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Mother-In-Law Mall
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Mother-In-Law Stories
January 5, 2006
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I always felt like the
DIL who didn't fit in. There are six children, including my DH,
who is the youngest. Five are boys, and one girl. There are four
DILs, including myself. DH's family and the DILs were all born
in the same country. DH and I were born in the US. I speak their
language, and have family in their country. But, MIL would always
ask questions like, "We're having X (a popular native food)
for dinner, have you ever had them?" Or, "This is called
Y. Have you eaten them before?" DH would tell her, "Mom,
she's from your country." At family gatherings I would try
to hang out with the girls, but I always felt that they didn't like
me or that I wasn't ethnic enough. We had a home for three years
and my ILs came to visit maybe three times. I have a DD from a
previous marriage, and DH and I had two kids together. After our
2nd child together, DH lost his job. Until then I didn't have to
work because he made good money. That's when it all started. We
had to move in with my ILs. We were not allowed to touch her food,
nor were we allowed to use her washer or dryer. And, she made it
clear that she was not a baby-sitter. I started working. DH stayed
with the kids to take care of them. When I came home, every dish
used by my DH and kids were in a bucket waiting for me to wash them,
because he was a man and she never taught him to wash dishes. It's
a woman's job. She expected me to have dinner ready before work
for my kids/family. One day I called a friend to say hello and
she asked where I was calling from. When I said, "Home,"
she asked if we had changed our number. I said, "No."
Well, MIL had changed the number that day. When I got to work,
I called home, dialing the new number. When I asked to speak to
my DH, she asked, "Who's speaking?" I said, "It's
me." She said, "How did you get this number?" I
told her that if she didn't want anyone having the number, she should
get her number blocked. Later that day when I called home again,
1.5 hours later, the number was changed. This time she had blocked
the number. Then she took all the phone jacks, but one, out of
the entire house. The only phone left was in her bedroom, and that
was locked. When my brother's GF came to visit one day, she came
into our room and MIL told her that she had to leave because I was
not allowed to have company over. DH's friends were greeted with
open arms. She told me that this was her son's home, and that I
was not welcome there. She also expected me to be up and cleaning
before her, because her MIL had treated her badly and I was gonna
pay for what the old lady put her through. Did I mention that there
were locks on the washer/dryer/refrigerator to ensure that we did
not to use anything that didn't belong to us? Well, our car broke
down and I had to walk my children to school and back. Sometimes
they would drive past us and wave to the kids, then we would see
their car at the market - that's one short block from the school.
She would tell me to go live with someone else, as we weren't welcome
to live there. I hadn't called my mother for a couple of days,
so she showed up!!!!! She knew that I was not the same, but didn't
know what was going on because I didn't want her to be involved.
MIL told my mom that I beat her son, and that I was an alcoholic.
I don't drink. She even said, "Take my son, too. I don't
want him here, either!!!!!!!" My mom was shocked. Did I mention
that my MIL is devoted to her religion? She worships 4 days a week,
and helps with the service every week. Then her religious leader
is over at the house often for home cooked meals. Can you top this
story??????????
Signed - The DIL Who
Didn't Fit In
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I don't have anyone else
to talk to about this. We just moved, and I don't know anyone!
I have 4 children and a very good relationship with my DH, but when
it comes to my ILs (5 SILs and a very strange MIL), I don't know
what to do. I'm tired of having to be the one to say "sorry",
even when I'm not wrong. They don't respect me in my home or with
my children. They bad mouth me to my DH and to my kids, and now
to my DH's whole family. You see, there's no way to make them ever
see that they're wrong, as they have pride issues. I'm sick of
it. So, I decided that I'm not going to have anything to do with
them. They call my house all the time and talk about me to my DH,
and they still want to have a relationship with him and my kids.
It's tearing my DH up. Things got worse when the FIL and MIL got
divorced, because she thought that everything was gonna be okay
because she has her son to take care of her. She claims to be religious,
but you wouldn't know it when she's not at her house of worship.
She just drives me crazy. Does anyone have any advice for me?
Signed - Don't Know What
To Do
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Frequent
Fry Her TM
- MNDY, 1 of 4 needed/Posted: 5-JAN-06
DH and I have been married for 4 years, and we have
a 2 1/2 year old DD. From the first day that I met MIL, I loved
her! She is kind and generous in many ways, EXCEPT that she likes
to play favorites with the grandchildren!!!! I am going crazy.
Any time that DH and I fight, you can bet your last dollar that
it is about the MIL. When DD was a newborn, it bothered me, but
I ignored it. Now she is noticing it herself. I just cannot handle
the idea that everything at GM's house is her other grandchild's.
I never say anything. I just go on about my business and later
explain to my very smart DD that it's nor fair, but that is how
it is. Not to sound rude, but my DD is a lot smarter than the average
child her age. She is an only child, and her doctor says that because
she is above average, she tends to get bored with things quickly.
So, she questions why the bed, toys, chairs, and all those movies
at GM's are X's (DD's cousin). I never ask for a sitter, but I
have some doctor appointments that I cannot miss (missing them could
possibly be life threatening). MIL cannot watch DD because she
has DH's sister's kids - the favorites. I do not have any one else
whom I can call. My mother works 40+ hours a week. She was a single
mom of 4!! I am just tired of the routine, and I feel like it is
making my marriage a mess!!!!!! What can I do?
Signed - Desperate Mother
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