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Mother-In-Law Stories
February 17, 2006
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DH once told me that
his mother asked him the day before our wedding if he was SURE that
he wanted to marry me. To this day it still bothers me. Is that
bad, or should I not take it personally, as my DH so often says?
Signed - Is This Bad?
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My MIL is crazy, and
I would love to receive any responses. A little background: MIL
is 56 years old, her boyfriend is 37 years old. So, he is literally
only a couple of years older than my DH. They have been dating
for 20 years, and they have lived together this whole time. She
has 6 kids with her previous DH. I am married to the son in the
middle. She constantly gives to each of her kids and is always
bailing them out of trouble. See, they are in and out of jail and
rehab all of the time. DH is the only one who actually did anything
with his life. They each have kids (with numerous partner) whom
they don't take care of. Bottom-line, it is really pathetic. She
does not work, and lives on "disability". I am still
trying to figure out how she gets it. Her BF makes a "decent"
living as a factory worker. She has always depended on her dad
to give her money (he was quite wealthy), and since he has passed
away, she is depending on his money and the sale of his home to
purchase a home very close to my family. It is like a REDNECK SOAP
OPERA WITH THEM ALL OF THE TIME! I absolutely do not want them
living that close to us due to all of the drama that is constantly
surrounding them. We are actually trying to raise our son to be
a good person, on who is not involved in that kind of lifestyle.
She and her BF love to make comments to me about my weight. When
she gets the chance, she loves to say things to my 10 year old like,
"I don't know why your mom hates me," and, "We are
your family, too. I don't know why she acts the way she does with
us. She hurts our feelings." I would NEVER talk bad about
them to my son, and honestly, I never say anything to them. I only
defend myself when they make comments FIRST. Since they always
act as nice as can be around my DH, he thinks that I take this too
seriously. But, most women don't want to hear rude comments from
their MIL, and I think he just doesn't get it. I have told her
that I don't think it is a good idea for them to move close to us,
but it just pushes her to do it sooner. I told DH, and he says
that as long as they don't come around a lot, it should be OK.
I don't think it is possible. She calls me now just to tell me
how house hunting in our area is going. I think she enjoys making
me sick. Any suggestions???
Signed - For SALE in
the Capitol
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DH and I are in the process
of having our first baby. I am 7 months pregnant. His parents
are really strange people. His father is an ex-drug addict and
his mother is obsessed with him. She comes off as this really sweet
woman, but once you get to know her it becomes war. She will do
anything or say anything to butt into our business or make herself
more important in our lives. When she had found out that I was
pregnant, she went and bought a van. She told me that she got it
so that she could be a soccer mom. She has gone and bought a whole
bedroom set and baby clothes for MY baby for her house. WE don't
even have a crib yet, or anything. Doesn't that sound a little
bit odd? One of the last times that I was over there she came up
to me and said, "I want to touch my baby." I had to tell
her that this is my baby, not hers. She honestly believes that
my baby is going to be her baby. I feel a lot of resentment towards
her for this, especially since I really don't want my baby going
to their house. They smoke and someone recently threw a brick through
a window in the bedroom that my baby would have been sleeping in.
I don't feel comfortable with that. We also recently got our car
seat and we were telling them about it. FIL interrupted us to ask
if we had seen the car seat that his mother had gotten for the baby.
I lied and said no, when I had seen it the last time I was over
there. It is a used, dirty car seat. It looks incredibly cheap;
the plastic looks like it could break on any impact. I told DH
that my baby would not be riding in that car seat. I feel like
his mother is trying to compete with me over my baby. I am the
one carrying it in my stomach for nine months and I will be delivering
it - not her. I can't handle it. This is my baby!!! I don't know
how to handle her and I don't want to snap at her, but I feel that
this is going to lead up to a big fight and I was raised to not
hurt other people's feelings. Another problem is that DH is an
only child. He is also an only grandchild. I understand that my
baby is exciting to them, but it is exciting to me and I don't want
to compete for it. I don't know how to talk to my BF about this
because I don't want to hurt his feelings. They are his mother
and father. The more and more they talk about my baby, the more
and more I don't want them near it. They use bad language and smoke.
I don't think that is a very good influence. His father has only
been off drugs for a couple of months and his mother loves being
a victim of their problems. She is also throwing a fit about me
not wanting her in the delivery room. The only people I want are
my mom and my DH. I would feel violated if other people were in
there. I know that it is a stressful time and I know that I would
scream at her. I don't want that stress. AAAAHHHH!!!!! This isn't
as bad as other people's problems with their MILs, but I was hoping
that someone would be able to give me some advice on how to appropriately
handle this situation. Thank you.
Signed - Silently Wishing
My MIL Away!!!
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