amazing is that the MIL can't understand that she
did anything wrong. This is the attitude that most of the MILs
here have: Do what I want when I want it, because the world revolves
around me. Shame on that MIL for pressuring the couple. And double
shame on her for seeing no wrong in her actions. Of course, if
someone tried to boss MIL around, I'm sure that she would be very
upset!
RESPONSE: Thank God She Is Not My MIL
What a witch! If I had worked with someone who told me that, I
think I wouldn't have been able to bite my tongue. I would have
said, "Your DIL happens to be a human being, and your DS chose
her when he was stuck with you." It looks as if her DS has
a "pair", and was able to stand up to his mother.
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