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Mother-In-Law Mall
A place to find great gifts!
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Mother-In-Law Stories
December 10, 2005
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This is a wonderful support
site for those of us dealing with what feels like the devil. I
have been married for nearly fifteen years, and I am just numb from
dealing with my MIL. We cut her out of our lives a few years ago
and I constantly feel guilty about not allowing her to see my son.
But, I feel so much better without her manipulation, interference,
and hateful comments. Actually, we have cut her out of our lives
about three times since we've been married. It all started years
ago when she would call several times a day and just push her point
or push for us to do things her way. After having enough of her,
I told her over the phone that she cannot keep calling every day
and interfering. She told me that she would call whenever she wanted,
and would interfere whenever she wanted. That was our first fight.
She and my FIL, who always stands by her, of course, came over to
talk it out and she said to me, "What are you smiling about?"
like I was a child. She said, "You're the reason I am losing
my son." I resent that I didn't stand up for myself when she
talked to me like that and my DH just sat there. This was when
we were younger (in our late twenties). A few years later I was
in the hospital, and after having surgery on my hip she called me
and yelled at me about my DH helping me with physical therapy.
She told me that he wasn't going to help me, and that he will hurt
his back. This was right after surgery, so I was pretty sick when
she went after me. DH just lets her say whatever. A few years
later I had my son. We weren't getting along at this time, so I
decided that I did not want MIL anywhere near me when I had my baby.
Well, that set her off. She hollered at me and told me that she
wished I had died on the delivery table. I was shocked. She went
on about how I don't love my DH. He did confront her eventually
about this comment and asked her if she had said it, but he is scared
of her and he doesn't say much. I didn't want much to do with her
after that comment, but I agreed to talk to her. She said that
she didn't mean it, so I tried, for the sake of my son. I allowed
her into our lives, but it was awful. She would come over and take
my son outside by herself. She would say, "You aren't coming
out here, are you?" We went to Christmas Eve services and
I let her hold my son for most of the service. I told her that
I wanted to hold him for a few minutes at the end of the service,
and the whole time she would say, "Here, I can calm him down.
Let me hold him. Here, give him here." I didn't give him
to her and she didn't speak to me the whole drive home. She is
possessive and she acted like my son was hers. I haven't been able
to get over the "wish you were dead" comment and the "I
am going to control you" attitude from her. My DH's inability
to speak up or stand up for me has made me stand up for myself now,
and I haven't had a thing to do with her in a few years. They want
to see my son, and I do feel bad about that, but what do I do?
She is wanting to talk again, but I don't feel like fooling with
her anymore. I am numb to her antics, but as my DH says, I don't
want my son upset with me later in life. I need advice. Should
I allow supervised visits and let my son decide what he wants to
do? It makes me sick to see her love all over him when she has
said things that no human should say to another. But, I just don't
know what to do. My son is only five, so I can't tell him what
she has done to me. But, I feel like telling him one day, when
he is older. It is a horrible situation. She does live nearby.
I can't stand her, and I really don't want my phone to ring just
to find her on the other end, after what I have put up with over
the years. I just need to know what everybody thinks I should do
about my son seeing her. Thanks.
Signed - Just Numb
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DH and I alternate between
our families for Thanksgiving every year. This year we have a baby,
and so MIL was not happy that it was MY family's turn. My mother
was gracious enough to understand, and she invited my ILs for Thanksgiving
dinner. They accepted, and asked to bring their dog - their dog,
who bit my 7 year old goddaughter and then bit me during the holidays
last year when I was pregnant because "he was jealous that
he didn't have a gift to open!" Well, my parents asked my
DH to explain that if everyone brought their dogs for Thanksgiving,
it would be a bit crowded. Believe it or not, the ILs called and
said that they were not going to be able to come to Thanksgiving.
How horrible that they chose their dog over their son and grandson?!?!?!
Signed - Pet Peeve?
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Worst gift: Worst gift
story? MIL gave me 4 bars of "fancy" soap at my bridal
shower. That was it. Was she trying to tell me something? BTW,
we never got a wedding gift, either!
Signed - Hidden Message?
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