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Mother-In-Law Stories
January 10, 2008
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I've been married for
25 years. My MIL has 3 sons, all of whom are married. She has
caused problems for my two SILs and for me for years!!! DH and
I were separated for a long while. We eventually worked our way
back to each other. For the first few years of our marriage DH
would look the other way (as did his brothers) when his mother would
insult me, be rude, or just downright evil to us. At first, she
made sure never to step out of line in front of them. When there
were no repercussions from her sons after behaving badly, she became
quite blatant. In the beginning I tried to respect her and turn
the other cheek. As her actions got progressively worse, I spoke
with my DH, to no avail. Finally, I just decided to not be around
her. Well, she decided that she would start "dropping in"
on the weekends. I took matters into my own hands and confronted
her, telling her that it was rude and unappreciated. She pointedly
informed me that it was her son's house (while he stood there silently)
and that she would come and go as she pleased. Something snapped
that day. I'd had so many years of meddling that I was just over
it. I told her that she was going to leave OUR home and I told
her son that if he could not support me regarding her, he could
go with her. That was the beginning of my DH starting to come around.
I never expected or asked him not to have a relationship with her.
I simply made it quite clear that I chose not to and, as such, that
should be respected. He still let her get away with murder several
times. She tried to get at me through family members. She tried
to poison my DH against me by telling him that I was having affairs
whenever he was out of town on business. I told everyone (family
instigators) who approached me about her that I DID NOT, UNDER ANY
CIRCUMSTANCES, appreciate them coming to me with garbage because
I would not reciprocate, and to please stop it. When we got back
together, I had one MAJOR condition: He would not ignore any silliness
that he was a WITNESS to. He agreed. Since all of her efforts
to get at me failed, she made the biggest mistake (now MY blessing)
of all; she aimed her poison at her son. She tried to put another
woman in my bed to get him away from me! This, after he told her
that we were together again and he would no longer tolerate her
actions towards me. This time HE stepped up to the plate and banned
her from our home. He has let her know, in no uncertain terms,
that she will not disrespect his wife. When he wants to see her,
he goes to her house. She is not invited here. We still see each
other, but only at large family gatherings. We speak politely,
and we practice avoidance. Her last act to keep us apart was the
best gift that she could have ever given me. BTW, I have a very
simple and common name. She's managed to call me variations of
that name since I've known her.
Signed - She Made The
Biggest Mistake
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I know how sensitive my
MIL can get. She is such a drama queen that the smallest thing
can be turned into a huge issue with her. So, DH and I have an
agreement: If either of our parents does something that annoys
us, the respective parent will be spoken to only by the respective
child to avoid any further issues. However, my DH can be quite
abrupt and sarcastic to his mum, so I have to keep telling him to
tone down his words. Recently, he was pissed off that FIL went
and booked their tickets (they are coming to visit us on a holiday)
without consulting him on dates. This is because DH works on contract
and needs to give advance notice on any days he takes off. If he
has to pick them up on a weekday, then it is a big hullabaloo at
work to get time off. So, he had requested them to make their reservations
on a weekend. But, FIL found a good deal for a weekday and went
ahead. Not a big deal, I know, but DH was upset and yelled. His
mum promptly started crying. My first reaction was to get upset
with DH over his not treating his mum well. Guess what happened
next??? My MIL asked DH to pass the phone to me. She told me that
I shouldn't be angry with him, that he is HER son and he has every
right to say what he wants to her. She felt that, since he is HER
SON, she knows how he is and doesn't get offended by what he says!!
All this was in a high and mighty tone, as if to say MINE, MINE,
MINE!! Jeez, I am never gonna take her side again!! She was weird
this way the last time they visited, too. I hate most soups, with
just one exception. When she made some weird orange and pumpkin
soup, I still tried a little so that she wouldn't feel offended.
When FIL asked why I only took a little, and didn't I like soup,
I honestly told them that I really don't like soup of any kind.
My MIL promptly started crying, as she said that she had taken so
much effort and I didn't even want to try. I did TRY!!!! Also,
during their stay with us, she had taken over my kitchen, and I
had tried every single dish that she made, so I don't understand
what the BFD was??
Signed - Hypersensitive
MIL
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