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Mother-In-Law Mall
A place to find great gifts!
and products related to mothers-in-law and other family members.
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Mother-In-Law Stories
September 11, 2004
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AUGUST
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I've been with my DF now for over
5 years, engaged for 2. Last year, when we found out that
I was pregnant, we were so excited. My FMIL told us, "Yeah,
well, you would be excited," in a sarcastic tone. I
just shrugged it off because the woman has never been nice to
me, or even my DF, for that matter. However, she crossed
the line when she visited me in the hospital after I delivered.
After walking in and seeing the baby, she said right to my DF,
"He looks nothing like you!" I almost burst into
tears. Here we were at the happiest time of our lives, and
she ruined it. I couldn't even say a word, I was so stunned.
Then, she proceeded to sit down and start yelling at him to get
a real job. He makes more money than his father, and supports
our family perfectly. Needless to say, things haven't gotten
better since we've had the baby, but I really thought, for awhile,
that they would. Oh well, some people just can't be happy
for you no matter what.
Signed - Hurt As He!!
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Please Seek Counseling
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Continue on Message
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As the New Year opened
in 2004, the living arrangement was still "adjusting".
Although there were no less than 4 televisions in the house - living
room, kitchen, MIL's bedroom and basement, she complained that she
couldn't watch her own shows. Since I'm NOT an avid television
watcher by any means, this was comical, if not annoying. That means
that between DH and MIL - the TV watchers of the family, she couldn't
watch something on 1 of 4 televisions? She designated Saturday
as cleaning day. Since I was working part time, I was cleaning
on my days off, but she felt that she could do better. So, her
"cleaning" consisted of constant reorganizing of the kitchen
drawers. One week flatware was in this drawer, the next week it
was on the other side of the room. One week pots and pans were
here, the next week it was different. That went on for at least
5 weeks. Even my DH was starting to say, "Where in the *#$@
is everything this week?" We decided that family meetings
would iron some things out. The first one went so badly that we
didn't have another one. She was very excited when the idea was
first brought up. DH said that it was an opportunity to bring up
things that we were upset about. She had a laundry list of complaints
ready to go - and all about me. She immediately started hammering
about what I didn't get done cleaning-wise in a week's time. She
had suggestions on what I SHOULD be doing. Keep in mind that she
did work during the day, after which she then came home, ate dinner,
and sat on her butt watching TV til she fell asleep in front of
it or went to watch TV in her bedroom. When my DH suggested that
we take turns cleaning different areas of the house, she was totally
miffed at the suggestion. She felt that she didn't have to contribute.
When he then asked her about her clutter in the general living space,
she went ballistic screaming, "I thought this was about HER,"
pointing to me. I looked at DH as though to say, "What is
she talking about?" She then went on her usual rant about
how we shoved her into a postage stamp bedroom (as I explained in
my last post - she wanted that room), and that we have too much
stuff, and how she gets picked on. And, we actually took her on
a vacation.
Signed - Gypsy
Per
the poster's request, no responses collected.
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When I first met my DH,
the Olympics were being held in Salt Lake City. I always cheer
for Germany, since my parents come from there. My DH's family
comes from Italy. Well, the hockey scores were going across
the bottom of the screen, and I just mentioned "Look, honey,
Italy is beating some team." My MIL turned to me and
started SCREAMING at me, saying, " HE is not Italian, he is
American." Um, isn't his heritage from Italy??
She went on for a good 30 minutes that he isn't Italian, and should
only be cheering on America. Since then I haven't liked her.
Signed - I Am American,
Not Italian
RESPONSE: I Am American, Not Italian
I hope you laughed and laughed at the silly moo. Why not get some
uber-Italian decorations or T-shirts or something and really wind
up MIL?
RESPONSE: I Am American, Not Italian
She shouldn't have screamed at you. And, as long as Italy wasn't
beating the USA, I think that you were right to cheer for Italy.
Tell your MIL that, of course, the USA is your favorite team, but
your country heritage teams can be your second favorites. What's
the harm?
RESPONSE: I Am American, Not Italian
Not everyone thinks as you do. While people should be proud of
their ethnic background, they should be equally (or more) proud
of being Americans. Naturalized citizens are usually very patriotic.
I worked for a man who had come here from Italy as a child. While
proud of his Italian heritage, he dropped his affiliation with several
local Italian groups when a majority of the members began to refer
to themselves as "Italian-Americans". He would become
very angry if someone referred to him this way. If DH had expressed
interest in the Italian team, then being upset with your MIL might
be justified. But, it seems that you just assumed that he would
be interested.
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