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Mother-In-Law Mall
A place to find great gifts!
and products related to mothers-in-law and other family members.
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Mother-In-Law Stories
November 28, 2004
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OCTOBER
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My SIL is nutso to the core!
I have never met anyone who is so jealous and pathetic.
She seems to like to high five my DH after church. Why?
I have no idea. She is 48 years old. My MIL is, or
tries to act like, the grand mother of them all. We are
both in our 40's and on our second marriages. You would
think that they would be happy. But, no, they are jealous.
These people seem to make others in the family our financial responsibility.
My DH distances himself from them. We are even at the point
where we have our home up for sale. My biggest wish is that
the MIL pass on (she is ill), so we can have our lives back..
Without the MIL, the SIL is powerless. She depends on mother
to go around and try to make everyone do as she wishes.
The funny thing is that these people claim to be religious.
I have tried my best to get along with them. Now, I am just
cordial, and can't wait to escape.
Signed - Sick of Selfishness
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Please Seek Counseling
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Continue on Message
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My MIL has 2 kids, a
daughter and my DH. Both are around age 40. She now wants them
to get along, like some story book family, which they have never
been in the past. The daughter can say what she likes to my DH
and me. For example, "You're a sad loser," or "You're
a b@st@rd," whatever, and the MIL says that it's just brother
and sister talk. It's not how we do it in my family, nor does my
DH think that it is okay. Now, Christmas approaches, and the pressure
is on again. Last year the daughter threw the presents (not cheap)
that we bought for her kids over our fence. I just wish I could
get her to drop the pretense so that we can have a separate and
happy Christmas
Signed - From Australia
Per
the poster's request, no responses collected.
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I am confused about how
MIL can treat her grandchildren noticeably different. I know
that she and I do not get along well, but I don't understand how
she can treat my child as if she is not even part of the family,
and yet she goes overboard for her other two grandchildren.
Please offer suggestions to help me deal with this matter.
Signed - A GC Is
A GC
RESPONSE: A GC Is A GC
JUST STAY AWAY. STAY FAR, FAR AWAY!
RESPONSE: A GC Is A GC
Keep the kids away. What they don't know, they won't miss.
RESPONSE: A GC Is A GC
Your MIL is immature, as she is taking out her dislike for you on
your child. You need to protect your child from this woman.
RESPONSE: A GC Is A GC
It's simple. Your MIL is not nice to your children because she
doesn't like you. Hate (or dislike) by association is nothing new.
Next time you hear a racist/sexist/anti-anything comment, you will
recognize your MIL's behavior.
RESPONSE: A GC Is A GC
She does it because she is a b!tch. I don't see how anybody could
play favorites with their own children or grandchildren. If I were
you, I'd distance your child from her. Your child should not have
to see that.
RESPONSE: A GC Is A GC
I would stop having anything to do with your MIL. She clearly does
not deserve to spend time with your DD. Believe me, your DD will
be very resentful that you allowed her to be treated like a second-class
citizen if you don't put your foot down now.
RESPONSE: A GC Is A GC
How can you let this woman treat your child like that? Cut the
woman out of your life, or do not let her have any contact with
your child.
RESPONSE: A GC Is A GC
Make sure that your child, and any subsequent children, don't want
for love and attention at home, and limit visits to this spiteful
b!tch. Or, better still, stop them altogether. Your child will
notice eventually, and it will make them feel bad. So why put them
through it? What they don't know, they won't miss.
RESPONSE: A GC Is A GC
Be very clear when you talk to her. Hopefully your DH will back
you up. Be prepared, as she will probably throw a fit. Too bad
for her. Tell her that blatant favoritism will no longer be allowed!!
If it continues, all the children's gifts will be returned to her.
Your children's self esteem is at stake. Life is hard enough for
kids without having GM play one against the other. STAND FIRM ON
THIS. Good luck.
RESPONSE: A GC Is A GC
If you ever figure out how to get over this, please share with me.
My MIL hasn't shown any interest in my DD for over a year now, while
she coddles and spoils the other 2 rotten. The worst part is that
she also hasn't spoken to my DH, her own son, in over a year. Why?
Because she's mad at me. I could not care less how she feels about
me, but for crying out loud - get off your high horse lady and show
some love and respect to your own son. Even DH could not care less
how she feels about me. He'd rather that she and I didn't get along,
as she's a horrible gossip. When MIL and I were on speaking terms,
everything that I said or did became ammunition for gossip to the
other 3 siblings of DH. Now, at least she's got nothing from me.
But, seriously, can't she show a little bit of love to her own flesh
and blood? My advice, don't try to make an effort. And, the silence
that follows will make you feel great. Of course, you'll still
be upset by the lack of love to your children, but I don't think
that there is anything you can do about that. Just keep setting
a good example for your children by not gossiping or complaining
about her in their presence.
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