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Mother-In-Law Mall
A place to find great gifts!
and products related to mothers-in-law and other family members.
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Mother-In-Law Stories
November 2, 2004
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Frequent
Fry Her
TM - FMIL OK, FGMIL
NUTS, 1 of 4 needed
/Posted: 2-NOV-04
Here are some things that FGMIL has actually done
in my presence. These are not just stories that I've been
told. The first time that I met her, BF introduced us.
I reached out to shake hands and say, "Pleased to meet you."
She grabbed my left hand and said in a high-pitched, accusing
voice, "Where's your ring?" BF and I had been
together for three months at this point. If we go out to
dinner as a faaamily, we generally go to a Chinese restaurant
that has a buffet. Often, these restaurants will have some
figurines near the door to bring in good luck, customers, and
money. Generally there's a Bhudda and a smiling cat.
On the way in and on the way out, generally in front of the restaurant
hostess, FGMIL: 1. Imitates the posture/expression
of the cat, and starts laughing really loudly. 2.
Says, "Oh look, there's Bubba! Isn't he funny looking!"
and keeps laughing loudly and carrying on. FGMIL isn't happy
because of the skin color of the woman whom her nephew is dating.
Nephew's GF recently became pregnant. FGMIL said, "I
want to punch her in the belly!" She didn't look like
she was joking.
Signed - Glad She's
Not *My* MIL!
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Please Seek Counseling
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Continue on Message
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My ILs forget to close
windows when it rains. Need I say more?
Signed - Putting Up With
Silly Geese
Per
the poster's request, no responses collected.
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I am a 25 year old female
who has been dating someone for 5 months. I really enjoy being
with this person, and I like him a lot. Although, I do have
a lot of issues that I need to resolve with him. We first
started dating after his divorce in May. I might need to let
you know that he was married when he was 19 and divorced when he
was 22 (he is 22 now). When we first started dating, he lived
on his own. One day, he decided that he wanted to move home.
He said that he would like to start building a house of his own.
Since he has moved back home, I have noticed that whenever I come
around, he is always asking his mother to go places with us.
Also, when we go to the grocery store or shopping center, he pays
for her stuff 99% of the time. I understand that he is being
a good son, and loves his mom, but I do not think that it is his
responsibility to always pay. I understand that he is living
under her roof, but there is another sibling in the picture who
never pays for anything, and it really bothers me that this happens.
I even took her out to eat and paid for it, but I did not get a
thank you. I just got her a gift certificate for her birthday,
and she said, "It will do." That really hurt my
feelings, and I feel that I am expecting a lot out of him.
We went from not spending any time with her, to spending all of
our time with her. It is not the fact that I dislike her in
any way, but I was raised differently, and was not expected to pay
for everything that my mom bought for herself. This is a very
harsh subject to discuss, and I do not know how to approach it.
Please, I need advice!
Signed - Frustrated
RESPONSE: Frustrated
Don't bother discussing this with BF. Run, run now! Get out of
this relationship while you still can!
RESPONSE: Frustrated
You need to discuss this with your BF, and ask why he treats his
mom like this. See if he is open to discussion. If not, that is
a red flag. If it's bothering you now, it won't get better if you
get married.
RESPONSE: Frustrated
I'd ask him to spend time with you, alone. See how he reacts.
Maybe he's not ready to let go of mama. Was this an issue with
the breakup of his first marriage?
RESPONSE: Frustrated
RUN FOR YOUR LIFE!!!!!
RESPONSE: Frustrated
RUN, RUN, RUN NOW, while you are still only minimally entangled.
It will only get worse.
RESPONSE: Frustrated
If you marry this man, make sure that you live many, many miles
from his mother.
RESPONSE: Frustrated
He lives at home, and has a GF for nookie. Why should he change
anything? If I were you, my first condition for continuing the
relationship would be that BF moved out and set up on his own.
RESPONSE: Frustrated
For God's sake, he can not have possibly figured out what went wrong
in his marriage, and you want to have a go. He lives with his mom
and pays for her groceries. So what!! He would be paying a lot
more if he was on his own. You are not anywhere, get that - ANYWHERE
near having a serious relationship with him at this time. It has
only been a couple of months, and already you are not happy with
his situation and want to change it. Who do you think you are??
Maybe his mother realizes how quickly you want to get into this
relationship and she knows that he may not be ready for it, especially
if there are kids involved. I know that he is an adult, but sometimes
adults do stupid things and don't realize it or know how to resolve
them. He just went through a divorce and a lot of emotional junk,
but you want to pile more on him. Slow down, and maybe mom will
warm up to you.
RESPONSE: Frustrated
The money thing is just a minor problem that you have. Why does
his mom have to go everywhere with you? That is a huge RED flag!
I would take a long, hard look, and then run the other way. You
only have 5 months of your life invested, examine the relationship
closely before it is 12 years of putting up with this cr@p!
RESPONSE: Frustrated
First of all, beware of any adult man who wants to spend time with
his mommy constantly. That's just not healthy. Since you two are
not married, he can do whatever he wishes with his money, even if
it means spending it all on his mother. However, you need to see
that as a big warning sign. There is a difference between helping
her out a bit and paying all of her bills for her. He's paying
all of her bills, which means that he has no spine at all, and that
she is dependent on him. This will only cause more problems if
you two ever do get married. He also said that he moved back with
her so that he could have a house built. Is it even getting built?
If it's not, take that as another big warning sign that problems
will only get worse. I also think that she is very rude and ungrateful.
You gave her a gift certificate and she said, "It will do"?
And, she never says thank you? And your BF still insists on footing
her bills for her? I would take a step back a look at this relationship
before it progresses any further. Take it from many women here
- mama's boys only get worse as time goes on.
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