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Mother-In-Law Mall
A place to find great gifts!
and products related to mothers-in-law and other family members.
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Mother-In-Law Stories
October 11, 2004
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Worst gift: My DH's
brothers all have children who are in their teens. Since
they were born, DH has customarily given gifts worth $50++ for
Christmas and birthdays to all his nieces and nephews. DH
and I had our first child last year. None of his brothers
have sent a gift, or even a card!!!! His mom has sent a
few things. One was a box of yard sale clothes, some with
stains or holes. Now, I have nothing against used clothes,
but these were sized 6. Am I supposed to store this box
of stained, holed clothes for the next 6 years until they fit
Ds????
Signed - No Longer
Buying Gifts For The In-laws
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Please Seek Counseling
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Continue on Message
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My FIL is the sort who,
for every one minute that he does the least bit of charitable work,
will spend one day whole day talking about it. There is no end
to his bragging about his accomplishments, whether they're noteworthy
or not. He also tends to recycle lectures about his views; conversations
with him are more like sitting in a class. On to my story. My
DH and I were recently burglarized. Among the stolen items were
some heirlooms - bits of jewelry passed down by the women in my
family. None of it was very expensive, but each had a great deal
of sentimental value. I was heartbroken, not only because they
had been entrusted to me, but because I hoped to pass them down
to future generations, too. We took our time telling the ILs because
we knew that MIL, especially, would freak out. And, she did. But,
FIL's reaction was far more upsetting. He said, "You should
be glad that you lost that stuff. People shouldn't have too many
things. You should be like me! I don't have anything that anyone
would want to steal, and I'm really happy. Poor people are happier.
You're better off." Maybe he was trying to make me feel better,
but the lack of sympathy was astounding.
Signed - No End To His
Bragging
Per
the poster's request, no responses collected.
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My MIL is basically fond
of her DD, her SIL, and their DD. The 3 members (3M) have
been eating at my place since I was married. Due to my filial
piety, I invited my MIL and FIL stay with us. I ended up being
a maid, bearing the obligation of taking care of their daily dinner,
laundry and school activities, even though they have a PT maid and
a PT baby-sitter. I cannot stand my MIL. She always
verbally compares her favorite 3M with me. She also imitates
many of the things that we do (getting the same car and making the
same investments). I have a phobia about them living nearby
because they can trouble us with anything, so long as it helps to
save them money. I want them to leave me alone. Their
inconsiderate behavior has severely affected my marriage and the
relationship with them.
Signed - Leave Me Alone
RESPONSE: Leave Me Alone
You're only a door mat if you let yourself be one. Kick em out.
RESPONSE: Leave Me Alone
You have created this mess by asking them to stay with you. You
can fix it by making them leave.
RESPONSE: Leave Me Alone
It's your own fault. Why are you serving to these people? Stop!
And move away, if you have to.
RESPONSE: Leave Me Alone
Stop being available to them. I hope they are not still eating
at your home. Don't tell them what kind of car you drive, or what
sort of investments you are making. That's not really their business,
irrespective of the demands of "filial piety"
RESPONSE: Leave Me Alone
You've written "Welcome" on your forehead, and you wonder
why they're only too happy to step on your face. Get a backbone
and tell these freeloaders that the gravy train has been disbanded!
RESPONSE: Leave Me Alone
Two thoughts: First, where is your DH? Why is he allowing his
family to take advantage of you? If he isn't standing up for you,
then he's the real problem, not your MIL. Second, don't ever volunteer
to do anything for your MIL or the 3Ms again. Filial piety doesn't
require that you allow yourself to be used as a servant or treated
with disrespect. Maybe you need some help from a counselor or your
pastor/rabbi/spiritual advisor to help you learn to stand up for
yourself.
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