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Mother-In-Law Stories
January 25, 2006
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MIL went on this stupid
liquid fast diet and lost 9 pounds on it. So, she felt the need
to call DH and me up and brag incessantly about it. I just kind
of smiled and mumbled expressions like, "Well, good for you."
But I kept my mouth shut, other than that. Let the old bat do whatever
makes her happy, right? After two weeks of her constant calls about
this diet, she decided that we needed to do it, too. Now, I personally
feel that liquid diets are not the way to go. From my own sources,
I've read that diets like these only cause you to lose water and
muscle, not fat. Also, most of the time, when you go on these diets,
you will gain the weight right back, and then some (usually) because
your body is in starvation mode. Others may disagree, but I'm sticking
to my beliefs on the subject. I thought that those beliefs would
be respected. Anyway, I kindly told her why I wasn't interested
in doing this diet, but she wouldn't let up! She called me AT WORK
twice to convince me to do it, and then sent me the book that she
read that "changed her life". I did some research and
found out the book was published BY THE AUTHOR, (anybody can publish
whatever rubbish they want, if they pay for it), who didn't have
a degree in medicine, but in some other unrelated subject! Anyway,
even in light of this information, she thinks that I'm the crazy
one. She's really upset me, and I don't know what to do. If she
wants to do this crazy thing, fine. But I'm not doing it just because
she wants me to.
Signed - She Won't Take
No For An Answer!
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Being a good mother and
being a good human being shouldn't have to be mutually exclusive.
My MIL comes from an area of the US where mothers are regarded as
saints (and not just because they martyr themselves so much). Values
such as respect, honesty, loyalty, and trust completely escape my
MIL. Children are taught to respect their parents, but I have yet
to see her return the favor. She talks about us when we're two
feet away, bosses us around, invites people our home, and gossips
about her "loved ones" incessantly. When DH calls her
on her actions, instead of accepting responsibility, she uses motherhood
as an excuse for her poor behavior. If we're really lucky, we get
histrionics too! She can say the meanest and nastiest things to
both DH and me, but, if done with a big smile and funny voice, it's
somehow acceptable where she is from. You can say whatever you
want about someone, but if followed with "Bless her heart!"
it's somehow excusable. We just find it creepy. Like all mothers
through history, she's going through "empty nest" syndrome.
But, instead of dealing with it with grace and maturity, she keeps
trying to find someone or something to blame for this natural occurrence.
Her codependency is on par with an insecure teenager. She works
only 8 hours a week and has few hobbies, lives vicariously through
others' drama, and, well, you know what they say about idle hands.
I've watched as she's used guilt and manipulation to try and control
DH. Happily, DH doesn't buy into this nonsense. As we now live
in a northern, urban setting, we don't have to deal with it much.
Whenever we visit for the holidays, it's like entering the Twilight
Zone.
Signed - Sick of Mother
Hens
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I'm a first time story
writer, so bear with me, and I'm asking for advice. I have been
with my DH for 9 years (married 7) and have always had a fairly
good relationship with my MIL. We even lived next door to the ILs
for 5 years. During a recent hurricane we packed up the 3 kids
and went to their house for a few days. We live 20 minutes away,
no big deal. They had a generator, and we were afraid that our
power would be out for a while. During the four days tensions grew
with the stress of the storm and three screaming children (5, 3,
almost 2). DH and I did our best to control them, but MIL kept
pumping them full of sugar and chocolate, against our wishes. My
kids go BERSERK when they eat chocolate, and she knows that. Also,
every time I would start to correct the kids, she wouldn't even
let my sentence come out before she would interrupt and let them
do whatever they wanted. Therefore, she made me lose what little
respect I have for her. DH is VERY good at defending me and standing
up to her, but she didn't listen. As soon as we knew that our own
house had power, we hightailed it out of there. Now, here comes
the good stuff. Monday, DH went to the IL's to pick up his vehicle
that we had left there. MIL lectured him on how mean I am to the
kids, and that I am a spoiled brat who gets him to do anything that
I want (obviously MIL is jealous that he stands up for me). She
said that I yell too much (sometimes that's the only way to get
the loud, sugar-filled kids to hear you over their own voices!).
Oh, and she said that I talk about her behind her back, because
BIL and his GF were there and the GF told MIL that I was complaining
that MIL was intentionally sabotaging the kids. GF is playing both
sides because she was telling me that MIL talks about me, also.
After DH told me that, I was really hurt. I had tried my hardest
to control the kids, and to keep her happy! Anyway, I took the
high road (as usual) and let it roll off my back. I asked MIL and
two-faced GF to go to lunch and shopping with me while my kids were
at school on Thursday so that they could get out of the house (they're
still without power). I also offered our extra bedrooms, since
we have power. They declined housing (YEA!), and MIL told me that
her Thursday was too chaotic to do lunch because BIL had a doctor's
appointment (he's 26 and still needs mommy). DH and I were eating
lunch Thursday instead, and DH called BIL to see how the appointment
had gone. BIL said that it had gotten canceled Wednesday evening,
and he was shopping with my MIL and his GF!!!!! They totally excluded
me. They could have called and invited me, and said that their
plans changed. But, no! I am really hurt, and don't know what
to do. I have never had a confrontation with her and have always
been the nice one. Anyone know what I should do? Please help.
I am not spoiled and mean. How do I get her back on my good side?
Signed - Hurt Feelings
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