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Mother-In-Law Mall
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Mother-In-Law Stories
December 19, 2007
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Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- K88, 2 of 4 needed /Posted: 19-DEC-07
When DF decided to ask me to marry him, he spoke
to his parents beforehand to let them know of his intentions.
A few days later, he asked my parents' permission. The next
day, both families got together to celebrate the engagement over
lunch. However, FMIL felt the need to focus all of the attention
on herself. First, their family was nearly 30 minutes late
because she took her sweet time to shower and get ready. Then,
she sat between my mother and me, turned toward my mother the entire
time. One of the first things out of her mouth was this (toward
my mother), "So, did you see this coming?" My mother,
of course, said, "Yes," and that she was very happy for
us. Then, FMIL proceeded to say, "Well, when DS came
to talk to us about it, I thought he was going to tell us that she
was pregnant!" She said this quite loudly in the middle
of the restaurant, embarrassing everyone at the table. Then,
she went on and on about how it was such a surprise to her and how
she thought that we were too young, etc. She got so caught
up in her tirade that the waitress had to come back 4 times before
she even looked at the menu! Granted, DF and I are rather
young. We were both 19 at the time, and in college.
She did not have to go on and on in such a public place. She
certainly should not have assumed that the only reason her son would
want to marry me would be that I was pregnant. She still introduces
me to people as her son's GF. When my mother introduces us
to new people, she says, "These are my children. DD and
my son-in-law." She doesn't even say "future",
and we aren't married yet! When we told his mother that we
are planning to move to a southern state when we graduate, the first
thing she said was, "You are NOT moving to there!" as
if it were up for discussion! She continues to send her son
emails and articles about jobs in the local area. She doesn't
seem to understand that he isn't even looking for a job in this
area, because we have every intention to move. I cannot live
in the same state with her, and that was one of the conditions under
which I agreed to marriage. I love him to death, but our relationship
has already suffered so much wear and tear due to her behavior.
She treats us like we are children. She refuses to talk about
our future plans, etc., because she insists on making all of her
son's decisions for him. She has two other sons, but neither
of them like being around her, either. It's sad, but she is
going to be one of those mothers who turns around one day and realizes
that her sons haven't visited her. DF only goes to visit so
that he can see his dad and spend time with his brothers!
I could go on and on, but this has gotten long enough.
Signed - Can't Wait To
Get Away From Her
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I saw an agony aunt on
TV dealing with people's (mostly women's) MIL issues. She seemed
to have one answer, "Just remember that without your MIL you
would not have your DH/partner. So, even if you don't see eye to
eye, try to remember that you have a lot to thank her for."
I thought, "Sounds logical. I'll rise above her little narcissistic
ways and try to remember that she is his mother." Big mistake.
I gave her an inch, she took a mile. Except, now I notice how much
alike mother and son really are. Unfortunately, most people don't
understand why MILs are so annoying. They're a water torture.
One comment, insinuation or a last minute rain check can be brushed
off. But twenty years of inscrutable, insidious attitude can leave
a person on edge, waiting for the next event to happen. I have
wasted many hours trying to work out what might start her off.
But, covering all your bases never works. And, you know that you
just have to put up with it or tear your own family apart. There
must be a cosmic joke in there somewhere?
Signed - Cosmic Joke
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Frequent
Fry Her TM.
- K88, 3 of 4 needed /Posted: 19-DEC-07
Worst gift: Back when
DF and I were first beginning to date, neither of us had cars.
In order for us to spend time together, parents had to be involved.
One of these times, I wasn't happy with his mom because she had
been doing some sneaky things behind his back. She was gathering
information through his best friend about how often we were talking,
what we talked about, etc. Well, she insisted on coming to
pick me up by herself one day. It was a little bit unsettling
to begin with. Then, she started to apologize about how she
had been acting, etc., and pulled a white box out of the glove compartment.
It was a gold and silver bracelet. I didn't know what to think.
I had never had a gift given to me along with an apology before.
It was like she was trying to "buy" my forgiveness.
When we got back to their house and I showed my DF (then my BF)
the bracelet, he asked her why she hadn't asked him what kind of
jewelry I liked. She said, "It wasn't about what she
liked. It was about my giving her something." What
do you make of that?
Signed - Odd Reason To
Give A Gift
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