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Mother-In-Law Mall
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Mother-In-Law Stories
October 22, 2006
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My MIL controls my family.
One day she decided that she did not like my curtains, and decided
to change them when I was not home. She attempted to enroll my
preschooler in a religious school without my consent. Every winter
holiday she comes over to my house and decides what to cook in my
kitchen. She always criticizes what I buy, but never buys anything
nice for herself because she is too cheap. She constantly belittles
my DH's ex-wife in front of me and their children. It has affected
them so that if they do visit their mother, my DH tells his kids,
"Do not tell grandma, you know how she gets." When my
DH's eldest son married, my MIL ranted for months because he had
a dance with his own mother and not her. My MIL purposefully leaks
hurtful info about other family members to me. For example, she
told me that her grandson's wife spent a weekend in a psych ward,
and that her other DIL had an affair. If my MIL couldn't say mean
things about people, she would have nothing at all to say. I am
sure that she has nothing nice to say about me. She controls her
son and grandkids by guilt. Last week my DH took me out for pizza.
We were gone for an hour. MIL told my son (once he came home from
school) that no one loves her because we did not tell/take her with
us. We take her everywhere. In fact, she lives right across our
driveway, and my DH just spent his life savings building her a new
home. Help, please!
Signed - Fed Up!
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My DH and I have been
married for a little more than a year. About a month ago MIL verbally
attacked me, and my tolerance of her was brought to an end. I have
never really liked her because of her controlling and judgmental
ways, but I tried to tolerate her for DH's sake. No more. Around
this time DH asked if SIL could stay with us for a few months until
she got back on her feet. SIL is a carbon copy of MIL, and I wanted
to say, "he!! no," but DH adores his baby sis and her
child, so I said ok. SIL has days when she is fine and we can talk
and laugh, then she does a 180 and won't even speak. She is not
a good mother and that irks me more than anything else. I feel
like I can't say anything because DH never will, and if I do, then
I know I will be accused of trying to take DH from his family.
He and MIL have always had problems, but now I am the cause of them.
I don't want to always have to be the bad guy, but I could really
do without his family. Sometimes I . . .
Signed - Wish I'd Married
an Orphan
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Frequent
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- breadandbutterfly, 4 of 4 needed/Posted: 22-OCT-06
I want to reiterate (mostly to myself) that
I know that my FMIL isn't evil, and she does mean well. I think
that she's just on her own planet and doesn't really think about
how certain things that she does and says are really inconsiderate
and pushy. This site has really helped me cope, because it's made
me feel lucky that she's not just plain nasty. I am also lucky
because I've figured out how to make sure that DF is on my side
and he has talked to her (a will do so in the future). FFIL has
also been mediating, bless his heart. So with that intro said,
I just need to vent about things that happened during her last visit.
She is a very needy person. The only thing that she has ever known
has been her work and children. She never traveled until her children
moved to far away places, and she hates to leave home. She has
to be in control of her environment, and going to visit other peoples'
homes means that she has to be flexible. Needless to say, she can
be very demanding and needy when she comes to visit us, and it takes
a lot to accommodate her. That's fine, though, I can deal with
that and even understand. She couldn't make it to my baby shower
(she just COULDN'T leave the dogs!!!). So she decided (without
talking to DF or me first) that she was going to have a party at
her house, while I was 8 months pregnant. She wanted us to drive
12 hours to visit her for the weekend. I said that I just couldn't
be in the car for that long because I've been having back problems,
and I wasn't supposed to fly this late in my pregnancy because I
have a heart murmur. I felt bad that she was disappointed because
it was a nice gesture on her part, but not too bad because she should
understand not wanting to travel when you're that pregnant and should
have talked to us about it first before making a bunch of plans.
Plus, when my DF asked her who exactly she was planning to invite
(there are only a couple people in their family, and most of them
are very far away), it wasn't family. It wasn't DF's friends.
It was HER friends, whom DF either doesn't know or really doesn't
like. Of course, I don't know any of them at all. NOT worth driving
12 hours for 2 days. Sorry. So, to let her know that it wasn't
personal (although I'll admit here that it kind of was because of
the stress she gave me from our last visit to her house) I told
DF that he was welcome to invite her to come down and visit US for
a long weekend, as even with her travel anxiety, it is easier for
her to travel. She accepted our invitation, which made me anxious.
But I knew that it was important to DF to spend time with his mother.
Sometimes his attachment to his DM bothers me, but I let it go because
he will stick up for me, isn't totally blind, and I know that him
treating her so well is a mirror of how he treats me. However,
DF is also kind of an idealist. He thought that it would be great
if we invited my mom to visit for the weekend, too, since our moms
had been having nice chats on the phone. My mom is awesome, and
I love her to death, but she can be very absent minded and gets
very easily stressed out and anxious. Two neurotic mothers on one
weekend? Now I'M really stressed out. But I decided to indulge
DF and just give it a shot, as it seemed to mean a lot to him.
This is getting long, so stay tuned for part two.
Signed - Stay Tuned
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