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Mother-In-Law Mall
A place to find great gifts!
and products related to mothers-in-law and other family members.
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Mother-In-Law Stories
October 23, 2004
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SEPTEMBER
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I was about 7 months pregnant when
my MIL came to live with my DH and me. We were doing this
out of pity for her losing her job. Well, to my dismay,
this woman proceeded to rearrange my house to make room for her
things. Not only did I come home to find all of MY things
packed and placed in the closet, but she had put her tacky things
in their places. All this began to take place not even one
hour after she moved in with us. It would have been different
if she had of asked, but no, she did not. After I complained
to my DH, he kindly told her that she needed to ask for my permission
before doing anything else. She proceeded to tell him that
she wasn't going to ask permission from me, because I wasn't her
mother. I busted into the room at that time and told her
that it was my house, not hers, and that it was MY things that
were going to decorate it. Needless to say, things got a
whole lot worse. About 2 months after all this, she got
into the habit of packing and unpacking her things, as if to tell
us that she wanted to leave. My DH had made it quite clear
that if she did it one more time, she was going to leave.
I awoke to find that, not only had she packed her things, but
she had packed all of MY things as well! I also found out
that she was planning to tell my DH that I was pregnant by someone
else, so that he would kick me to the curb! My DH and I
found this out and confronted her. I was furious that she
calmly admitted to it. Her answer, "I am the only woman
good enough to be in my son's life." Needless to say,
my DH promptly kicked her out, and told her that if she was the
only one for him, how come she was never there? And, he
told her that I was the only woman for him! We are still
together 5 years later, with a beautiful DD. My MIL is still
trying to prove her point, but, thankfully, it is from 5 states
away.
Signed - She Still
Won't Quit
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Please Seek Counseling
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Continue on Message
Board
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My MIL has never, in
the almost 25 years that I've been married to her son, acknowledged
me as a person. When she calls, she asks how her son and our sons
are, but she has never, not even once, asked about me. She invites
me to the faaamily cr@!ptaculars only because I'm expected to bring
the desserts. She finds excuses to try to get her son to come visit
her without my being there. I'm sure that she'd rather I didn't
exist at all. Everyone else gets birthday cards specific to them:
"Happy Birthday, Son", etc., which arrive on time. Oh,
I get one, because she knows that if I didn't, I'd mention it to
DH. But, it's always generic, and always a few days late. When
this happens, year after year after year, it's not an accident.
Yes, she knows when my birthday is; she even makes a point of mentioning
it to me a couple of days before so that I know she knows. DH is
just completely fed up with her, and ignores her as much as possible,
but she is persistent and annoying. DH completely tunes out her
blathering about people whom we don't know and don't care to ever
know, about the antics of her cat, the problems with her neighbor,
etc., etc., and the stories that she repeats over and over again.
But, it's enough to make me scream! My favorites are the stories
that she tells about her sister's problem with memory, how she constantly
repeats things, and how pathetic it is that she's "losing it".
She isn't the only one who's losing it, MIL!
Signed - Been There
Per
the poster's request, no responses collected.
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For our wedding, my MIL
bought me one place setting of dishes. Then, she decided that
my SIL was being left out by not receiving any wedding presents
on my wedding day, even though she was married four years before
us (and she received plenty of presents for her wedding).
So, she bought my SIL eight place settings of new dishes.
She could have given them to her for Christmas or something.
But, to buy a bigger present for your current DIL on your FDIL's
wedding day is a bit out there. Am I being selfish?
Signed - Fed up!
RESPONSE: Fed up!
I think that just shows you where MIL's priorities are.
RESPONSE: Fed up!
No, you're not being foolish. Your MIL did make herself look ridiculous,
though.
RESPONSE: Fed up!
Obviously, MIL can give gifts to anyone she wants at any time.
But this indicates the true feelings that she has for you, AND HER
SON.
RESPONSE: Fed up!
No, you're not being selfish. You're flabbergasted that SIL had
to be placated on YOUR big day! Keep an eye on MIL, as she will
continue to play you and SIL off one another, to create problems.
RESPONSE: Fed up!
Did MIL come out and say that that was the reason she bought the
dishes for the other DIL? It could be that she was reminded of
"dishes" when she purchased yours, and was just trying
to complete or fill out the other set. Or maybe she knew they had
actual need for them.
RESPONSE: Fed up!
I don't know if you're being selfish, but your MIL's behavior was
a bit odd. When my brother got married, I did not expect my mom
or anyone else to give me a gift. When (if) you have kids, is she
going to give SIL gifts, also? Who is your MIL trying to make happy,
herself or your SIL? If it is herself, let it go, and realize that
there are worse things. If it is your SIL, you've got some big
issues coming your way.
RESPONSE: Fed up!
I don't think that you're being selfish at all. That's one of the
most ridiculous things I've ever heard. Sure, my mom bought me
a present on my brother's birthday so that I wouldn't feel left
out, but that stopped when I was 11 or so. And, I assume that this
woman is somewhat older than that.
RESPONSE: Fed up!
You are not being selfish at all. Your MIL is sick in the head.
Who gives your SIL a gift on your wedding day?! Your wedding day
is YOUR day, not SIL's! She's already married, her time came and
went. MIL is just being a nasty witch.
RESPONSE: Fed up!
No, you are not selfish. When you get married, that time is about
you and your special guy. If this would have been my MIL, I would
have broken one of those precious dishes over her head.
RESPONSE: Fed up!
I would say that this is something that you should remember for
future events. Buy her something small for her birthday, but mention
that you felt that your mother was being left out, so you bought
her something (mention a larger, nicer gift)
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