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Mother-In-Law Mall
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Mother-In-Law Stories
November 30, 2004
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On my 30th birthday, my MIL came
over carrying a stack of outdated clothing, one a camel coat with
a mink collar. She took them into my bedroom and laid them
on my bed. Then she said, "Here are the clothes that
I wore when I was thirty. Just think, they would never fit
you. So, what will you look like when you are my age?
After all, you are already as fat as me now!" I said,
"Thank you," and went into my kitchen. I asked
her if she wanted some tea. "Sure," she said.
She then began to tell me how glad she was that she had a housekeeper
and how she had wished she would have had one when her kids were
little. "I bet you would like that," she said.
I said, "No, I do not think that I'd like that, because I
have seen how much work you have to do to prepare for a housekeeper
when you clean before she comes." Silence for a few
minutes, then she said, "I bet you wish that you had a dishwasher."
I said, "Oh, I have a dishwasher. Your son, the girls,
and myself. We all like to do the dishes. Even my
youngest has fun, and it has become a good family time."
She left about 5 minutes later. That made my day.
Signed - The Wiser
of the Two
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Please Seek Counseling
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Continue on Message
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My ILs have a slew of
health problems, some of which are very complicated. They each
have so many things wrong with them, and take so many different
drugs that they have a tremendous amount of restrictions on their
diets. Between them, the foods that they have told us they must
avoid include, but are not limited to: Fatty foods, salty and spicy
foods, many kinds of vegetables, most cheeses, citrus fruits, certain
nuts, certain vegetables, wheat, eggs, alcoholic beverages, carbonated
drinks, and most sugary dessert items. They also prefer foods high
in fiber. So, when they come to our home I TRY to find something
that we can all eat. Usually, something totally bland and simple,
without sauce or other topping, does just fine (although my own
family just grins and bears it). Now, I don't mind serving such
boring culinary delights as steamed veggies, broiled fish, and baked
apples for the sake of their health. However, I recently spoke
to MIL after she had gone to visit her daughter for the weekend.
She gushed about the hospitality that SIL had lavished on her.
Guess what SIL made for dinner? Lasagna with sausage, grilled vegetables,
buttery garlic bread, and cheesecake. The breakfast that MIL was
thrilled to bits about included bacon and cheese omelets, croissants,
etc. I couldn't believe my ears. Why should I care about their
diets if they are fine with SIL making meals that theoretically
could kill them?
Signed - Cheeseburger,
French Fries and A Beer Anyone?
Per
the poster's request, no responses collected.
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When I was 17, I got
pregnant and married the "sperm donor". My ex-MIL
was absolutely dreadful. When I was pregnant, she told me
to have an abortion so that it wouldn't turn out to be a little
b@stard like the child whom she was baby-sitting for (her words,
not mine). Then, she told me that I needed to just sign my
parental rights over to her (I later found out that the pregnancy
was "planned" on my ex's part, because his mother had
wanted a baby in the house). After I refused, my ex-MIL tried
to get me to drink alcohol. I wouldn't, though. After
my son was born she had a baby shower at her house for us.
At the end of the shower, she asked me to leave without my son.
I said, "No." So, she locked me in her house, yelling
and threatening me. My ex-FIL (who is a good person, but doesn't
know how to deal with his wife) and my spineless ex-DH refused to
help me. They didn't "want to be on her bad side".
She also proceeded to walk into my house, uninvited, whenever she
felt like it (ex-DH gave her a key, and I was allowed no say).
And, if she saw something that she liked, it became hers.
She kept a black book of girls' numbers for him, and encouraged
him to cheat at every chance he got. She told my ex-DH that
his loyalty should be to her, which he had no problem with, because
he was a momma's boy. When my ex finally started sticking
up for me and our son, she talked to a lawyer and tried to file
a divorce for us, whether we liked it or not. And, she WAS
going to get at least PARTIAL custody of our son. Then, when
my son was in the hospital for emergency surgery, she came to the
hospital and started screaming at me. After various verbal
and mental assaults by this woman, too many encouraged infidelities,
there came the final straw. One evening, the horse that I
grew up with was laying in the pasture dying. She and my ex
were at a party, where she introduced him to a new woman, again
(I found out later that ex and his mom had told this woman that
he was divorced). So, I left with my son. By then we
had acquired a second vehicle, so I loaded what I could and left
the rest until I could get it later. Ex-MIL put a padlock
on the door, and said that I couldn't get back in - the court told
her otherwise! After a while, I remarried and started a new
family. But, that still didn't deter ex-MIL and ex-DH from
harassment. My ex pulled me into court to try to get my DH
removed from the house. The judge told him NO, because it
was my DH. So my ex demanded that I tell him when I got remarried,
so I told him. The judge wished me luck on my new marriage,
and told my ex to "get over it and move on". Then,
he raised my ex's child support (hahahaha). I figured that
if I had to go to court anyway, I'd request that they raise support.
Ex-MIL saw me in the store a few days later, and began yelling vulgarities
at me (she was mad because they had raised my ex's child support
to more than 3 times its original amount.. It was embarrassing,
because everyone stopped and stared. My ex would follow me
places (he saw me in town and followed me around, and when I went
to work, my truck just "accidentally" got four flat tires).
One day, he called me. He was angry, wanting to know WHY I
was in a neighboring city that morning. I finally got them
to ease up. I told the judge what was going on, and he told
them that it had BETTER STOP. We still had a few more instances
- one time ex-MIL showed up at my son's school to arrange getting
him the next day. Then, the next day she and my ex both showed
up and tried to get him. She and my ex used to take my son's
glasses from him, and forbid him to wear them (he's legally blind),
but that stopped after I got CPS involved. And, they won't
give my son his meds when he is there (ADHD) or have him wear his
eye patch. But, I suppose that it could be worse. So,
what I try to do is to just be as nice as possible to them, not
because I condone how they act, but for my son's sake. Plus,
I figure that they will eventually get sick of their cr@p not affecting
me too much, and stop completely. That's my story. I
hope it doesn't discourage anyone from getting married! And,
yes, my current MIL is a wonderful woman. We had a few disagreements
(she likes to walk through the house - including bedrooms - when
she visits, and I've caught both ILs in my house without permission
twice - both times they were doing nothing bad. I wouldn't
trade them for the world! I love my new ILs!!!!!!! The
whole thing of people in my home without permission is mainly my
own irk because of my past bad experiences, and because I feel that
my privacy is being invaded, and I tend to be a real stickler on
that. I knock when I go to someone's home, and they need to
knock at mine (and, yes, I even knock at my mom and dad's house).
I respect your privacy, you respect mine. Thanks for listening
Signed - MIL From He!!
With A Son Upon Her Hip
RESPONSE: MIL From He!! With A Son Upon Her Hip
If they won't give him his meds, you can have the visitation stopped.
Go back to that judge.
RESPONSE: MIL From He!! With A Son Upon Her Hip
What a story! You seem to have a good head on your shoulders.
But, I would be worried about leaving my son in the care of those
awful people, even if one of them is his father.
RESPONSE: MIL From He!! With A Son Upon Her Hip
*I later found out that the pregnancy was "planned" on
my ex's part, because his mother had wanted a baby in the house*
Huh? YOU (I assume) got pregnant, not your DH. It seems like you
had something to do with it? Were you forced to get *pregnant*?
RESPONSE: MIL From He!! With A Son Upon Her Hip
Sorry, but I don't think that not wanting people in your house without
your permission is some kind of weird "irk". I have never
suffered with ILs like your ex's, and I would not tolerate people
walking into my house when I am not there, either. Where I come
from, we call that trespass. I find it odd, though, that with a
history of harassment and abuse like yours, you still make it possible
for people to walk into your house. Perhaps you should either limit
the number of people to whom you give out keys, or try locking your
doors.
RESPONSE: MIL From He!! With A Son Upon Her Hip
You sound like a very brave and courageous woman. Good for you
for not putting up with that abusive ex-H and ex-MIL anymore. I
would advise you, though, to see if your DH can legally adopt your
son. It shouldn't be that hard, since CPS has been after your ex-H
and ex-MIL. That way, you and your son will have NO ties to those
awful people.
RESPONSE: MIL From He!! With A Son Upon Her Hip
What a pair of morons your ex and his mother are. Tell them that
you hope they are very happy together. I hope you don't let these
evil people see your son anymore.
RESPONSE: MIL From He!! With A Son Upon Her Hip
XMIL and XDH abuse your DS by not letting him wear his glasses,
and not giving him his medication, and you just smile? That's disgusting.
If anyone ever tormented my child like that, I would kick their
@ss into next week. By tolerating their abuse of DS and of yourself,
you are only teaching DS that he should be abused and that standing
up for himself is wrong. What a bad example to set for your child.
RESPONSE: MIL From He!! With A Son Upon Her Hip
Oh, that is just disgusting. I can't imagine putting up with that.
Let your story be a lesson to young girls out there who make the
big mistake of marrying someone just because they are the sperm
donor. I see a lot of girls who make that mistake. They would
have been much better off staying single till they met the right
one, instead of marrying some little boy with Hitler for a mother.
If the situation is not good for you, it's not good for the baby.
I, personally, would cut all ties with them. They sound like the
type who would steel the baby and you would never hear from them
again.
RESPONSE: MIL From He!! With A Son Upon Her Hip
Wow! Honestly, if it were me, I would stop them from seeing him.
They are going against the doctor's orders and putting his health
in danger. This goes beyond letting your son see them for his sake.
This is putting him in danger.
RESPONSE: MIL From He!! With A Son Upon Her Hip
Your ex-DH and ex-MIL are absolutely crazy, and belong in jail or
an institution!! Hearing how they treat your DS breaks my heart,
and makes me so angry that I wish I knew them so that I could get
in their face! CPS should ban them from ever seeing your DS again,
because there is NO EXCUSE for taking his glasses away, or not giving
him his medicine, which is child cruelty! I have a nephew with
special needs, and the thought of anyone ever picking on him makes
my blood boil!!
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