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Mother-In-Law Mall
A place to find great gifts!
and products related to mothers-in-law and other family members.
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Mother-In-Law Stories
November 17, 2004
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OCTOBER
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NOVEMBER
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After 4 years of dating, DH and
I got engaged. I was loved by all the ILs, and they claimed
that I was the best thing ever. At the time, SIL was dating
a guy for 6 years, but had cheated on him a couple of times, and
was now cheating on him for over 6 months with a married man who
had a child under 1 year old. Nice girl. Anyway, within
24 hours of our engagement, SIL broke up with her BF. She
proceeded to sleep around A LOT. Then, 4 months later, we
told people that we are having a 2 year engagement to pay for
a home and the wedding. SIL wrote her XBF a sappy, dishonest
letter, and insisted that they had to get married. Yes,
you guessed it, right before our wedding date. Fine, all
of our plans, or anything to do with DH or me was ignored.
All we heard about was SIL's wedding this and SIL's wedding that.
Then, since all of the relatives were flying in for SIL, most
then couldn't come to ours. OK. Then, DH and I had
to do things EXACTLY as SIL - same shower locale, same food, same
GIFTS. Yes, either DH and I accepted the same gifts that
SIL picked out, or we got nothing. Well, we got nothing.
MIL was awful. She yelled at my mom. She literally
threw a tantrum one week before the wedding. She told all
of the relatives to call us and force us to do what she wanted
for the wedding. She didn't even give us a card or congratulate
us at our own wedding. She made all types of nasty comments,
and told lies throughout the entire process. SIL was her
little drone. Because we did not do everything that MIL
and SIL wanted us to do with our wedding, MIL also broke every
promise that she made to us. This included not giving us
the money towards the wedding that she had promised. That
was not a ton of money, but made us scramble and it was nasty.
The ILs were all rude to us at the wedding, because MIL and SIL
told them lies about us, and about that we would be divorced immediately,
etc. Flash forward a few months. Darling SIL's marriage
lasted only nine months. Guess what? She was cheating
again with someone new, and was pregnant with someone else's child
before her divorce was final. She didn't even order wedding
pictures from her $20K + and 9 month mistake (that MIL helped
fund and, hence, had no money to help us). Because of this,
and many other reasons, DH never spoke to MIL after our wedding
(3 years ago). MIL spent a ton of money on SIL's wedding,
and didn't get wedding pictures from either of her children's
wedding days. SIL (who, I forgot to mention, is a VERY materialistic,
selfish b!tch) got pregnant by a guy who actually lied to her
about his income, and SIL is now supporting HIM and a child.
Maybe it will make her grow up a little. Best of all, DH
and I have never been happier or more in love.
Signed - Karma!
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Please Seek Counseling
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Continue on Message
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I am married to the most wonderful
man that I have ever known. Our marriage is almost perfect.
We are both in our forties, and this is the third marriage for
both of us. Our previous marriages have many parallels,
mostly abusive, controlling and cheating spouses. We have
learned life lessons that help us appreciate what we have.
The problem is that his sister and niece are really hateful and
abusive to me. I have done NOTHING to them to cause this.
They have told me that they do not want to get close to me because
his two ex-wives have burned them. So, I am paying for the
sins of his ex-wives. They pride themselves on being candid,
but they come across hurtful and hateful. I have been told
to keep my distance, and that they do not want me bonding with
their daughters, because they don't want them getting hurt again.
My DH tells me to "give them time". It has been
a year, and I am beginning to become angry and unforgiving.
I have sold my house, and moved to another town so that my DH
can be closer to his family. We even moved my son to another
school system. The money from the sale of my house was used
to pay off my DH's home. Is that the behavior of someone
who is NOT committed to her marriage? On the Fourth of July,
the niece had a family gathering. There were relatives from
out of state, and all the family living locally present.
In front of everyone there, she made a nasty comment about how
I am just like my DH's second wife, who was a drug addict, thief
and liar (I have never used drugs in my life, and am nothing like
she was). The room went dead silent for a couple of seconds,
and then everyone laughed. I was so embarrassed and hurt
that I felt like I was naked in front of them all. My DH
told me, "That is just the way she is, ignore her."
I don't think that is any excuse for bad manners and abhorrent
behavior! These two women seem to both be the alpha females
and run the family. I feel like never talking to any of
them again, ever!
Signed - The Whipping
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Worst gift: When I was
a new bride, my DH and I spent our first Christmas with his family.
His parents, sisters, aunts, my DH and I all gathered around the
Christmas tree early Christmas morning. FIL started passing
out presents. I was new to the family, so I had put a lot
of thought and effort into the gifts that we gave that year, personalizing
each one. I was a little surprised to see only one gift come
my way with all those relatives there, but it was in a small box
and I'd always heard that good things come in small packages.
I thought that maybe the presents given to my DH were presents for
the two of us, but they turned out to be clothes and things for
him only. When it came time for me to open my lone box, you
can imagine how I had to bite my tongue when it turned out to be
a bar of soap. The box was marked SAMPLE- NOT FOR RESALE,
and it had come in the mail. The mailman had brought me one
just like it, so I knew. That's right folks, my MIL gave me
unwanted junk mail for Christmas!
Signed - Junk Mail
RESPONSE: Junk Mail
I hope that you never again took the time or effort to shop for
that group of losers!
RESPONSE: Junk Mail
Ever since I got married, DH and I have our own Xmas morning present
opening, and then we head out to dinner later that day.
RESPONSE: Junk Mail
Hope that you never spoke to those @ssholes again, and certainly
never bought them another gift!
RESPONSE: Junk Mail
I hope you have never, ever spent the time, money or energy on them
again. They don't deserve it. Just spend that time, energy, and
money, that could have been spent on them, on YOUR family members.
The benefits you will reap will be worth it long term. They let
you know how they feel about you. I would reciprocate.
RESPONSE: Junk Mail
The next time that you exchange gifts with them, get a huge box,
fill it with enough bricks to make it heavy, and then enclose a
note saying that in lieu of a gift, you signed them both up for
manners and social skills classes, because they need them more than
they need material things!
RESPONSE: Junk Mail
Just remember that the gift reflects on the giver. Small heart,
small gift. Christmas is NOT the time to use it as an excuse to
slight someone, but it seems like lots of people ignore that fact.
I used to put a lot of thought and time into my gifts for my in-laws.
After 20 years, they still refuse to be thoughtful. I stopped participating
in the gift swap. I used the excuse, "I don't want to do it
anymore." I did not add, "Find another whipping post!"
They are all totally speechless and clueless, and cannot make me
do it. Basically, no one can do anything to you that you do not
let them do to you. I stopped being the doormat. I am much happier
today for my decision. Really, everyone needs to stop being a doormat,
especially if your DH will not stand up for you. Stand up for yourself,
or move on.
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