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Mother-In-Law Mall
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Mother-In-Law Stories
March 14, 2006
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FEBRUARY
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My DH's GM is 89. She
is more like his mom, because she partially helped raise him. I
know that a lot of people say that she is old, let her be, but she
is in excellent physical and mental condition. My problems started
early with her. They have gotten a little better, but you can tell
that she will never really accept me. Lately, I have been doing
a great deal for her, taking her to the hospital and running errands
for her while she is there. I do her laundry every week, etc.
My problem is that come Christmas time, she always gets me the stupidest
gifts. She always gets me a hot pad, a dish towel, or candy, even
though she knows that I am trying to lose weight. But, she gets
her new DIL of 6 months things like jewelry, nice clothing, things
like that. I know that Christmas shouldn't be about the gifts you
receive, and I'm not trying to be selfish, but I do so much more
for her than her sons new wife, whom she has known for four years.
It just seems like a continuous slap in the face every year. I
don't spend a lot of money on her, but I do try to buy things that
I know she likes, or can definitely use. I've tried to drop little
hints about what I would like as a gift, but she never listens.
Any advice on this situation?
Signed - I Do So Much
More For Her
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Well, once again MIL
has pulled out all the stops and guilted DH into going over to her
house for Christmas. AGAIN! DH and I have been married for 25
years. Our silver anniversary is just before Christmas. Has she
even mentioned this? No! She wants us all to pretend that we're
all one big happy family, but my SIL has been a b!tch to me since
our wedding day, and has never stopped. She's never acknowledged
what she's said or done, much less apologized. It is all I can
do to remain civil to her and not slap her. DH and I had a six
hour fight about this and I agreed to three hours at his mother's
house on Christmas Day. But, I know that MIL will be her manipulating,
controlling self (as usual) and try to get us to reschedule on another
day so that we can be there for an 9-12 hour marathon of misery.
Or, she'll try to find some way to get us to stay longer on Christmas
Day. She'll want us there for dinner (we're eating at my dad's
house; he was widowed less than a year ago and he really needs his
family around during the holidays). DH said, "Trust me. We'll
only be there a few hours." I said I would, but frankly, I
know this woman far better than he does, and he doesn't have any
idea the tricks she's going to pull. This came about by her "accidentally"
arranging a meeting where SIL, BIL, MIL, DH and I all showed up
at the same place at the same time. It was not an accident. She
planned it carefully. DH does not believe that his mother is capable
of doing this. HA! When BIL and I briefly left the room (BIG mistake),
MIL began crying and wanted to know why DH's wife (me) and his sis
"couldn't get along for one day so we could have Christmas".
Well, we DID have Christmas two years ago and SIL and I were civil
to each other, but I thought that it would be the LAST one. I walked
in just in time to see MIL wipe away some tears (sniff, sniff) and
ask me, "Can't you and SIL get along for just one day?"
Not having any idea the one day she was referring to was Christmas,
I said, "Sure." SECOND big mistake. During the argument
that DH and I had afterwards he said, "She's almost 80. This
could be her last Christmas." My response, "She's almost
80 and in great health. She could live another 15 years or more!"
"You're making me choose between me and my mother." My
response, "Your mother put you in that position. If you're
right and she's dead in a couple of years, you're going to be hearing
about how I can count the number of Christmases we've had at our
own home or with my parents on one hand for many, many years to
come." MIL actually wants SIL and I to like each other, which
is NEVER going to happen. She's afraid that SIL and DH won't have
anything to do with each other after she's dead. And she's right!
DH doesn't like SIL, either! The history goes back waaaay too far,
and the insults and cruel things SIL has said and done to me were
too horrible for us ever to socialize. Two examples: 1) On our
wedding day SIL said, "Hope it's a girl!" I wasn't pregnant.
In fact, I'd had a stillborn DD with my first (deceased) DH. 2)
Our youngest son had open heart surgery when he was three months
old, and on his first Christmas, when I expressed my relief that
he had a first Christmas, SIL said, "Well, it's not that big
a deal. You have extra sons." MIL makes excuses for all of
these incidents, claiming that I'm too sensitive or that it was
all a misunderstanding. She refuses to believe that HER DD could
possibly be the b!tch that she is. For now I'll trust my DH to
limit the Christmas visit to three hours on Christmas Day, as he
has promised. He will get he!! if that's changed. I will be civil
to my SIL and MIL, although I will also do my best to avoid spending
any time alone with SIL. I suspect that MIL may try to push us
together. I have also told DH that this will be the LAST Christmas
Day I spend at MIL's house, as I would like to spend Christmas at
my home, with our family, from now on. I would be happy to hear
your advice and comments. Thank you.
Signed - Been There And
Fed Up
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