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Mother-In-Law Mall
A place to find great gifts!
and products related to mothers-in-law and other family members.
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Mother-In-Law Stories
September 16, 2004
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- 20YRhitch /Posted: 16-SEP-04
My MIL is a narcissistic monster who has had 3
different plastic surgeries. She says, "I see,"
to everything, and has never given me any support as a DIL.
I sometimes think that it's because my DH is the black sheep (by
the way, he is normal and makes a great living for me and my 2
daughters). I don't understand how to get through to her
that she needs to make up with her son, and respect him and what
we have achieved. Now that she and FIL have moved into the
area and I have ticked them off permanently, DH will be not included
during the holiday gatherings of the lemmings. I can't write
her or call. She hangs up, erases my messages, and will
not read whatever we send her. You see, we were invited
to everything before BIL #2 came along, and now we are "out"
of the family.
Signed - 20YRhitch
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Please Seek Counseling
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Continue on Message
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I'm convinced that if
my MIL had a brain, she'd take it out and lose it! I've seldom
met a stupider person, and I've been putting up with her for over
30 years now. Here is a sterling example of what I have to endure:
A few years ago, DH and I were moving to a brand new home, and moving
day was naturally extremely hectic. The movers were carting out
furniture and boxes, family and friends were over trying to help,
I was attempting to be in six places at once to direct things, and
MIL was wandering around, getting in everyone's way. One of the
things that was still to be done was to clean out the refrigerator
and store all the remaining food and dairy products in a cooler
full of ice for transport to the new house. My 8 year old could
have done it, so I decided that it was a good project for MIL to
tackle. Things were finally winding down, and the moving truck
was about to leave. I had to go with them to direct them to the
new home in a neighboring town, but 95% of the work at the old house
was done, so I left with the movers, leaving my DH to supervise
the final clear out. I didn't find out until a day or so later
that MIL had managed to botch up her simple project. She'd put
everything into the cooler, except for a stick of margarine. She'd
apparently decided that it didn't need to go into the cooler. Instead,
she just tossed it into a box of dishes and didn't tell anyone.
I "found" it when I was unpacking - melted and covering
everything in that box!
Signed - Still steaming!
Per
the poster's request, no response necessary.
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- voodoochilde, 1 of 4 needed /Posted:
16-SEP-04
Now that I've had DD, my MIL is even more of a beast
than before. My DH only has one night a week off from work.
You guessed it - there she is every Saturday night, making sure
that our family has no time to establish itself as a tight unit
with three kids, instead of two. Now, she gets to intentionally
snub my boys from a previous relationship every single weekend,
as she coos and fawns over the new baby while leaving them unspoken
to and untouched. Tonight, my DH suggested that she take them
to a new children's movie that is opening on Friday night, just
to bond with the boys a little. She said, "Oh, I can't,
I have to work Saturday morning from 9 - 12." A two hour
movie is so going to effect her performance (3 hours of work) the
next morning? I broke in and said that I would take them to
the movie. She just loves to shoot down my older kids.
If the new baby had been a boy, she would have treated him the same
way. She hates males.
Signed - MIL Is A Beast
RESPONSE: MIL Is A Beast
Next Saturday, tell MIL to get lost. Keep doing it. If DH won't
do it, you must.
RESPONSE: MIL Is A Beast
And you let her hang out with you for what reason? If you don't
establish this boundary now, your lives will never be your own.
RESPONSE: MIL Is A Beast
Put a stop to her coming over so often. Twice a month is fine,
less if she can't learn to stop the favoritism. Tell DH that you're
not going to go through this silliness any longer.
RESPONSE: MIL Is A Beast
And you're allowing her into your home to hurt your children because????
Get your DH on board about her behavior, and then tell her that
she can't come to visit every week, period. As a matter of fact,
considering how she treats your two older children, *I* would tell
her that she can't come over at all unless she can treat all 3 the
same.
RESPONSE: MIL Is A Beast
Put a stop to this NOW. Tell her that you have 3 children, and
that unless they are treated equally, she cannot see any of them
- equally! However, the same will have to apply to your DS's GM
and GD if they are still on the scene.
RESPONSE: MIL Is A Beast
Why do you let her monopolize your Saturday night together? The
next time she comes waddling over on a Saturday night, don't answer
the door. If she's constantly rude and hateful to your older children,
why do you let her in at all???
RESPONSE: MIL Is A Beast
Stop allowing her to come over on your DH's only night off. Tell
her that you need family time. Then, do not open the door. Or,
better yet, go out and enjoy something as a family and do not tell
her about it.
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