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Mother-In-Law Mall
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Mother-In-Law Stories
December 3, 2007
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DH and I met at work.
When I met MIL, she was always nice, and I really liked her, at
the beginning. Then, when MIL figured out that our relationship
was getting serious, she started to be a control freak. We had
decided to buy a condo, and had asked her to please lend us a down
payment. We would pay her back as soon as we sold the condo (our
plans were to live in it for about 2-3 years). She agreed. On
the day that we had to give our down payment she decided to call
DH and tell him that she could not lend us the money because she
really did not know me that well (we were going out for a year),
and she did not know if this relationship was going to work out
or not. What if I ran away with her money? Then, she proceeded
to tell him that she would lend him the money if we put her name
on the deed. Ok, so how does that benefit me? All three of our
names were going to be on the deed. We would have to split everything
in three if it did not work out, and that was not fair to me. I
told DH that I did not want her money, and that we would figure
out how to pay for the condo. Luckily, we were approved for 100%
financing. But, I think that got her even more pissed off, because
we did not need her. After that, she kept on playing the pity card,
that DH had left her alone. She is divorced, but her other son
was still living with her. She would always want DH to go to her
house just to see him. It even got to the point that we would go
out to eat with her at least 3 times a week, and most of the time
we had to pay for her. I got tired of it and I told DH that it
had to stop. If we did not see my parents this often, then why
should we have to see her that often? So, things started to slow
down, but he has always had a problem telling her NO. Every time
that she wanted to see him, he would tell me and then I had to be
the bad one to say no. We got engaged and started planning the
wedding. A week before the wedding, I had called DH and told him
that I wanted to go eat dinner with him. I was finishing up with
some decorations, and then we could meet. Unfortunately, I did
not notice the time. He called me around 8:00 pm and told me that
MIL had called him to go out, so he was going to go out with her.
Um, I thought we had plans. We ended up in a big fight. It got
to the point that I almost called off the wedding. But, then I
decided that I was not going to let her win. On our wedding day,
she was crying, as if he had died or something. I was so pissed
because she looked so stupid. After that, things cleared up for
a while, then I got pregnant. When I had my baby boy, all she wanted
to do was come over and be around us. I got into a huge argument
with DH about it because he said that I had to understand that it
was her first GC. I told him that DS was my first son, I am a working
mother, and I do not feel like having company all of the time.
To this day, she makes comments about how I do not bring the baby
by that often. I tell her, "You are not the only one who wants
to see him. There are other people in the family." DH still
cannot stand up to her whenever I tell him that something bothers
me about her. That lady has DH brainwashed, and I think that she
might get her wish --- to get her son back.
Signed - Frustrated Wife
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DH and I dated about 8
years before we got married. I have spent 7 of those years dealing
with my MIL's extreme jealousy and hatred for me. This all stems
from her very poor relationship with my DH, due to her past shortcomings
as a mother. MIL is a hateful, narcissistic woman. Just 2 short
months before our destination wedding, she caused a major scene
at a bar because I did not hug her immediately upon her entrance
(I was engaged in a conversation with a friend whom I had not seen
in years). She called me all sorts of names, grabbed my arm, spun
me around in front of a large group of my friends, and stormed out,
having my DFIL (her ex-husband) drive her home. About 1 month later,
my DH called her to ensure that she had gotten her passport for
travel. She informed him that she would not be attending the wedding
because she does not agree with our marriage, and she does not want
to welcome me into the family. After one of the most horrible conversations
I have ever had to listen to, my DH told her where to go and hung
up on her. The kicker is this: Since she refuses to hold down
a job and support herself, my mother and I paid for her entire trip,
except the $300 deposit. This was a $1600 week long trip to the
Caribbean, AND she was never even going to tell us that she was
not going! She was planning on just not showing up!! A year later,
we saw her for the first time since the wedding, and she tried to
assault me, at my BIL's new home, because my DH told her that he
still wanted nothing to do with her (she never apologizes for ANYTHING).
Needless to say, there is still no relationship there today, and
she is crazier than ever!!
Signed - Not Sure It
Could Get Any Worse!
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I want to thank everyone
on the site for their inspirational stories. Reading them made
me realize that I did not want to suffer for years with a MIL who
does not accept me. So, over Thanksgiving, with the help and support
of DH, I wrote a letter to MIL explaining my hurt feelings and my
desire to break off all ties with her. DH sweetly did the dirty
work and delivered the letter in person, while I relaxed at the
spa. She picked apart every piece of it, and left DH exhausted.
But, he stood his ground and supported me. She just "so wanted
the great relationship" with me, like the one she had with
her own MIL, and she felt like we were "back at square one".
Ummm, read the letter lady, we never left square one! I have posted
the letter on the message board (under the Open Letter, subject:
Why I am cutting all ties?) for anyone who is interested. I have
taken my life back, and it is such a relief! DH will still keep
a relationship with her, and I am OK with that. He has built his
own mechanisms to deal with her, and I now found mine! Again, thank
you, everyone, for giving me the strength to stand up!
Signed - Free At Last!
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