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Mother-In-Law Mall
A place to find great gifts!
and products related to mothers-in-law and other family members.
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Mother-In-Law Stories
October 20, 2004
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SEPTEMBER
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Worst gift: When DH
and I got married 12 years ago, my MIL was not thrilled that her
first born was getting married. The divorced woman said,
"You are not supposed to get married until I get remarried.
Her bridal shower gift to me was a box of cereal. Nothing
else, just a box of fruit flavored, sugar coated Os. The
gifts haven't been too keen since then, but that tops them all.
P.S. She still hasn't gotten remarried!
Signed - Tarragon
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Please Seek Counseling
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Continue on Message
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My FMIL is a horrible
old witch. I am getting married in two months, and she is not happy
about it. The story goes that my DF is her only adopted son, and
she has always been very possessive. For example, she told my DF
that he was abnormal for wanting to contact his birth mother. Her
M.O. is this: Whenever she doesn't get her way, she just likes
to make people unhappy. We have been dating for 5 years, and she
has gone out of her way to exclude me from her "family".
It has only been since we announced our engagement that she has
included me in family gatherings!! In fact, 2 weeks before my DF
proposed, she uninvited me to a family gathering. An aunt had invited
me to dinner, but FMIL called her up, without telling me or her
son, and said that it wasn't necessary to invite me!! She knows
nothing about me. She just found out what my parents' names are
last month, due to wedding invitations! This is pathetic, considering
that my DF lives at home, and I see them every day. She loved to
pretend that I didn't exist. But, now with the wedding, she is
pretending that we are the best of friends (yick!). To make things
worse, we confronted her about her behavior, and she denied everything!!
She loves to manipulate people. She tried to refuse to fund our
wedding because she didn't get to pick the date!! She also wanted
to return the engagement ring that I got because she thought that
it was too expensive for me to have!! She actually told me, to
my face, that she thought that I wasn't good enough for her son!!
Being the type of person that I am, I just shrugged it off. But,
with the stress of the wedding, it is getting harder to let these
thing roll off my back. Essentially, we fight every day. We are
planning to cut her out of our lives after the wedding, because
we do not need the stress that she brings to our lives. And, kids?
I have seen what these sick women have said to children. I would
never stand for that!! She actually started telling everyone that
my parents were poor (she didn't even know their names!!!) just
because they recently moved. I simply told her that if she talked
about my parents again, we would have a problem. So, she went back
to just harassing me. She just makes me sick! I actually have
a countdown to the day that I will never have to see her again.
Thank you for letting me vent!!!
Signed - Counting Down
the Days
Per
the poster's request, no responses collected.
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My SIL and I believe
that my MIL is cheating on our FIL. There have been many clues
to lead us to this assumption. One clue is that she hides
the cell phone bill whenever it comes in the mail. She knows
the exact date that it is supposed to arrive. Number two is
that she always has her phone turned off when our FIL or relatives
are around. By accident, she left her phone on once.
We were all in the kitchen talking. All of a sudden, her phone
rang. She looked at it and clicked it off. It rang again.
Again , she looked at it and clicked it off. She kept on talking
to us, like nothing ever happened. Our FIL didn't even ask;
that's odd too, like he knew, but didn't want to know. Number
three, her phone rang another time. My DH went over to get
it, and she said, "That's ok." It stopped ringing,
and DH said, "You can find out who it is by going to the call
history." She said, "I don't care. It was
probably the wrong number anyway. I get that a lot."
On a cell phone? Come on. There was another time when
I was driving around and I saw her in her vehicle. She was
parked out in front of someone's house. I know that it was
her because her vehicle has a dent in the front, and I saw her inside.
I didn't see her face, but I saw her puffy hair and what she was
wearing. When I went to the house, I saw her in the same outfit.
Later that night, I asked her, "Were you parked on a side road
in town?" Immediately she said, "No," and threw
off around four excuses. If someone thought that they had
seen me, I would have said, "Where and when?" And
I would have asked some questions, you know. My SIL and I
want to find out for sure and catch her in the act, or have her
sons catch her in the act. We made her account for the cell
phone bill online because it is part of my DH's cell phone bill
(she wanted to get it for him and pay the bill for him). We
made the account so that we could find out the numbers that she
was calling, and we did the reverse phone number lookup on line
to see whose number it was. It came up with the same guy's
number, and it just so happened to be located at the house where
she was parked out front when I saw her months earlier. My
DH says that he doesn't want to hear it because he doesn't want
to know. He thinks that it will drive his father to drink
more than he already does now. I think that FIL drinks as
much as he does now because he already knows. My ILs have
been married for about 27 years. DH and BIL think that it
has been going on since they were younger. What are we supposed
to do, just let her do this and ruin our lives in the long run?
It does effect our lives. It bothered me before I was married,
now it bothers me more, since I am part of the family now.
I need some help. I need some suggestions as to what anyone
of us should do, or not do. She flirts with all the guys,
she knows all the guys. Oh, yeah, and there is a guy down
at the garage who my SIL talks to. He has known my MIL since
elementary school. He has told my SIL that our MIL has gone
a lot further than just the flirting.. He has seen things,
and some day it is going to come out. What are we supposed
to do?
Signed - Helpless
RESPONSE: Helpless
Why don't you mind your own business? Are you obsessed with everyone
else because you need a hobby or something? I wish someone would
spy on your mom and see how you like it!!
RESPONSE: Helpless
Mind your own business.
RESPONSE: Helpless
It is none of your business. Repeat: Your MIL is a grown woman,
and her affair is NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. It is your FIL's business,
NOT your SIL's, not your DH's. He has the right idea. If your
FIL wants to do something about it, he will. If you feel bad for
your FIL, do nice things for him, but don't play morality police.
It really is inappropriate. Don't like affairs? Then don't have
one. Really, it is none of your business.
RESPONSE: Helpless
Well, technically, it's none of your business. And, you're going
to drive yourself crazy obsessing about it. If I were you, I'd
turn my back on the whole situation, and just content yourself with
knowing that your MIL is, well, a slut. Ignore her.
RESPONSE: Helpless
Sit back and wait for MIL to trip herself up. I know the temptation
is there for y'all to see her caught, but don't get involved. MIL
will hang herself, eventually. In the meantime, you can start limiting
the contact that you have with MIL on this basis, especially if
you have kids. Think of her as a bad influence, which, of course,
she is.
RESPONSE: Helpless
Butt out. This is NONE of your business. How would you like it
if your MIL stuck her nose into your personal business? You can
confront her and tell her that you know about her visits and phone
calls, but really, what good will it do? FIL either doesn't know
or doesn't care. Has it occurred to you that FIL may condone it?
Maybe they have an open marriage. You would not know that, because,
as I said before, it's none of your business!
RESPONSE: Helpless
You are supposed to keep your mouth shut. Obviously, this has been
going on for so long that all parties involved are used to the situation.
Your ILs are adults; if they choose this way to lead their lives
(I think you're right, your FIL knows, which is driving him to drink),
it is none of your business.
RESPONSE: Helpless
What are you doing??? Leave it alone! This is none of your business.
Even your DH has told you that he doesn't want to know. You need
to butt out and get a life.
RESPONSE: Helpless
Tell your MIL what you have discovered, and tell her that you will
go to FIL. Give her the chance to tell him, or you will. Unfortunately,
they will both likely kill the messenger. If your SIL is a blood
relative of your MIL and she wants to tell, let her. They will
let her back into the family more easily than they will let you.
Your MIL should have to take on this burden, but don't you get too
involved. You need to be there for your FIL. This is probably
going to be an extremely embarrassing and hurtful situation for
him.
RESPONSE: Helpless
Both you and your SIL should keep your noses out of your PIL's business.
If FIL knows something, it is up to him to deal with it. If your
DH and BIL know that something is going on, it is up to them how
they deal with the situation. The only people who are going to
ruin all the family's lives are you and SIL. Your PIL's private
affairs should not affect your life unless it has a negative effect
on DH, in which case he needs to decide to either confront his mother,
or seek counseling on how to deal with it. I sense that you quite
like the idea of being the one to either "rescue the family"
or prove that your MIL was the downfall of the family, because you
are going to an awful lot of effort to try and "catch her out".
That will make you the ultimate loser, because everyone will feel
that you went out of your way to destroy the family. Maybe you
and DH would be happier together if the time and effort you took
in trying to "out" your MIL was invested in your own relationship
with your DH, and then you would not feel the need to right the
wrongs in other people's relationships. Good luck.
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