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Mother-In-Law Mall
A place to find great gifts!
and products related to mothers-in-law and other family members.
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Mother-In-Law Stories
November 15, 2004
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OCTOBER
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- MmMmDanone/Posted: 15-NOV-04
Things started to get worse when we had our first
child, a DD, 2 years after marriage (about two years too late
for MIL, who took every opportunity to rant about how old I was).
There was not too much excitement from MIL, considering it was
her first GC, until DH took DD over to MIL's country just before
she turned one. Then, we started to get requests to have
DD go over there for the whole summer. DH was not too concerned,
but I put my foot down HARD. Imagine, she was my first child,
and I would not see her for three months of her second year.
MIL said that DH went to his GM every summer (right, but she lived
2 miles away, and he went home every night - spot the difference
- her county is 3,000 miles or more from us). The next problem
was that MIL had decided that she wanted to go live with FIL in
another country, so she went looking for houses. Bear in
mind that there were two of them, and she was looking for a 4
bedroom house. She also wanted DH and me to put in half
the cost. We worked hard and had saved hard, so we had the
money, and it would be a holiday home for us, too (some holiday).
I didn't want to deny DH bringing pleasure to his parents, so
I agreed. They bought the house, and DH, DD and I (6 months
pregnant) went over for two weeks. We had a reasonable time,
but MIL was very clingy with DD, urgh. Also, DH and I had
to share a sofabed that was about 3 ft wide. DH is 6'4''
and built! Most nights I got about 4 hours of sleep, as
there were no curtains in our room. Meanwhile, SIL was sharing
a 6 ft bed upstairs with her DH.
Signed - Things Started
To Get Worse
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Please Seek Counseling
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Continue on Message
Board
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My MIL's relationship
with my DH wasn't too great until we decided to get married. Then,
she wanted to be involved in his life and to care for him. For
his birthday, he decided that he wanted to have a nice intimate
homemade dinner at our home (just the 2 of us) and have cheesecake
instead of cake. Since I figured that his family wanted to spend
time with him, I suggested that we have dessert at their house.
I let his mom know, the day before, that I was going to be making
the cheesecake and bringing it over. On his birthday, DH had to
work late, so I called his mom to let her know that we were going
to be late. To my surprise, she was busy in the kitchen "making
cheesecake". She said that she just decided to make it so
we would have more. And, although I told her that I WAS MAKING
IT, she said, "Yeah, I know you said that, but it just slipped
my mind." My DH thought that it was sweet (and so did everyone
else, except for me)!!! Needless to say, I didn't bring mine.
Nobody ate her cheesecake, and I ended up bringing it home (and
throwing it in the garbage).
Signed - Dueling Cheesecakes
Per
the poster's request, no responses collected.
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- LavenderButterfly /Posted: 15-NOV-04
Up to this point, I haven't mentioned my DH much.
He avoids any and all confrontation with his mother. One day, he
was making a comment that indirectly involved my breasts, which
I'm very self conscious about, because they are small. He knows
this, and he cracked a joke when he shouldn't have. I told him
to cut it out. The next thing I knew, the MIL piped up with, "DS,
are you all right?" Then, she proceeded to go on at me about
how no one treats her children badly. I couldn't believe it. She
was interfering in my relationship with my DH - something that is
NONE of her business. DH did tell her, as she prattled on, that
he is not mistreated. But, in true style, she didn't listen to
him, and continued to go on.
Signed - I Wish My MIL
Had An Off Switch
RESPONSE: I Wish My MIL Had An Off Switch
He makes jokes about your breasts in front of your MIL? I would
clock him one.
RESPONSE: I Wish My MIL Had An Off Switch
Why didn't DH either remove MIL from your presence, or remove the
two of you from MIL's presence (depending on whose turf you were
on at the time).
RESPONSE: I Wish My MIL Had An Off Switch
The only person who can effectively stop her behavior is your DH.
I hope that he is strong enough to stand up to her, running interference
with her savior routine, nicely but firmly.
RESPONSE: I Wish My MIL Had An Off Switch
Ideally, your DH should have apologized to you in front of your
MIL for the remark, turned to MIL and told her to back off because
HE was in the wrong, and told her that she'd have to leave if she
insisted on making an issue of it (or that you and he would leave,
if this happened at her house). Perhaps you two can work out a
strategy in advance for the next time your MIL flakes out like that.
RESPONSE: I Wish My MIL Had An Off Switch
I'd dope slap DH and make d@mn sure that he didn't get anywhere
near those "little ones" for awhile, since he seems to
find them a source of amusement. Is he 12 years old? And, I'd
also tell MIL that she should have taught her children to be considerate
of others if they expect considerate treatment in return.
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