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Mother-In-Law Stories
February 28, 2006
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I met my DF a year ago,
and truly believe that I have found the one. After hearing about
his family situation I thought it was odd, but now I understand
it completely. His father lives in a one bedroom apartment about
50 miles from "their house" to be "closer to his
work and his doctors", since he has had medical problems.
I thought, OK this is just what works for him. About 5 months after
we started dating I decided to start looking for a new apartment.
SHE came up with this grand idea to have me and my DDs move in.
I was ok with it, as was my DF, at the time. It would help me financially.
It would also help my DF, since he has been the one to help support
this house that she built in the middle of nowhere, that costs a
fortune to maintain each month, that her husband was not supporting.
NOW I GET IT!!! One - her DH can't stand living with her. She
visits him once a month. When he is here, he sleeps on an air mattress
on their bedroom floor. He has that luxury of not putting up with
her. I am so jealous. Second, it was a huge plan to keep her son
close. She did not like that he was with me all the time, and this
was her way of keeping him at home, since I'd be there. We pay
a great deal to help with expenses, enough to be in our own house
with a mortgage at this point, while she works a crummy job, making
8 bucks an hour. We also do most of the work around the house,
dishes, cleaning, garbage, the yard work, etc., while she does whatever
she wants to do, painting signs for the yard and building a pond
out of a kiddie pool. Now her biggest thing is to get on my DF
about the fact that he has put on some weight in the past year.
She constantly hovers over him, watches what he eats, etc., She
lectures him for ordering a pizza, while she sits down to enjoy
it right along with him. She does not believe that it has more
to do with him now working a desk job and longer hours, and spending
3 hours a day in the car. Yet, the woman can't cook and we all
choke down whatever she makes. She is way too involved with his
friends and treats them as her friends, going so far to act like
his GF when they are around, and cutting me out of any conversations
that are going on. She told me that she, her son, and his friends
have always been close. There is history there, and I will just
have to get used to it. I am the outsider. She now tells him that
our wedding this spring is too soon, and we are making a mistake.
She loves to go into our room when I am tending to my kids to complain
about me to him and to make all these comments behind my back.
She has no life, and in my eyes she wants her son to replace the
DH, who wants nothing to do with her. It's not in a sick way, but
he takes care of her way too much. I can't take much more, and
instead of putting money into our wedding fund, I have been putting
money away to move out. I don't want to leave him, but I can't
take her anymore. SHE'S NUTS!! There is much more that I could
write, but I am not sure how much space I have. Thanks for letting
me vent!!
Signed - Red Headed Gurrl
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FIL owns rental houses,
one of them being right behind our house. DH has his realtor's
license and has always taken care of renting and problems at the
houses for the ILs. This summer the rental house behind us became
vacant and needed to be repainted, etc., so FIL hired people to
do it, based on DH's recommendations and THEIR walk-through of the
property together. DH has been taking care of these properties
for years for his family, at a reduced rate, and they are horrible
to him about them. Anyway, we noticed a car parked in the driveway
of the rental house and called FIL about it. He told DH that he
had rented it out on his own, and not to worry about it anymore.
But, he asked if could he leave a key at our house so that if anything
went wrong, we could just run over and take care of it - for FREE?!!!!
Signed - Uh, No?!!!!!!!
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I think I have found
the key to a successful MIL relationship, and it doesn't include
murder. I have been dealing with my MIL for 19 years now, including
dating time. She has given me a lot of sharp comments and caused
me a lot of anguish over the years. However, I learned, after 2
years of marriage, that the key was my DH being on my side. When
DH finally admitted that she was doing this to me, but he felt so
sorry for her for being such a low person, everything changed.
If DH was on my side, the rude and mean things that she said and
did to show her frustration at losing her most cherished son to
me really didn't matter anymore. There are still times when I would
like to smack her. But, for the most part communication whereby
DH is present and backing me up in a kind way seems to clear up
any ongoing problems. She often says that I am the best DIL she
could ask for and that she always knew that I was the one for DH
(Yeah, right, how many times do you think she tried to break us
up when we were dating for 5 years?!!). Clearing the air in a nice,
but firm way usually puts her back in line.
Signed - It's Been Working
For Nineteen Years!
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