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Mother-In-Law Stories
December 29, 2005
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When I first met my ex's
mother, I thought that she was great. I was 17, and pregnant with
my DD. I needed help getting to and from appointments, and she
went with me to a few of them, because at that time her son and
I were "separated". She was controlling, but not overly
annoying about it, so I allowed her to take over with things such
as the baby shower, etc. My labor was induced, so she took off
from work to be at the hospital. I didn't mind at first, but she
had apparently spent 5 hours telling her son, who was also present,
that she would be HEARTBROKEN if she was not in the room when the
baby was born. After 30 hours of hard, tiring labor I finally gave
in and said that I don't care whoever wishes to be in the room,
and LEAVE ME ALONE! She b!tched and moaned the whole entire time
(6 hours straight) that it was a tragedy that we weren't married,
and that the baby's middle name should at least be X (I personally
hate that name). When it came time to push, she was up and down
and left and right, taking pictures and squealing with delight.
I was exhausted and DID NOT want to be on film. My midwife could
see the aggravation on my face, and asked everyone to leave the
room. She replied, "I don't have to, I'm the grandma."
Not wanting to hear anymore, I said that it was fine, just no more
pictures. She then shook her head in agreement. Then she said
to her son, "This child will be so deprived without these pictures.
I have pictures with all 3 of my labors." I gave birth to
my DD. The nurse took her to clean her and immediately ex's mother
snatched the baby from the nurse. I HADN'T EVEN HELD MY DD YET!
My mother took the baby from her and handed the baby to me, then
ex's mother stormed out of the room in a heated temper tantrum,
saying loudly to my ex, "She is so selfish. That is MY ONLY
grandbaby. She is heartless. Poor baby with a mother like that,
too young to have a child! She is 17. She can't feed that baby.
She is lucky she doesn't drop that baby." ETC. ETC! During
the next few weeks and months my ex and I tried to work out our
relationship, but to no avail. It didn't last, and the endless
attempts to invade our privacy and/or control our relationship on
the part of his mother didn't help!!! After we broke up for good,
his mother would call me or my mother and go on and on for HOURS
about how I should do certain things, because I'm too young to know
what's best. BTW, she had her first @ 19. Finally it became too
much when she CUT my 5 month old DD's hair. She was born bald to
begin with, and finally had some peach fuzz. Ex's mother CUT IT
OFF to make her hair grow faster. I am over 50% American Indian,
and in our culture we have certain beliefs. One is that we do not
cut the hair of a woman or squaw because it's taking part of the
soul, etc., etc. I have cut my hair. It's not a BIG deal, BUT
she should not have done it without asking me. I finally had had
enough, and I live in a state where grandparents have no rights.
SO, I cut her off until she could grow up and learn that I AM THE
PARENT. She didn't see my daughter for 3 months. Finally, I allowed
her visitation because I felt bad. I STILL didn't get ANY SORT
of an apology. She had the nerve to say, "I would have never
kept my children from their grandparents just to get my own way.
You are immature, and you are lucky that I don't call an attorney."
I laughed it off and ignored her. I only let my DD see her on occasion,
and for a few hours at a time. I was NEVER rude to her, and to
this day, when she makes comments that irk me, I do not give her
a response. I could happily tell her what I think of her, but then
she'd get a rise out of me and that's exactly what the monster wants.
I am now 19, engaged, and living in my own home with my DF. I am
a college student and a soon to be gestational surrogate. My ex
has seen my DD a total of 5 times in the past year. He doesn't
make any effort to be a father, and doesn't pay child support.
The woman is still up to her old tricks. I have full custody of
my child, and the ex is not allowed to see her without supervision
and MY okay. I allowed my child to visit with her GPs overnight
a few weeks ago. When I picked her up, who was there? The ex.
I told her beforehand not to allow visitation unless I was aware
of it. Guess what?!!! HE WAS LIVING THERE! SHE DIDN'T TELL ME!!!
She got an attitude. We had an exchange of words, and now I am
back to the same place that I was over a year ago. DO I ALLOW HER
TO SEE MY CHILD or DO I RELINQUISH VISITATION? He has problems
that effect his parenting abilities (to put it lightly), and that
is why he is not allowed to see her. I am so beyond frustration
with this woman. Any helpful advice would be a BLESSING! Thanks.
Signed - Frustrated By
Monster-In-Law
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My MIL recently got a
new kitchen and a dishwasher for the first time. I had something
to eat and put a plate in the dishwasher. Later on she was surprised
to find out that I had not turned it on. Why would I turn on her
dishwasher, in her house? I do not turn on the dishwasher in any
of my friend's or other relative's houses. In what sense could
this possibly be construed as my responsibility? It left small
marks on her glasses, which she felt compelled to present to me.
Why??
Signed - Is She Mad?
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My MIL shows no consideration
and only thinks about herself. My wife was in labor at the hospital
and my MIL showed up all sweaty and out of breath. I asked her
if she was ok, and she said that she walked to the hospital. I
asked her why, and she replied that her car broke down near the
hospital. The whole time my wife was in labor, my MIL was hinting
about me fixing her car. Meanwhile, my own mother was driving in
from out of town, and I had to go pick her up from my house. So,
I tried to sneak out, but then I got the wonderful privilege of
dropping my MIL off at her broken down car. Reluctantly, I dropped
her off, and she actually expected me to fix her car right then
and there. My child had just been born, and I only had 2 hours
left to go pick up my mom and drive back to the hospital before
visiting hours were over. I left her there! To top this off, she
is always coming up with some story to borrow some money. We usually
say no, but then she either goes to my SIL and gets her and her
DH to loan it to her, or we end up giving in. DW went to visit
her and gave her some money without her even asking for it. MISTAKE!
The next day my MIL called, wanting to borrow some more money.
DW told her no, and managed to get off the phone with her. Well,
my MIL called back and left a voicemail of the Boys II Men song,
"Mama". I guess that was supposed to make her feel guilty.
So, my wife called my MIL back and left a message on her machine
of our baby crying. Yeah!
Signed - Commit My MIL
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