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Mother-In-Law Mall
A place to find great gifts!
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Mother-In-Law Stories
January 4, 2008
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Everyone deserves the
best wedding, especially those who try to plan their own. Every
little girl has her own dream wedding, and so did I. I planned
a small wedding: Close relatives, small, cute cake, my dream dress,
or the one I liked the most. I planned how to decorate the place
and chose the date of the big day. Sounds good, right? All that
I mentioned above did not happen to me at all, and now I am somebody's
wife. One day, I got the call from MIL. She said, "The date
is fixed - 3 months from now." If you stood in my shoes, would
you be able to get it done within 3 months?? He!! no. Nothing
was prepared. When I said that I would not be ready, then it was
postponed for another 3 months. The wedding was now in 6 months.
Another bride would have had at least 1 year to prepare for the
big day, but I only had half of that. It started with the wedding
gown. It was chosen by MIL. It was designed like cr@p. I kept
my eye on one simple, nice gown. It was cream color, but I was
told that it was not appropriate, and the one that they chose was
the best. At the end, I had to give up. Hairstyle? Hello!! Enough.
In the morning, I needed to follow a traditional style. At dinner,
MIL's sister wanted the style that she liked. I put up a fight.
It was my own head, so let me choose something that I like. I'm
very happy. My decision was right. All the guests said that my
dinner hairstyle was very nice. I chose the style from a book,
and modified it a bit. I was surprised that there was no wedding
cake. Is there anyone who doesn't have wedding cake on their wedding
day? No exchange of vows and no ring? Yes. It happened to me.
At the party, I was ashamed. Extremely ashamed. They treated me
like I did not exist. I was damn tired from the photo shoot. I
don't know who the he!! would have wanted to take a photo with me.
I smiled while I was crying inside. Yes. The wedding was over
a year ago, but all the memories and feelings that I had towards
a **few people** will remain. It made me upset when one of the
close relatives had a wedding dinner one night. I was not invited,
but I was asked to follow MIL. My wound had not healed, and now
she wanted to show me how perfect that wedding was. I felt like
a child. I cried inside. I wanted my wedding to be like that one.
I had to control myself. I drank 4 big glasses of beer in front
of MIL, and, yes, in front my DH, too. Beer makes me feel light
and I don't care what happens around me. When we got back, DH said
that he was not happy about what I did in front of his mom and relatives.
He should say "thank you" to me, instead of yelling at
me. If I don't drink, I may freak out. I can't imagine what I
am capable of doing when I'm angry. DH and I had a fight that almost
became a divorce. I had to call his mom and tell her that we were
getting a divorce. DH looked upset when he found out that I told
his mom about the divorce. In the end, we were back together.
I had to tell him that I will not be happy going to any wedding
for the rest of my life. Sometimes, I feel tired and have no idea
who I live my life for. All I want from MIL is for her to LEAVE
ME ALONE!!!! LET ME BE WHO I AM.
Signed - Leave Me Alone!!
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My MIL spent the entire
3 months of her last visit to us nagging me about babies. DH and
I had a plan, and we wanted to stick to it. We had migrated to
another country, so we needed to first get settled job-wise, save
money and buy a house. Then, we would think of babies. Both DH
and I only managed to get contract roles for a long time. Although
it is good money, it doesn't make banks want to give you a loan.
So, when I got a permanent job, I knew that I would have to be in
it for at least a year before I would be eligible for any maternity
benefits. Now, this is our (DH and my) decision, and I don't feel
comfortable discussing it with anyone else. But, that didn't stop
the MIL. She would watch baby and birth shows, then she would say,
"Doesn't this make you want to have babies?" Or, she
would interrupt my selection of clothes in the mall while I was
shopping saying, "Don't you think you should buy that in a
bigger size? As you will need bigger size clothes when you are
pregnant?" She even went so far as to sit DH and me down,
while she stood and walked around like a college professor lecturing
us on how we MUST have kids by the end of the year!! She and FIL
would tell anyone that they could find that the only thing they
wanted for us was to have kids!! I mean, what if I couldn't have
kids?? Wouldn't that be rude? While I tried to ignore it, DH would
just laugh it off, thinking that it was cute!!! But, those 3 months
were the most frustrating of my life. Now I am having my first
child (FINALLY, according to them). They were all set to land up
here again in my last trimester, and MIL just assumed that she would
be in the delivery room with me!! I put my foot down and told DH
that no one will be here. It will be just him and me. I mean,
my ILs have 2 GSs anyway, and it is my parent's first GC, yet my
parents don't make any decisions without consulting me! Yet, these
people just take it for granted that I will go along with their
plans! I know they are excited and all, but COME ON! They even
wanted to send the baby layette and crib/walker/high chair from
back HOME!!
Signed - I MEAN, SERIOUSLY!!
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Worst gift: This year,
for Christmas, I received (lucky me) a box of plastic magnetic blank
picture frames. If MIL can't think of anything to give me, give
a girl a gift card!
Signed - Not Her Favorite
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