My MIL doesn't see the
funny side of "Everyone Loves Raymond". I think it hits
too close to home. She is controlling, manipulative and opinionated.
If you don't agree with her, then she will get aggressive. She
drives me out of my mind! My DH doesn't want to get involved.
Every time I say anything that she doesn't like, she calls me mean,
and cries. Then, she cries to everyone else in her family (my family
lives in another country) and makes everyone feel sorry for her.
She is pathetic and I don't know how to deal with her. We are in
the middle of the battle now and this time I've told her exactly
what I think of her (was that a good idea?). She is fanatical about
our DD (I think she would do away with me to have custody if she
could), but yet she would rather lose contact with DD than apologize
for her behavior. How do you divorce the MIL but keep the DH?
Valentine's Day this year
has reminded me of Valentine's Day last year when my lovely BF made
me so proud! I had a big night away planned; dinner, hotel, champagne,
you name it. FMIL knew nothing about it. Unfortunately, when the
big day came, DBF was sick and we had to cancel. Even more unfortunate
was that the fact that FMIL was present when I arrived with the
card, etc., (due to the fact that his present was the night out,
I hadn't bought a Valentine's present as well). So, he gave me
a big, lavish card, and inside were tickets to a show that he knew
we would both enjoy. Then, he opened his card, which, because of
the reasons mentioned, was quite basic and contained no present.
MIL snapped, "So, where's my DS's present then?" as if
to say, "He spent all this on you, what's in it for him?"
My lovely, lovely BF gave her a look that would sour milk, and said,
"SHE IS MY PRESENT. WHAT ELSE WOULD I NEED?" Sometimes,
the boys do get it right!!
I have a combo pair of
mean MIL and supermean GMIL, and the problem is that presently we
all stay together in same house! After marriage I didn't get my
address changed to my DH's place because I know how snoopy and mannerless
my ILs are. But, I had to give the new address to one insurance
company. I got DH, my parents and myself covered under an insurance
scheme. The necessary documents arrived by post to the house in
my absence, and GMIL could not control herself. She opened it.
The bundle was exclusively addressed to me, and she can read well.
When I came home and questioned her, she made a silly story about
how someone from FIL's bank called her up and asked her to open
a letter which that bank had posted under FIL's name. What an excuse!
She did not blink at all while saying all this. She is an habitual
liar. She then proceeded to tell me that this bundle has documents
with my parent's photos also. I bit my words knowing fully well
that there has not been any such call from a bank, and that she
willingly had opened my letter from the insurance company out of
curiosity. Since DH and I are moving out of this house after 2
months, should I not have a showdown with her now, just to keep
peace for some more time? Quarreling with ILs for their bad behavior
towards me makes me emotionally upset for days. But, DH says that
I should have told her not to open my letters again.
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