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Mother-In-Law Stories
December 10, 2006
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When my DH and I had been
married only 7 months, we were surprised to discover that we were
pregnant. We never told my ILs that my pregnancy was a surprise,
because we knew how they would act. With no basis, my MIL went
and told the ENTIRE extended family that I had "tricked"
my DH into getting pregnant.
Signed - DIL To The BEAST
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My mom has always been
ill, and my dad was always away. Dad held a high rank in the military,
which meant that we where left to fend for ourselves. I can remember
being around 7 and telling myself to put my mom and my sister first,
as they needed me more than I did. At 14 I found out from my mom
that dad had a GF. Their relationship was already 8 years old.
They even had a cat with the same name as ours. My mom went into
a state of grief, and has not been the same since. She got very
mean and nothing we did was ever good enough. My sister left as
soon as she could, and has never looked back. I am now 35, and
I have my own DH and DS. My DM thinks that I have deserted her,
which in a way I have. I tried every idea that I can think of to
make my parent's life a little better, from keeping them together
to helping them go their separate ways. But I think that they are
comfortable in the hole that they dug for themselves. Mom stayed
with dad, her life got worse, and I couldn't help. She would do
nothing. I don't think that she was emotionally able. I told her
that I thought she needed help because this was killing her. She
told me that I was a weak troublemaker and that this was life.
My dad still has a GF, and we just found out that he also has a
massive drug habit, which would explain why we never had any money
and why he wouldn't help me through college or contribute to my
wedding. I am so upset that I couldn't help them, but I think that
mom thought that she couldn't make it through life on her own.
My DH thinks that my family is very strange, that my mom is a nasty
piece of work, and dad is a ****. Enter my ILs: My MIL is your
typical bad MIL. DH always stands up to her, but we have to spend
birthdays and Christmas with her because she is "family".
She is nice to me when other people are present, and wicked when
we are alone. I think that she sees me as an emotional punching
bag, probably because of my demeanor. I behave like a natural victim.
I have spent so long putting myself last, that when she starts an
argument, I freeze. I just can't deal with it. If she knew what
my family was really like, she would have a field day. I would
be happy if I never saw her again, as she makes life harder. But
it's not my decision to make. DH and DS love her. I have told
DH what she does when he is not around. He balled her out and told
me to do the same. Any ideas as to what I should do or say?
Signed - Where Do I Go
From Here?
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My MIL is a nightmare.
She makes racist remarks (I'm not of her race). She tells me that
mothers should not work outside the home, when I've been a full-time
working professional for 23 years. She walks up to me and says,
"Any religion is better than no religion (I'm not particularly
religious)". She criticizes my parenting, saying that I overbook
the kids. I have to say that I have a great relationship with my
wonderful teenage DS and DD. They are both very active in the community,
sports, and the arts. She undermines my parenting by telling the
kids that she wanted to give them a TV for Christmas for their rooms,
but their mom didn't want her to. She tells me that smart people
are weird (I think she means me). At least she used to give me
a joint Christmas present with my DH, a gift card for my birthday,
and hugged me when I stepped forward to hug her. My DH has always
taken the stance that I have to deal with it; that's how his mother
is; ignore her. A few years ago she was baby-sitting our kids while
we were at a wedding. I called to ask if she could bring them home,
because we were running late. She yelled at me for not letting
the kids finish their TV show (excuse me, I didn't even know they
were in the middle of a show). I told my DH that I would never
ask her to baby-sit again, and basically broke off all communication.
I stopped inviting her over for dinner, to the kids' events, to
theater and restaurants (none of which were ever reciprocated by
her). Also, I didn't like the fact that unbeknownst to me, my DH's
alcoholic, drug-addicted, ex-felon, homeless brother was living
with his parents while they were watching my kids. My DH finally,
after 16 years, told her that I felt uncomfortable around her, thought
she didn't like me, and I was sensitive about comments about my
parenting. The outward hostility stopped, mostly because we now
only see her four times a year, when she celebrates every birthday
except mine. Now her actions are of omission - birthday celebrations
and presents for everyone but me, hugs for everyone but me. Question:
I feel like I've been bullied for 16 years by her outright hostile
and passive/aggressive actions, and now actions of omission. I'm
really upset at myself that I never stood up to her. Should I boycott
the birthday events, since mine is not acknowledged? If I say something,
it sounds like I'm whining for presents and hugs. How pathetic
is that?
Signed - Lessons In How
Not To Be A MIL
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