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Mother-In-Law Stories
March 2, 2006
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FEBRUARY
2006
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My MIL is like many others,
very controlling, opinionated and nosy. She is so controlling that
our relationship deteriorates over differences of opinion. I have
tried my hardest to foster a relationship between my DH and her,
and wanting our DD to have her in her life, but she gets so angry
that she won't speak to our family for weeks. She sends clippings,
books, articles and letters to "prove" her correct opinion.
I try to ignore it and blow off her tantrums, letting things blow
over and accepting her as just "her being her". What
I am not sure of is whether this is the sort of conditional relationship
that she will build with our DD. I don't think that it would be
worth it to make some kind of big stand, thinking that she is ever
going to see things our way - just happy to have each other, and
let everyone live their adult lives as they want to. I am talking
where to shop, what types of fruits and vegetables to buy, how to
prepare them - not things worth fighting over! It gets so blown
out of proportion. I have asked her to slow down and think about
what is really bothering her, because I know that these small things
cannot be the source of such anger. She did not want to hear that!
I just don't know what to do. Any words of wisdom out there?
Signed - Why Can't We
Just Get Along?
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Before I got married
everything was fine between MIL and me. After I got engaged, everything
went downhill. MIL started to do things such as decorating, providing
already made table favors, and doing things without asking me first.
Of course, I just ignored it and let it pass by. After we got married,
5 days later, MIL was getting on our case to have a baby. "We
want a baby. You better start working on having a baby, and it
better be a boy, because we already have a GD". A month later
I found out that I was pregnant, which is what we wanted. When
the ILs found out, everything got even worse. When I was three
months along, my MIL kept telling me to find a pediatrician right
away. HMmmm, I was only 3 months along! Right now I'm almost 9
months pregnant. The further my pregnancy gets, the more comments
she has to make. As soon as I give birth, a day after, she wants
me to drop off my newborn at her house so that she can watch him
for the first week while I stay at home and sleep. Let's see, I
plan on breastfeeding! Then she told me that I might not be able
to because my SIL couldn't. She has told me to my face so many
times, "He is MINE." She told my brother one day that
he will have to fight for my baby if he wants to baby-sit him, because
she will have him first. When I was at her house, out of the blue
she decided to tell me that if I plan on nursing, I had better start
pumping like crazy because she wanted to bottle feed him. She has
made all these plans to baby-sit him, and she told me to get a special
car seat for her car so that she can take him wherever. She is
making me feel like this isn't my child, even though this is my
first baby. They gave me a guilt trip, saying, "I have a feeling
that you are going to become so attached to this baby that you are
not going to bring him over, and we won't see him." Yah know,
my parents don't make comments, nor do they give me guilt trips
like this! My parents live 2 hrs away, and my ILs live 15 minutes
away! They think that they have more seniority over my family just
because they live closer. As for when I go into labor, I decided
that I didn't want any visitors the day I give birth, because I
know that I will not be in the mood for visitors. I had told my
DH this, and he understood. However, I found out that my ILs are
taking the week that I'm due off from work. MIL told DH, "I
don't have to be in the delivery room, but I'm going to be in the
waiting room because I want to be the first person so see the baby."
Hmm, how soon does she expect to see him?! I can't take this pushiness,
and it's getting me so stressed out. I know that it's going to
get worse after he is born. Every time she has a comment, I just
ignore it. But I'm thinking that I need to say something soon,
before it gets worse. I'm not sure what else to do???
Signed - Stressed Out!!!
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Worst gift: My MIL has
given me wrinkle cream for every holiday and birthday for the past
15 years. My ILs get a big kick out watching the whole insane process.
DH says that I am uptight, and that his mother just wants me to
look good for him. If she does give me an article of clothing,
I could cover a couch with it. I wish the woman would say what's
on her mind and quit this passive/aggressive stuff.
Signed - Withering Lilly
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