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Mother-In-Law Stories
December 9, 2007
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My DF and I met in high
school and have been dating since we were 17 years old. We are
now 21, going on 22, and have decided to get married. Unfortunately,
DF comes from a well-off family, who considers me to be white trash
because of my middle class and very large family upbringing. They
often insinuate that I'm only marrying him for money because I'm
the middle child of seven. At our engagement party MIL screamed
at DF, in front of everyone, that she didn't want her oldest son
marrying an inbred #$@$% (a derogatory word for my nationality)",
and said that green-eyed redheads are supposed to be devil children.
Signed - Evil Green-Eyed
Redhead
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DH and I have been married
for eighteen years. A lot of people warned me about his mother
and how controlling and possessive she is over him, but I was young
and in love. I still love my DH very much, but his mother is a
nasty, old woman. She actually would say mean things to me behind
DH's back, or when he was out of the room. Then, she would deny
it, and I would get in trouble for being overdramatic or for misreading
her meaning. About a year ago, we were over her house. DH was
working on her boat. I told him that he had missed his profession,
kidding around. I told him that he should have been an engineer.
What she said next was the most horrible thing, and I will never
forgive her for it. She told me that I ruined his life because
I made him quit school. Ok, first of all, I told him to stay in
school. Second, how is it my fault that he didn't finish school?
College should only take four years. I waited almost six. When
we got engaged, all she did was cry like someone had died. I also
heard MIL tell my SIL that he was making a mistake, and she didn't
want him to marry me. I couldn't believe what I was hearing, but
I just let it go. I don't know why I did. Looking back on it now,
I should have said something. As we were being married, I held
my breath through the whole ceremony. I was praying that she wouldn't
object. She also gave me an enormous list of people to invite to
my wedding. I saved for three years to pay for it. My father didn't
want anything to do with it, since he and my mother were divorced,
and he lived in another country. I used the money that I had saved
to have a big wedding. We had 275 guests there, and she gave me
a list of 200 or so. We finally made her cut it down. She lied
to my DH, of course, and told him that she had made a mistake on
the list and wrote it on two sides of the paper. But, that is what
she is good at. She twists stuff around to make everything look
like it is my fault. She actually yelled at me for letting my DH
go for a walk by himself, when we were on vacation. He was 35 at
the time. What the he!! is her problem? She needs to see a good
shrink. She had made me feel like this horrible monster; a horrible
mother and wife. I have not spoken to her since she told me that
I ruined DH's life, and it's the best thing I ever did. I also
wrote her a letter explaining my feelings, since she had no problem
telling me, over and over again, not in exact words, but close enough,
that I ruined his life. I also do not like the way she treats my
kids. She yells and screams at them for touching anything. My
GM didn't care what I touched. She figured that if we broke it,
it was one less thing she had to dust. My GM was a loving, caring,
and wonderful person. I cannot even compare the two. MIL is selfish,
and only calls me when she needs someone to "help" her.
I end up doing it, whatever "it" is, most of the time.
I never said no to her, because I figured that if I helped her,
maybe she would see what a caring and loving person I can be. Boy,
was I wrong. She still thinks that she is right. I don't know
why, but she told my DH that most of the stuff I wrote in my letter
was untrue. She was lying again. Everything in that letter was
true, like the fact that she ruined every important event in our
lives by making us miserable. She always says rude and hurtful
things to me. I would never treat anyone that way. I was devastated
that she would treat me this way. DH tried to calmly explain to
her that it wasn't my fault, but she just kept insisting that it
was. It is like hitting my head against a brick wall. So, I did
end the relationship that we had. I will still be cordial to her,
but I still hate her inside. How could my loving DH come from her?
I will never know, but I know that we have been together too long
and we love each other too much to end things now. Not only that,
but I don't want to give her what she wants - a divorce between
my DH and me. Never gonna happen.
Signed - Heartbroken
DIL
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When I think back to all
of the hurtful things MIL has done over the past 4 years, I think
this tops them all. I was very naive and weak at the time, and
I did not defend myself or ask my then DF to defend me, either.
But, looking back, I wish I had. DH and I had been engaged for
about 6 months, but we had not announced it in the paper yet. We
had a 15 month engagement, so I guess we weren't in a big hurry.
We were apart for most of the engagement, as he was working in another
state. The weekend our engagement announcement was in the newspaper
was also my birthday weekend. He had a free weekend, and came to
see me. We went to see his parents in another town for a few days.
In the first five minutes after we arrived, MIL gave my DF a letter
addressed to him that had come to her house. The return address
had his high school GF's name. She commented that it seemed like
quite a long letter, because it was a very thick envelope. She
made an event out of it by engaging him in conversation about it,
and sent him to the backyard to sit on a bench and have some time
to himself to read the letter. She, basically, put this letter
in the forefront of our visit. I was so stunned and hurt. I felt
sick to my stomach, and I was so shocked. I had no idea how to
respond. She invited me to sit down with her in the living room,
and she began to quiz me on wedding plans, totally ignoring what
she had just done. Finally, I felt so sick that I excused myself.
I willingly admit that I really let this letter get to me, way more
than I should have, and I was younger and more insecure about DH's
past at the time. But, I still feel that this was an exceptionally
cruel way to treat a FDIL, and a guest in her home, for that matter.
DF came back inside after reading it (which he shouldn't have done
in the first place, and wouldn't do now) and MIL demanded that he
tell her what the letter said. He gave some nebulous answer and
she eagerly asked what he wanted to do with the letter. He said,
"I guess I'll just throw it away." And he did. Basically,
the letter was his high school GF's final attempt to get back together
with him. I still don't know for sure why my MIL made such an event
out of this, and I don't think I'll ever forget that day. If I
had it to do over, I would have handled it much differently. Live
and learn.
Signed - Wish I Knew
Then What I Know Now
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