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Mother-In-Law Mall
A place to find great gifts!
and products related to mothers-in-law and other family members.
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Mother-In-Law Stories
October 3, 2004
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SEPTEMBER
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Worst gift: The worst
gift that I have received from my MIL is her gift of visiting
us regularly. It is the gift that keeps on giving.
Boy, I sure do wish that I had the receipt so that I could return
her.
Signed - MY GIFT SUCKS,
I WANT A NEW ONE
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Please Seek Counseling
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Continue on Message
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When I had my first child,
my MIL came to the hospital when my DH wasn't there. My child had
just been placed in a humidicrib, and I was obviously quite upset.
She peered behind the curtain and said, "Evidently, you can't
have mobile phones in here, so can you come outside and ring my
sister, because she wants to talk to you." I replied, very
tearfully and angrily, "NO." She then said, "Ok,"
and just left. She didn't ask how any of us were. And, she wonders
why we don't see her much. Go figure!
Signed - Go Figure
Per
the poster's request, no responses collected.
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I have a huge list as
to why my MIL drives me crazy. My MIL was very upset when
she found out that I was pregnant. She told us how "shocked"
she was. We had already been married for 4 years! She
came over, and the first words she said to me were, "Well,
YOU look FAT already." I was only two months pregnant!
Mind you, I have always been naturally thin, and I was still wearing
my regular clothes. One time, my DH and I took my MIL to dinner.
She explained to the waiter that her son had moved out of town because
of a really good job opportunity, and that she always thought that
he'd move back some day. She ended by saying, "But, then
my son met HER" (meaning me). Hello. I have a name,
and I am his wife and the mother of his children. Another
time, I overheard my MIL call her BF and tell him how she was doing
EVERYTHING around the house, EVERYTHING! Which is such a huge
lie. I'm lucky if my MIL picks up her plate when she's done
eating. My MIL never offers to wash the dishes (or anything
else). Oops, wait, she did once. But, that was after
I had swept and mopped the floor and washed almost all the dishes.
And, when I was down to three dishes, that's when she offered.
My MIL visits three times a year, for a week each time! MY
MIL will complain about how she doesn't get to see her grandchildren
as much as she would like to. Then why does she complain about
reading my son a book? My MIL has a lot of time to spend with
our kids, but she would rather sit in front of the TV. She
rarely interacts with them. My MIL is not a fragile woman,
she's still very healthy and strong. Yet, she has never offered
to watch our kids (ages 7, 3 and 1) so that my DH and I could have
a date. Thank god for my mom and dad. They love to take
care of our children. When my MIL found out that we had a
cleaning lady, she was not too happy. She RAN to find my DH
to ask about the cleaning lady. Her words were, "Why
do you have a cleaning lady? Your wife doesn't work.
Why can't she clean? She's home all day." MY DH
immediately said, "My wife has too much to do already with
our children. That is why he hired a cleaning lady - to help
me." Lastly, my MIL actually gave out our phone number
to one of my DH's ex-girlfriends. She did not bother to tell
the ex that her son was already married with children. I could
go on and on, but I'm sure you all get the picture. I have
always tried to keep my MIL in touch as much as I can regarding
our family, especially our kids, since my MIL lives out of state
(thank god). But, I find myself distancing myself from her.
I don't trust her, and I'm tired of her rude remarks. I feel
that she has no respect for me, either. My DH asked me to
tolerate her when she visits, but I've decided that I can no longer
do this. From now on if she says or does anything that I feel
needs to be addressed, I will speak up. My DH knows this and
backs me up on my decision.
Signed - I Will Speak
Up
RESPONSE: I Will Speak Up
Good for you! You have obviously had enough. The next time she
says something, speak up! If she's in YOUR house, YOU have every
right to say something. If she continues her behavior, ask her
to leave. Again, it's YOUR house.
RESPONSE: I Will Speak Up
Good! You need to speak up from now on, but also have a plan for
how you're going to handle it if she doesn't like the change. If
she becomes hostile or belligerent, for example, what will you do?
Will DH back you up? If necessary, will you both insist that she
stay at a hotel? I've found that when you confront people like
your MIL, some will back down, but others will escalate. Don't
let her catch you off-guard, no matter what she does.
RESPONSE: I Will Speak Up
Oh, boy. If your DH supports you, that is a wonderful thing! Your
MIL sounds like mine. She's the type of person whom you have to
correct over and over and over. I'd try to put a stop to the week
long visits. I know that she lives out of state, but that's too
long when she's so meddlesome. Does she stay in a hotel? If not,
offer to make the reservations for her when she announces a visit.
It may seem rude, but I don't think so, given the circumstances.
Then, you wouldn't be stuck with her 24/7. Good luck.
RESPONSE: I Will Speak Up
OMG. Is your MIL my MIL's long lost twin? She did exactly the
same things as yours. She would try to tell me how to bring up
our kids, and how to clean my home. I've never had cleaning help,
but if I had, I'm sure that she would have complained about it.
When she was looking after our kids, in our house, she would start
cleaning if she found any dust anywhere. Later, she would complain
to me that she had spend all the time that she was there cleaning
my home. "Hello! I don't remember asking you to clean my
house." She once said to me, when we were moving to a new
home, " DIL, now that you have a new home, try to keep it clean,
as it's your home." Exactly, it's MY HOME, NOT YOURS. And
how I run it is none of your business." Don't get me wrong,
my home is by no means dirty. But MIL suffers from OCD, I think.
I would speak your mind if your MIL complains or makes any rude
comments to you. I did, and as a result I no longer have anything
to do with her. She did not like anyone standing up to her like
I did. What your MIL did with your DH's ex girlfriend is also a
horrible thing to do. She was trying to wreck your marriage. Fortunately
for me, I was my DH's first and only GF. But if I wasn't, I'm sure
that she would have tried to pull that stunt on me as well. Good
luck, and try to keep her at arm's length.
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