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Mother-In-Law Mall
A place to find great gifts!
and products related to mothers-in-law and other family members.
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Mother-In-Law Stories
October 13, 2004
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SEPTEMBER
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Worst gift: I got a
sweater from my MIL that was purchased from a store that was going
out of business. The final markdown price was $ 12, and
there were black wheel marks (from the cart) across the back of
it.
Signed - A Sweater
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Please Seek Counseling
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Continue on Message
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My SIL lost her DH about
3 months ago to cancer. She moved back in with MIL and SFIL because
she was devastated by the loss of the love of her life. It turns
out that less than a month after her DH died, she went and spent
2 weeks with her ex-DH, whom she supposedly hated with a passion.
But, no one thinks that it is strange, except for my DH and me.
Hmmmmmmmmmmmm.
Signed - They're All
Loony Toons!
Per
the poster's request, no responses collected.
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Right now I live with
my MIL, unfortunately. My DH just lost his job. MIL
and I have always had problems. When we first moved in, I
was pregnant and exhausted from taking care of my two year old.
So, when I wasn't busy, I was resting. My MIL has four kids
who are total slobs and NEVER clean up after themselves. They
can't even rinse off their dirty dishes. She was constantly
complaining about me not cleaning or cooking. But, whenever
I dirtied something, it would be picked up, cleaned, dried, and
put away. When I had the baby, I started helping out; cleaning
the house, and helping her with dinner. This woman practically
stands around waiting for her kids or her DH to need something (more
water, or more food on their plates), and will jump up and get it
for them. She waits on them hand and foot. They all
come in and sit down at the table, and she serves each one of them
their food. Her kids are 11, 13, 15, and 17. ALL of
them are allowed to go wherever they want, whenever they want, without
telling anyone. They all cuss profusely, straight to their
mother's face, and MIL doesn't bat an eye. They have taught
my 2 year old to say the "b" word and how to flip people
off. About 3 weeks ago, I got my baby circumcised. MIL
thinks that I don't understand her language, and I overheard her
telling FIL and friends what a stupid b!tch I am for having it done.
Since I had the baby, I have been helping out a lot more, thinking
that maybe this would make her like me. No such luck.
She is about 45 pounds overweight, and tries to dress like a teenager.
She shops in the juniors department. She does have very cute
clothes, but they're clothes that I would wear, and I'm 20.
My mother thinks that MIL hates me so much because I'm young, pretty,
and never got fat after giving birth twice. I have tried so
hard to get this woman to like me, and I have cried many times to
my DH about it. He says that it's because we live together,
and that things will change when we move. But, as far as I
am concerned, I don't want things to change when we move.
If she expects to treat me like cr@p while I live with her, and
then have everything be great when we move, she's got another thing
coming to her. When I move, that is when I will quit trying
and caring. She will not be allowed near my children, unless
I am present. I feel that she is a danger to them. When
DS was 1, MIL was watching him when he got out of the yard and almost
walked onto an extremely busy street. Thank god he stayed
on the sidewalk. She NEVER puts his car seat in right.
I have showed her at least 20 times, and she still can't figure
it out. If I let her, she wouldn't even use the car seat.
I have seen her feed him a little bit of soup with nearly a bowl
full of sour cream. She is constantly asking to take him out
of the country over major holidays, like Christmas. She even
thought that I was being unfair by not letting her take him to get
his first haircut. She leaves food sitting out all night,
and will still give it to her kids the next day. She doesn't
refrigerate eggs. She leaves chicken or tuna salad out for
hours and hours, and still lets her family eat it, even though I
have told her that it will go bad. I am scared to leave her
alone with my children. I think that she is racist.
She is practically obsessed with DS#1, who is very is identical
to his father (including his skin tone). She ignores DS#2,
who looks like me and has my skin tone. Am I overreacting??
Any advice would be appreciated.
Signed - MIL Is Ruining
My Life
RESPONSE: MIL Is Ruining My Life
Take your kids and your DH and move in with your mother. I don't
understand why you have to live with MIL.
RESPONSE: MIL Is Ruining My Life
Advice? Move, even if it means that the four of you (you, DH and
the kids) have to live in a studio apartment.
RESPONSE: MIL Is Ruining My Life
You need to move out, and far away, ASAP! Don't leave her alone
with your kids. What else does your DH say? Does he stand up for
you, or does he side with his mother? When is he planning on moving?
RESPONSE: MIL Is Ruining My Life
1. Forget about getting her to like you. Her loss. Just try to
maintain a civil relationship for your DH. 2. YOU are your children's
first, best, and loudest advocate. If you fear for their safety
with MIL, don't let her watch them alone. You don't have to justify
your concerns to ANYONE else. You are their mother.
RESPONSE: MIL Is Ruining My Life
I think that the bigger problem here is that you're a 20 years old,
with two babies. That's no kind of life. Maybe your MIL recognizes
that, and thinks less of you. I would if I was a mom, and my son
was a father of two kids that young. Okay, she has kids at home,
you, a two year old, AND a new baby? No offense, but she probably
is stressed out and smothered. I would just sit down with her and
talk things out. Maybe treat her to something nice. Offer to give
her a massage. Anything. On the side, no more kids, okay? You'll
have so much more time for yourself, and you'll be able to enjoy
your twenties if you don't have that kind of pressure on you. You're
only young once!
RESPONSE: MIL Is Ruining My Life
Sorry if this is harsh, but do you have any brains in your head?!?!?
Your MIL will not put your son's car seat in right, meaning that
she is putting his life in danger, and you still let her take him
places? Why?!?! They're teaching your son to swear and flip people
off. Why are you still living there?!?!?! If anybody tried that
with my son, I would be gone, and they would never see my child
again! I know that your DH lost his job, but there has to be somewhere
else that you can go; a friend's house, your family's house, etc.
Heck, a shelter would be better than living with those jerks!
RESPONSE: MIL Is Ruining My Life
I am also married to a guy whose mother also dresses like she's
19, and she's fat, too. I think it looks ridiculous. She's very
nosy, and is always in our business. She thinks that I don't know
how to clean or cook, but she also doesn't think that Americans
know how to do anything right. If I were you, I would get out of
there as fast as you can, because she'll probably never accept you.
Just try to ignore her rudeness, and never leave your kid alone
with her. Be nice while you live with her, and when you move out,
get even.
RESPONSE: MIL Is Ruining My Life
My advice, of course, is to move out. I know that may seem financially
impossible, and that leads me to the tough love part. This is a
good reason not to have two kids by the time you're 20. I say this
not to beat you up for past mistakes, but as a warning to other
young women who may be reading this. I'm sure it can't be easy
for your DH to find a job. It's tough all over right now. But,
the best thing you can do for your family and yourself is move out
of her house as soon as possible.
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