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Mother-In-Law Stories
January 21, 2006
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Frequent
Fry Her TM - belladonna44,
1 of 4 needed /Posted: 21-JAN-06
I should have known that my MIL would be invasive
when it came to DH and me having children. Years ago, while DH
and I were dating, I had returned his wallet to his house (he was
still living at home). Well, I said, "Heads up," and
threw his wallet to him. Poor DH. He missed and took a nasty shot
to the, er, well, you know. MIL, who was sitting right there, looked
me dead in the face and said, "If you mess up my grandchildren,
I will hurt you." Talk about having him by the, ER, well,
you know. Or at least, she thought she did. I wonder if, now that
we're married, it would be a good time to tell her that I suffer
from PCOS, and I have a less than 20% chance of conceiving without
fertility drugs (which I vehemently refuse to take). To top it
off, maybe I should tell her that I don't want to have children
anyway!
Signed - Shoulda Seen
it Coming!
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BF and I have been together
for a little under a year. We have lived together for a large amount
of that time, as he is a farmer in a remote area in Australia.
I come from a city about 4 ½ hrs away. We live on the farm,
as do his parents, but about 10 min's away. Of course, his mum
is a pain in the butt. It's not that she actively dislikes me,
as my BF says that she has never said a nasty word about me to anyone.
I think that she likes the fact that her son is with me (hard for
guys to get women out here!). It is more that she is very controlling,
and behaves in a very thoughtless and tactless way. She often says
very rude and disrespectful things to me. I feel that it is more
just the way she is, personality-wise, as she behaves in a similar
way with her son, husband, daughters, etc. Still, it doesn't change
the fact that she is the most difficult woman I've ever known.
BF is behind me, and will try to support me if he can, but I feel
that he doesn't know how to stand up to his mum, as I don't think
anyone has ever tried to tell her that a lot of what she says/does
is unacceptable. She can be very domineering. She is the sort
of woman who prides herself as being the matriarch of the family,
but has no real control over decisions (her DH does that). But,
she will lord it over everyone, anyway. To compound this problem,
it is a family farm, and, as such, my BF works for them. He will
eventually take over the farm, as they are soon to retire. They
have very little trust in him and still see him as a kid in a lot
of ways. So, anything that is to be said to her would have to be
done tactfully. Up till now, I have not said anything to his mum
about her behavior towards me, and have kept silent. My question
is this: Should I ask my BF to be the one to stand up to his mum,
and tell her when she is behaving unacceptably (I worry about this,
as my BF, while a strong person in his own right, would maybe not
be able put across what I feel properly - maybe get a bit tongue-tied)?
Or, should I just start to do this myself? I am a strong person
also, quite capable of sticking up for myself, but I wonder if it
is my place to do this, and if I may damage things. I don't think
that I hate my MIL, and I think she does try to get along with me.
There are vast age differences (I'm 24, she is 40 years older than
me), as well as differences in personality, attitude, and outlook.
There is a definite personality clash, that I don't think would
ever go away. That said, I reckon it would be better for all if
we got along. Any thoughts would be appreciated.
Signed - Not Sure How
To Do Things
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My MIL is absolutely
horrible! We live in a small town and everything gets around to
everyone. I had a wonderful counselor who was working with me and
my family doctor to get on the right medications for my bipolar.
Well, since I was getting stable and more involved in life, she
had to go and ruin that. She called my counselor so much that the
counselor quit seeing me. She then called CPS and told them that
I was abusing my children, "doping them up" to make them
sleep so that I could sleep, not changing diapers to the point where
they were bleeding and raw, refusing medical treatment, etc. Well,
after a year of having CPS involved in my life (solely for the reason
of the bipolar, as the allegations were unfounded) I have allowed
her to see the children at least once a month now (when she made
the allegations, I refused to allow her to see them for nearly 6
months). My oldest son, who is 3, backed into a heater and burnt
his rear end, not bad, but enough. I made the mistake of allowing
him to visit her for the day. She took pictures of his rear and
made the comment that now she has proof and will take my kids for
sure! She didn't even attend our wedding. Granted, it was a civil
service, but my dad and my grandma where there. MIL and FIL were
less than 10 miles away, in the same town, but refused to come.
She even told me one time to leave my children with her while I
visited my dad, who lives a couple of hours away. She told me that
I had no right to take a baby on the highway for a trip like that,
not even to visit his grandfather. There are tons more, but this
is just the highlights. I am sure that she will tick me off again
sometime soon, and you will get to hear about it. I'm glad I found
this site - nice place to vent.
Signed - Venting at the
OK Corral
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