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Mother-In-Law Mall
A place to find great gifts!
and products related to mothers-in-law and other family members.
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Mother-In-Law Stories
November 14, 2004
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OCTOBER
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- MmMmDanone/Posted: 14-NOV-04
SIL got married a few months before DH and I did..
The whole lead up to the wedding was fraught with MIL's demands,
and so on. I seem to have blocked the details from my mind.
However, the week before the wedding MIL, FIL, SIL and her DH
were living in my flat (which I had to hold off selling for 2
months, because they didn't want to pay for a hotel), which was
about 60 miles from a large city. DH and I were living with
my sister, another 60 miles from that city, in the opposite direction
(where the wedding would be). We hired a car for them, and
they decided that they needed to drive up to there EVERY day,
and DH had to go meet them. The wedding went ok. They
went back to their country, and all was OK for a couple of years
(due to distance). A couple of silly things, though.
MIL and SIL didn't have much money at all, so DH got his mother
a secondary credit card on his account for emergencies, or if
she needed something. One month, a bill came through with
a lot of money taken out in cash in MIL's town. We thought
that she must have had the card stolen, but it turned out that
she wanted the money just in case she wanted to buy SIL a flat
(yes, they really are that cheap, and SIL was still living at
home with her mother and her DH). So, we have to take 2,000
out of our savings to pay off the balance "just in case".
We never saw that money again.
Signed - MmMmDanone
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Please Seek Counseling
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Continue on Message
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On my wedding day, nearly
six years ago, my MIL got angry that my parents, who paid for everything,
didn't get alcohol for her friends. She proceeded to tell my parents
that they ruined her son's wedding, because they didn't get alcohol.
So, one of my DH's cousins came up and asked whether it was OK with
me if my new DH left the reception hall for a bit to go get some
alcohol. I said that it was fine. So, everyone was having a good
time and waiting for the groom to return and the rest of the guests
to arrive, as the reception was 45 minutes from the church and it
was snowing. My MIL came up to me saying, "I hope that you
are enjoying this day, because my son sure can't enjoy his own wedding.
You sent him away from his reception." Then, she went and
told off several of my friends and family members. I spent the
next hour in the bathroom, sobbing. The woman is evil. When my
DH came back a little while later, she slapped him across the face
for hugging my little sister, and said that he is married now, so
he can't touch other women. She has proceeded to be rude and cruel
to me ever since. There will be more stories, most are worse than
this one. My wedding day sucked. I suggest eloping.
Signed - SuthWife
Per
the poster's request, no responses collected.
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- LavenderButterfly /Posted: 14-NOV-04
Where should I start? I'll start with the wedding.
When I first met my FMIL, everything was great. She was so
nice to me. Then, once I became engaged to her DS, everything
changed. One night, after getting home from work, I got a
phone call. Now, this was in June and the wedding wasn't until
November. Anyhow, her first words were, "I've just baked
your wedding cake!" I paused, thinking of how not to
offend her, and I couldn't help but say, "Excuse me?
It won't be any good by the time we get married." To
which she laughed and said, "No, it's a fruitcake. Everyone
loves my fruitcake." Except me, the one who was actually
getting married. I hate fruitcake. And, to be quite
frank, the thought of it makes me gag. What I couldn't believe
was that she made this decision by herself, without consulting me.
But, I thought, "OK, first time. I'll let it slide and
I'll somehow worm a sponge cake into the reception."
My biggest mistake! At the reception, my DH had to sneak bites
of my wedding cake to make it seem as if I were eating it.
At Christmas, she served a fruitcake and asked why I didn't eat
the piece that she gave me. I finally told her what I had
been storing up inside of me all of those months, "I don't
like fruitcake. Never have." Her response, "But
you had it for your wedding cake!" I sat up straighter,
"You never asked. You assumed and I never ate any of
it." There's more oh so much more, but that will be on
other posts.
Signed - Desperately
Wishing For A MIL With A Clue
RESPONSE: Desperately Wishing For A MIL With A Clue
Fruitcake sucks! MIL sounds like a loon.
RESPONSE: Desperately Wishing For A MIL With A Clue
The biggest fruit cake at your wedding wasn't the one on the plate.
RESPONSE: Desperately Wishing For A MIL With A Clue
I hope that your MIL's birthday has already passed, so you can make
a fruit cake now and wait a year to give it to her on her next birthday.
RESPONSE: Desperately Wishing For A MIL With A Clue
This is the classic conflict between a nice person who tries to
make allowances for rudeness, and an overbearing person who views
those allowances as permission to be even ruder. When dealing with
a woman like your MIL, you have to learn to speak up immediately,
each and every time that she steps out of line. Trust me when I
say that this will save you a lot of grief in the long run.
RESPONSE: Desperately Wishing For A MIL With A Clue
Sorry, but this one's just as much your fault as it is hers. Although
she is the incredibly rude jerk-face who imposed her wishes on your
day. I hate it when people make other people's weddings all about
their needs! Your MIL sounds like the fruitcake. I am on your
side here, but if you didn't want fruitcake (and really, who would?)
for your reception, you should have said something in June. Even
if it was as noncommittal as, "We'll see," or, "I've
always wanted chocolate sponge cake at my wedding." It would
have sent a signal. And, if it didn't, ordering your own cake would
have.
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