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Mother-In-Law Mall
A place to find great gifts!
and products related to mothers-in-law and other family members.
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Mother-In-Law Stories
August 31, 2004
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I am about to marry a man whom
I have been dating for 4 years. He is very loving, and we
are perfect together. But, I am really scared and confused.
His mother is very controlling, dominating, and nagging.
Nothing I do is ever good enough. My flaws are always being
noted and openly discussed by his family. My DF tries to
ignore it, and tells me to ignore her. But I can't take
it anymore. After 4 years, she still hasn't accepted me.
I am scared to marry into his family. I suppose I should
marry him?
Signed - Scared and
Confused
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Please Seek Counseling
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Continue on Message
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Worst gift: Don't feel
too badly about the bad gift situation. For the entire length of
my marriage (20 years), my MIL has refused to send me even a card,
yet she showers the rest of the family (hubby, kids) with large
cash gifts. Luckily, my DH is on my side with this, and has even
asked her to at least acknowledge my birthday with a card. She
doesn't say anything, she just doesn't do it. I have never done
anything to my MIL, but she has criticized EVERYTHING that I have
done since the beginning of my marriage (parenting, housekeeping,
etc.). I was brought up to be polite and respect my elders, so
I don't say anything back to her (even though I want to!!!). However,
I WAS really happy when we moved about 1,500 miles away two years
ago. She still doesn't send me anything, but at least I don't have
her looking disapprovingly over my shoulder all the dang time!
Signed - Upset DIL
Per
the poster's request, no responses collected.
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My MIL is a huge pain
in the @ss. She enables her youngest son in his drug use and
just being an overall loser. Then, she gets mad at my DH and
me because we don't want our children around him. Most recently,
she did not speak to my DH for one week because of this. She
also has custody of my nephew, whom she dumps on us on a regular
basis to take my FIL to a doctor's appointment out of state.
She does not treat my children fairly, either. When my son
was 6 months old, he crawled over to her. Then, she looked
at him and walked away. I wanted to knock her @Ss to the floor.
Needless to say, she does not have a high opinion of me, because
I don't take her manipulations. If she doesn't speak to me,
I'm happy. She is nice to me when my BIL is not seeing someone,
but then she goes back to her usual self when he brings home the
newest girl. The only thing that we know about the recent
one is that she has little taste, she is living with him, and she
has two children, whom does not have custody of. I am supposed
to be excited about my children being exposed to these two.
I am so tired of her. Unfortunately, my DH will stand up to
her, then back down. I have had such negative experiences
with this family. I have considered writing my own book.
Signed - Tired Of The
Overbearing Manipulator
RESPONSE: Tired Of The Overbearing Manipulator
Tell DH that if he is unwilling to protect your children from his
family, you will protect them from him as well. It sounds harsh,
but your responsibility is to your children, not to each other,
or even yourself.
RESPONSE: Tired Of The Overbearing Manipulator
There's not much you can do, except keep yourself and your children
away from her and BIL. Don't watch your nephew. He's not your
kid. Don't answer the door or the phone. Get caller ID. If she
does manage to dump him on you, make sure that your DH is home,
then take the kids and yourself and go to a movie. Since he's not
supporting you, let him handle his nephew.
RESPONSE: Tired Of The Overbearing Manipulator
You are absolutely right to keep your children away from a drug
abuser, whether he's family or not. Her anger is a small price
to pay for protecting your children. As for your nephew, he's a
child, and therefore not to blame for the situation that he's been
placed in. I hope that you can find it in your heart to show him
some love, kindness, and normalcy when he's with you, because he's
probably not getting much of those from her.
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