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Mother-In-Law Mall
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Mother-In-Law Stories
January 7, 2006
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Right now I have a problem
with both my FSIL and my MIL. I have been with my BF for seven
years and we recently gotten engaged. It's amazing how nasty people
can get when a wedding is being planned. Background: About a year
ago FSIL got married to DF's brother. I have known her for a few
years. We hung out a few times, but not a lot. However, I was
not in her wedding, despite the fact that I have known the family
for 7 years. Even my DF's little cousin was in the wedding as a
Jr. bridesmaid. So, as one can imagine, I was a little hurt. But,
I said nothing because I figured that it was not my place to say
anything. Fast forward one year later: I am engaged now to my
wonderful DF, and I will have nine bridesmaids in my wedding (that
is not including everyone whom I would have liked to have in it).
To my frustration, I found out that my FSIL was asking if she was
going to be in my wedding. So, MIL, who favors my FSIL (even my
DF admits this), complained to my DF. He told her that she would
not be in it because I had enough bridesmaids. Two weeks later
FSIL heard me talking on the phone to my sister about the wedding.
I did not know that she was in the room until after I was done talking.
She heard me telling my sister that her BF was to be in the wedding
(as a groomsman) and so would my other sister's BF. To me they
are like family. FSIL got furious. She went home and complained
to her DH, who then went to his mother's house the next day and
complained to her (give me a break and grow up). DF's mother then
proceeded to lecture him the next time he was over about how we
should "avoid hurting her feelings, if possible" and asked
what my problem was and whether I liked my FSIL (because she was
wondering). DF told his mother that he was shocked that she was
asking this, especially considering that I was NOT in FDIL's wedding
when even his little cousin was, and that I had NINE bridesmaids,
and that was more than enough. Well, I'd about had it with all
the complaining, so I went to the source, FSIL, to talk to her about
why she was not in the wedding. I also told her that it was not
because I did not like her. I think she thought that I was going
to ask her to be in it, and got rude with me when she found out
that I wasn't. She proceeded to tell me, "Obviously, we know
who you really think is family by whom you include in your wedding,"
implying that I didn't view her as family. Well, I told her exactly
what was on my mind, and that she had no right to complain. She
told me that I wasn't in her wedding because I wasn't "married
into the family". So, according to her, I wasn't really family,
yet. I told her that I had been with the family for 7 years, that's
even longer than she has been. I told her that her own parents
were invited to my wedding (even though mine were not invited to
hers, but that's another story). FMIL wants to invite them, which
is weird to me because I do not know them and my parents are never
invited to any family functions. After we were done talking (we
hung up on each other) she went crying to her DH, who called his
parents and went off on them about me. The next day they called
my DF and me. I told my FFIL what had happened (my side). He said
that he wanted to apologize on behalf of his wife and himself for
meddling in my wedding planning, and now he understands where I
am coming from. Nine bridesmaids is enough, and it is understandable
why I am not having her as a bridesmaid. Why would I invite her
in it when I have many close friends whom I am not including. Plus,
I was not in hers. So, I have no obligation to put her in mine.
FFIL said that they felt that they had caused a huge fight (it's
funny how my FMIL never apologized to me directly, although she
is the one who complained and made the situation worse). FBIL and
FSIL do not talk to me, which, is fine by me. I rarely go over
to my future IL's house (even though I used to practically live
over there). I think that my SIL is a little jealous of me. I
am trying to view it from where she is coming from and remember
(as my wise aunt says), "It is never about you. It's something
else going on in them." I have found that an easier way to
deal with them is to distance myself. The biggest thing that my
DF and I fight over is his family. But, he always sticks up for
me. I have to remember that I am marrying him, not them. However,
I will not take his last name after marriage. I do not feel that
I am part of their family. I will retain my family name because
that is who I am, and I am not changing for anyone.
Signed - Keep Your Head
Up
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My MIL is actually my
DD's great-grandmother (because of adoption, etc.). She's 80 years
old, and my DH thinks that it's okay for her to watch our 18 month
old DD, even if he does yard work and takes the monitor along.
My problem with this has to do with several things: (1) She is
legally blind (can only see 1 ft in front of her clearly) and has
many health problems. (2) She doesn't wash her hands after using
the bathroom. (3) She uses a paper towel to wipe her runny nose
and then uses the same paper towel to wipe my DD's mouth later.
(4) She is suffering what I think is dementia and early stages
of Alzheimer's. DH and I argue about this all the time and I'm
not sure what to do. Talking to my MIL about the hand washing bit
is useless, as she'll forget the conversation in a day or less.
Wish me luck, please.
Signed - Frustrated DIL
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Worst gift: I have not
received many gifts from my MIL in the nearly 30 years of my marriage.
But, there was one birthday of mine that I wish she would have just
left me alone. My mom had passed away two days after my birthday.
It was then that I got a card (no gift) that stated an age that
was older than I had just turned.
Signed - Seen Unworthy
Of A Decent Card
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