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Mother-In-Law Stories
December 29, 2007
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My MIL is a very lonely
and miserable person. DH is an only child. FIL left her 7 years
ago because of all the "cold wars" she had played while
he tried to solve the problems they were facing. Basically, she
didn't want my DH to move out of her house. When my DH had a great
chance to work overseas, she called him and cried over the phone,
asking for his return. So, again, he left his happiness and work
for her. He had dreamt a thousand times about moving out and living
on an island. He had the chance once, but he had to give up his
happiness because of his lonely mom at home. Things got worst when
I found out that I was pregnant. DH was happy, but scared to have
a child since he was not working and was still living with his mom.
He told me that it was ok for his mom if we lived under her roof
after the baby was born. Today, three years later, we are still
here, and my DH is still looking for a proper job. My days are
getting more sad. MIL doesn't acknowledge me. All she sees is
my child and DH. I have tried many ways to catch her attention.
When she caught the flu, I made her thyme tea for a week to make
sure she recovered well. But, despite of the kindness I showed,
she accused me of hitting my child while I was taking him to the
kitchen to fix him toast, as he refused to eat his dinner. This
happened at DH's GM's home. I was in shock! She humiliated DH
and me in front of my child's great grandma. She has not shown
any respect for me, even though I am her DIL, her son's wife, and
her GS's mom. I am a person with feelings. She accused me of trying
to separate her and her son. She told me that she would be happy
if it was my DH who had made the thyme tea. My heart was broken.
Was my DH her DS AND her man, too?? She is treating my DH as if
he is hers. She screamed at my DH for not watching a movie with
her. She screamed at him when he came back home from a tough day
and spoke about his bad day to me. On the first day of school for
DS, she took his report book and sat down with him to stick the
stickers onto his book. DS and I had bought the stickers together.
I was just about to do it with him, but she took this chance away
from me. When I stood beside them for ten minutes to see if she
realized that I was there, she totally and purposely ignored me.
DH saw what had happened, but he dared not tell his mom, as she
would be in a rage. I would not dare fight with her. It is not
because I am afraid of her, but because she would scream so loudly
that my son would cry. DH and I would be broken again. I realize
that she is a very mean person, as she has tried many ways to put
me down. She boils just enough water to make her own tea in the
morning. She just sits and enjoys her tea, while I prepare breakfast
and lunch, and dress my child up for school. She does not offer
any help. The least she could do is boil enough water for all of
us. When I cooked a good dinner for the family, she ate in a bad
mood. Then, she started a fight. She would buy a big bag of chocolate
and leave it in the open. When DS would see it, he would cry to
have some. All this happened before dinner. Did she do it on purpose
to make my life even more difficult? I was hoping that we would
move out to the country. Being closer to nature is what we would
like for our son. But, it all seems so impossible. She has no
life, dream or goal. Her only purpose in life was to take care
of my DH when he was a boy. But, now he is close to 30 years old,
and she still wants to keep him by her side. When DH took up some
job training, he told her that if he was lucky, he would find a
job overseas. When she heard this news, she cried and said that
she would be lonely. I wish that she could see the happiness that
DH could have in his life, instead of seeing all the loneliness
that she has been facing for years. Why is she not letting my DH
be free?? He is going to be 30, and she still wants to keep him
down. How long do we have to wait to start our own life?? She
is lonely and depressed, but she refuses to admit it, and she refuses
to make a change in her life. She is waiting for my DH to bring
her happiness. Is this what a wife is supposed to ask from her
DH? My DH isn't her DH. She needs a man to bring her back to life.
She should not take her son down with her. I am feeling hopeless.
I thought about leaving DH and DS, but I love them so much. But,
how much do I need to sacrifice? How broken and manipulated by
her do I have be to have my own happiness and my own family? I
left my own country, friends and work to be here for my DS's education,
and my DH's mom and grandma. What is left for me?? I even thought
of committing suicide to end all this hypocrisy and miserable relations.
Will someone tell me how far I have to go?? I have no one to tell,
and my heart is bursting. Everyday life as a wife, mother, and
DIL is demanding and difficult. All I need is someone to appreciate
me, not like my MIL, who is so harsh and disrespectful of me. This
is a never ending story. I have no desire to think about the future.
Signed - I Don't Know
About Anything Anymore
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