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Mother-In-Law Mall
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Mother-In-Law Stories
January 11, 2008
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DECEMBER
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My DH's parents have never
liked me - no kidding, from day one. MIL refused to acknowledge
our introduction to each other. And so it has gone. But, now they
are carrying it too far. DH owns farm ground back in the midwest.
He's rented that ground out to his brother for a small fee that
has remained unchanged since 1999. This year, DH has terminated
the lease, on the farm that he had maintained with his brother,
and wants to run an ad in the paper to rent the ground out for what
it's really worth - considerably more than his brother had been
paying. The problem: Years ago, FIL bought a strip of railroad
ground that cuts right through DH's property. It amounts to about
6 acres of this 200 acre farm. When DH called his father to find
out how they were going to handle this 6 acres, this was my FIL's
ultimatum: 1. If you rent to "blood" (my BIL), no problem.
They can cross through as they always have. 2. If you rent to
anyone else, "They ain't crossin' my property." And,
the reason that FIL has taken this incredible stance against his
own son? It's because he hates me. Why does he hate me? As I
heard FIL spit into the phone, "She's into witchcraft!"
FIL then went on to tell DH how much easier things would go for
him business-wise if he wasn't married to me. He explained to him
how much easier life would be, how much more carefree he would be,
and how much wealthier he would be if he did not have me and the
kids. Below is a copy of a letter that I mailed off yesterday to
my DH's parents. In the original copy that I sent I used their
names, of course. If FIL continues to blackmail my DH in this business
deal, acting like a complete jerk, the modified letter (minus their
names) will appear as an open letter in the town newspaper. And,
this is a promise ... not a threat.
An Open Letter: To Whom It May Concern:
It's time to get something straight: Your son and I are man and
wife. Together, with offspring from each of us, we are a family.
We are man and wife in the same way that you two are man and wife.
My business is his business. His business is my business. Our
lives are intertwined the way any other married couple's lives are
intertwined. You speak of "blood" when you speak of family.
Families are created through marriage. Your wife is not your "blood"
relation. She is related to you only through marriage because you
chose to make her your wife. Likewise, your son chose me to be
his wife. I am related to him through marriage because he chose
me. Anyone who does business with your son is doing business with
me. Anyone who does business with me is doing business with your
son. We are a married couple in every sense of the word, just the
same as every other married couple in your family, from your children
to your grandchildren. It is a testament to the strength of our
relationship that we have survived some harsh trials, and have triumphed
over the adversity to emerge an even stronger and more united couple.
And, don't tell me that other married couples in your family have
never been tried in the course of their relationships. Marriage
is one of the most intricate, intimate, and difficult relationships
to maintain. You may not like the fact that I am your son's wife,
and thus part of your family, but that's the way it is. And, that's
the way it's going to stay. I'm sure, as young as you two were
when you got married, that not everyone was thrilled about your
union, either. But, obviously, that didn't stop you, nor will it
affect your son and me. My husband and I have been together for
six years now, and we expect to be together for many more. It's
time for both of you to grow up and stop this ridiculous behavior.
Sincerely,
Signed - Bewitched
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My MIL is driving me nuts.
I am disabled, with bipolar disorder bad enough that I cannot work.
I manage to live a pretty normal life, however, until SHE goes on
a rant. She also has an (untreated) psychiatric disorder, and strongly
resents both my SIL and me for taking away her sons. She is also
hard up for money, and demands it of my DH. He is a great guy,
but really needs to get a spine when it comes to her. Her latest
rant was that I (who pays all the bills and figures out the finances,
as my DH isn't very good at it) am spending all the money (where
I'm putting all the stuff I buy, no one's quite sure), money which
should go to *her*. She demanded (not asked, demanded) that we
give her a substantial amount of money each month, far more than
we can afford. DH called me to see if we could do this, and I got
an earful of her ranting in the background. Did I mention that
this was Christmas Eve? I spent the rest of the day on a suicide
hotline. I am now forbidden by my doctors to have anything, ANYTHING,
to do with her.
Signed - Getting Desperate
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I'm so upset and need
to talk to someone to vent. I just found out that my MIL wants
us to buy her a cell phone ($300) for Christmas. She is 75 and
has been living in a retirement home under the HUD for the last
11 years. She doesn't drive. Why does she need a cell phone?
Her 3 children have been sending her money for the last 7 years,
a total of approximately $12,000, to help with her living expenses,
because she didn't plan her retirement. She has been very poor
almost all her life, and we never received a thoughtful Christmas
gift from her. We usually got cheap, old, used gifts. SIL and
BIL don't have children, so they probably don't spend that much
money on her. We have 2 adult children now, and we still can't
afford to buy a house. We need to start saving money for our retirement
and for our kids' weddings. Why does my MIL expect so much attention
(money) from her children? I hate Christmas.
Signed - Very Upset In
West Coast
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