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Mother-In-Law Mall
A place to find great gifts!
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Mother-In-Law Stories
December 21, 2006
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Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- LondonCalling/Posted: 21-DEC-06
In 6 weeks time we will be celebrating our
eldest son's bar mitzvah, something that we have been looking forward
to since he was born. And yet, I am approaching the day with mixed
feelings. I am very sad that none of my immediate family will be
there - both parents and my only sister have all passed away. But
what I am dreading the most is what my MIL has up her sleeve for
the big day. This woman has to be in the limelight, and she just
cannot, or will not allow someone else to have it. She will try
and portray herself as the loving grandmother in front of all our
guests, which is just not true at all. And nobody knows it more
than all 3 of my sons, who are used to being largely ignored by
her. I know that she is going to try and boss me around in front
of my guests, which is going to drive me crazy. To top it all off,
FIL has been very ill recently, and she is busy letting everybody
know it, and playing the stoic martyr. As the day draws closer,
I am getting really jittery, and would really appreciate any advice
on how to handle the MIL monster on the day so it isn't ruined for
DS, DH, our other DSs and me.
Signed - How To Handle
The MIL Monster
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I was so happy to find
this site and know I am not alone in the MIL area. I am not sure
when I realized what a selfish person that my MIL actually is.
But it finally occurred to me one day that no matter what, she is
not going to be any nicer than she is now. My DH and I have been
married a year and a half, together for a little over 3 years, and
are expecting our first child this winter. I have a DD from a previous
marriage. I guess it all started the first Easter when DH and I
were dating and we were leaving the IL's house. I didn't say good
bye properly to MIL and SIL. I was talked about behind my back
to the tune of what is my problem and why didn't I wave. I should
have known what I was in store for. DH and I got engaged in the
summer of that same year. We were at his nephew's birthday party
and he announced our engagement. I tried showing my ring. Well,
MIL did not like that. She stole the spotlight and then showed
off the ring that she had gotten for her birthday from FIL. So
I just sucked it up and said no more about our engagement. We planned
our wedding and sent out invitations. Then she was mad at me because
I invited HER family from out of town. They would have to stay
with her, and, "Where will they stay?", she doesn't have
enough room. Things pretty well always revolve around how things
affect HER. When I go to family gatherings, I pretty much get ignored.
I don't fit it with her and my two SILs. DH and I usually sit by
ourselves when we visit. Why even go? I don't understand why DH
even wants to be around that, but I go to make him happy. So I
am now in my 8th month of pregnancy. MIL has never actually acknowledged
the pregnancy, asked me how I am doing, nothing. She ignores me,
like I said. DH says that this is just the way she is. She is
selfish. Some friends are having a shower for me, as my daughter
is 7 and I don't have much baby stuff left over. I told MIL about
it via email, and she said, "Well, I wish I had known earlier.
We are having out of town guests." Why wouldn't she just say,
"Hey, can I bring my friend who is visiting?" So to make
matters worse, we are going to visit DH's family for Christmas.
We have to stay with his brother, and sleep in his basement. I
am up and down 6 times a night to use the bathroom, and will have
to walk up and down those stairs all those times. No one even suggested
that we sleep somewhere else. So I am miserable now anticipating
this visit. Don't you just love the holidays? Wow. It sure helps
to vent.
Signed - I Am Miserable
Now Anticipating This Visit
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My DH and I have been
married for 10 years. We dated for 8 prior to getting married.
My MIL has been a thorn in my side for 15 of those years. Last
Christmas she "told me off" in my own home because I did
not greet her in the manner in which she believed she deserved.
I said, "Hello! Merry Christmas!", when she walked through
the front door. But then I continued to help my DH with the preparations
in the kitchen. According to her I am supposed to "drop everything
when my guest (MIL) walks through the door". She then treated
my son rudely and harshly when he asked her to play with him. When
I stepped in, she told me that it was not my place to say anything
about the way she was talking to my son, that I was out of line!
I have expressed that I disagree with the way she handled things
last Christmas, and that I am the parent here, not her (despite
the fact that she still refers to herself as "Mommy" when
talking to my son). She is coming to our home on Christmas Day,
and we are all wondering what we'll be greeted with when she arrives.
She has ignored all of my offers for a "white flag" over
the past year, has ignored all photos of my 4-year-old son, and
has treated the entire family like garbage, to put it plainly.
She continued to ignore us (my child included) on Thanksgiving and
pouted in the corner of the room. My son looked at me and shrugged
in confusion when she continued to read her paper instead of answering
the question he tried to ask. She never even looked up! She refuses
to EVER acknowledge that she has done something wrong; it is everyone
else who is at fault. She creates her own world in which what she
says and does is always right. At this point, several of us would
like to tell her to stay away, but would she even respect our wishes?
Signed - Tired Of It
All!
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