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Mother-In-Law Mall
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Mother-In-Law Stories
February 11, 2007
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I believe that all IL
problems would just melt away if we DILs had the unconditional support
of DH. Even when they know that their parents are wrong, our DHs
will never take our side, but expect us to understand and accommodate.
They do not want their parents to get hurt in any way, but they
are more than ok with sacrificing their DW's happiness and sanity. Ours
was a love marriage and my DH fought with both sides of parents
just so that we could get married. I guess now he feels guilty
for going against his family, and wants to do everything to please
them. Even though we had taken a huge mortgage and bought our own
house, our ILs insisted that we stay with them, and DH was too kind
to say no. I was just a new bride trying to make a good impression,
and didn't object (that was my big mistake). Their house has just
2 rooms, not 2 bedrooms, just 2 rooms; a sitting room cum kitchen
and 1 bedroom. Mind you, the bedroom doesn't even have a door,
just a curtain that I have to ensure is drawn. When my DH and I
want to get intimate, I have to keep my voice down and keep 1 eye
on the entrance. They make my life miserable. If they knew that
we went to see our own place and clean up, they would go berserk.
They used to get upset if my DH and I had dinner out or stayed out
late at night. They said that my DH would not be able to protect
me from rapists and thieves. If I am not safe with my DH, then
whom am I safe with? FIL is supposed to be a very religious man,
but he is nothing but a hypocrite. SIL bought a house 3 years ago,
but hasn't told FIL because he will keep telling her that she spent
money on herself, and not on him. BTW, none of my SILs get support
from my ILs. In fact, my DH had to bear the complete expense for
the wedding of both my SILs (one 31 years, and the other 38 years).
Mind you, they earn much more than my DH, but they said that as
he is the son in the family, it is his duty to marry them off.
He is the youngest in the family, BTW. When my DH was posted abroad,
she did not want to me to join him, as she wanted me to stay with
her and learn the meaning of a family. Who the he!! is she to teach
me? Her own DDs do not know what a family is. My SIL steals my
clothes and even my money. I know that she does because when I
go to her house, I see all my stuff there. I can't say a word because
my DH will just not allow me to. He says that he will replace everything
that she steals. He just refuses to see how miserable I am, and
if I talk to him about it ( I've tried over and over again), he
just blows up and tells me that I am a good wife, but a terrible
DIL. He wants me to look after his parents even though we don't
get along at all. They hate me and make it very clear. I tried
being nice for almost 3 years, but can't take it anymore. I almost
had a nervous break down, but I can't let my DH see that because
he just blames everything on me. I know that he loves me dearly,
but he will never put me before his parents. I will always come
second in his life. My ILs don't remember my birthday (they get
tons of gifts for DH) and they don't acknowledge our wedding anniversary.
They are destroying me and destroying my marriage. I am scared
to have a kid because I know that my ILs will try to brainwash my
child and keep him from getting close to me. DH can't see that
because he always says that our love is too strong to get affected
by all this, but he still doesn't support me. I can't talk to him.
I can't talk to my ILs and tell them how I feel because my DH gets
upset. I don't want to leave him, as I love him deeply and I believe
that marriage is a sacred relationship and is for keeps. I need
advice. Please help!!
Signed - What Do I Do?
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- sickandtiredofmil 1 of 4 /Posted: 11-FEB-07
MIL came down for a visit when I was pregnant
with my DD. It was a hard pregnancy, and near the end I had to
have a non-stress test daily. On every trip to the hospital she'd
make things worse, trying to make the whole hospital visit about
her. She barely paid any attention to my DS and DH. The day I
gave birth to my DD (via c-section) she actually complained about
having to spend time with my DS. We didn't know if my DD would
survive, as she was premature. DD was whisked away from me, and
my DH went with her. A picture was taken of her just moments after
she was cleaned up. I was told that she was too weak to suckle,
and I would have to pump if I wanted her to have breast milk. So,
I used the picture as inspiration, since I couldn't hold DD. Well,
the day my MIL was to leave, she bugged me and my DH until she got
that picture. I made her promise to give it back as soon as she
could. I still haven't seen that picture back. She barely even
looked for it after she "lost" it. I have never heard
an apology for losing something that meant quite a lot to me. It
will never be returned, I'm sure.
Signed - Sick And Tired
of MIL
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- sickandtiredofmil 2 of 4 /Posted: 11-FEB-07
The beginning: MIL's first reaction to my
DH proposing to me was unusual. She made us promise to wait a year
before getting married. Granted, we'd only been together for 3
months at the time, but we were living together already (something
that she had no problem with). DH and I had been friends for a
year and half before we started dating. Unfortunately, DH had picked
my MIL's house to propose in. She made things very uncomfortable
until she got that promise. This was the last time my DH and I
stayed at her house. So, we had planned to get married after a
year, but something surprising happened. I got pregnant (not on
purpose), and my DH's stepmother, who didn't like me from the beginning,
decided that she'd plan a wedding for us near where DH's father
and stepmother live. All along the way, the stepmother called me
a gold-digger behind my back, even though I had been supporting
both my FDH and myself for months, without any help from DH. So,
of course, the wedding was being planned with very little to say
from DH and me. Expenses ran crazy, and it got to the point where
I knew that if the wedding happened, I wouldn't have a single family
member there. "What's the matter, DH's family will be your
family anyway. Your family doesn't need to be there," MIL
actually spat out. That was the beginning of her evil remarks,
and it was all downhill from there.
Signed - Your Family
Doesn't Need To Be There
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