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Mother-In-Law Stories
February 18, 2006
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I got married about year
and a half back. DH is the only son, and he is adopted.
My ILs decided to adopt him after more than 15 years marriage.
The problem is that they interfere a lot in our married life.
Plus, they want to take control of my DH totally. I find it
difficult to explain fully, but here goes. DH is pampered
too much by my ILs. It has been done so much that since he
got to know that he is adopted, he kind of feels indebted to them.
Therefore, he cannot say anything to them like, "Lay off."
Now, being old, all of their attention and energies are just focused
on us. If we go out, even for a dinner, they make a face.
They have not let DH grow up. They still control all the finances
and all the major decisions. The result is that DH has grown
into being someone who does not have confidence in himself.
He cannot make decisions and cannot stand up on his own. They
wish to be notified about everything in our lives. If DH tries
telling them something, they start off saying that they are feeling
unwell, and then he keeps quiet. As I told you, he feels indebted
to them in a way because of being adopted. In our culture
it is very difficult to move out, especially for an only child.
So, that's not an option left for us. Getting fed up of all
this, I have started to work in order to divert my attention.
But, when I go home in the evening, I see the swollen faces of my
ILs. As a result, I have reduced my talking terms a great
extent with MIL. It's just that they want to control our lives,
which they have done to a big extent In the evenings, when
DH gets back, we want to sit in our room. Then they make a
face. If we want to go on a vacation, they have to put up
100 points. To my DH, they make it seem as if they are just
too caring for him. I don't know how to find a way out, but
I am getting frustrated. I cannot expect DH to go and talk
to them, and I am also scared that once I have a child, they will
want to do everything for him and I will be left out. Please
Help.
Signed - Depressed DIL
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MIL is wonderful to my
children, thank G-d. She always buys them toys and the like.
She wants to see my children, but she knows that I have such a hectic
schedule. She calls me and wants me to drive them over once
a week at the most difficult time. Instead of offering me
a hand, she insists that they come over. If I agree, she will
sit me down and lecture me about my parenting skills. This
is not her place. She makes me feel so bad about the way they
eat, sleep, dress, etc. Yet, she will feed them hot dogs and
french fries, and put them in front of the TV (which we don't have
in our house, and don't want them to watch) for hours.
Signed - Not Her Place
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- sonotthedrama /Posted: 18-FEB-06
I haven't written in a while, since we have almost
no contact with MIL anymore. However, there have been a few
little things that she has done that have irked me and caused me
to wonder if maybe I am just being paranoid/hypersensitive?
For example, for our son's first birthday she only sent an email
greeting card - a picture of a sleeping cat with the message that
read, "Hope you have sweet dreams on your birthday."
First of all, an email card for a 1 year old?! At least send
a paper card that I could've put into his scrapbook. Fast
forward 6 months to my DD's 6th birthday - SAME card! She
couldn't even pick out a new card! And really, wishing a 6
year old "sweet dreams" on her birthday? Don't kids
usually want ice cream and cake and a party - it seems a rather
strange sentiment for a kid's greeting card. When I pointed
this out to my DH, he said, "Maybe she's hoping they never
wake up." Add to this the fact that in previous years,
before I wised up to her evil ways, she used to spoil DD and DS#1
rotten - so much so that we had to limit what she could send for
their birthdays and Christmas. This year a lousy email card
was the only acknowledgment - like DD wasn't going to realize that
this year nana didn't even send her ANYTHING! Shame on her
for taking it out on a 6 year old!
Signed - Sleeping Sweetly
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