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Mother-In-Law Mall
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Mother-In-Law Stories
March 2, 2008
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FEBRUARY
2008
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The weirdness also exists
with friends of SIL. Her friends are deemed more worthy than we
are. One day at Christmas, I hand made chocolates - each had a
cherry cut inside and were dipped in chocolate (lots of work).
My MIL thoughtlessly put them back in the fridge. FIL backed her,
saying that they were too sweet to serve. SIL just wanted her friend's
mom's baked goods served, rather than mine. It always goes back
to SIL, as you can see, and her parents need to put her up on a
pedestal that she doesn't deserve. Did I forget to mention that
the third time I ever met SIL at her apartment, she informed me
how her friend would be taking over my job? SIL is a teacher, so
she believes that she is higher class than a farm girl like myself.
She tries to put on a show, and it's always her play. Well, where
I come from people don't play that way. If she has no rules, she
has had no brother for the last seven years to show for it. Yet,
the pain still exists, even though we are all apart.
Signed - Second Class
Citizen
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My relationship with my
MIL has deteriorated to the point that I almost wish she would get
struck by lightning. I feel the absolute lowest person for feeling
this way, until something else happens. The worst part is that
DH sides with her - even sneaking out with our DD to see her. I
realize that she is part of our lives. I make a point of calling
to invite her to dinner. I changed a lunch date, that I had with
my parents every Saturday, to accommodate her work schedule, so
she would have time with our DD. We have taken countless vacations
with her and my husband's family. However, DH is completely unwilling
to vacation with my family. It is a fight to get him to my family
dinners, while it is an expectation that we go to his. It is like
there is a second wife. I used to work before we had our DD. MIL
was actually excited when she found out that we were pregnant.
Her plan, that she didn't discuss with me, anyway, was to quit her
job so that she could stay home and take care of our baby. Never
mind the fact that DH and I had waited ten years to have this baby.
She actually got mad when she found out that I was planning on staying
home with the baby. She spent the next 6 months whining about her
job. She wasted no opportunity to let us know how miserable she
was at her job. She claims that there was not enough work, and
she was forced to spend her days on the internet. When that did
not work, she kept telling us that she did not feel safe at her
house anymore. And, when that did not work, she started claiming
all these health problems. This went on until I flat out stated
that I would not live her, and that if I was going to be continually
harassed about it, then I would be sure to invite my own mother
to live with us as well! The harassment stopped. I am really trying
to make this easier on everyone. I accept the fact that DH will
not reciprocate and spend time with my family, even when my father
became terminally ill. I accept the fact that she is going to be
part of our lives, as DH informed me that it was going to be that
way, no matter what. I continually call to offer play dates and
make every attempt to accept her requests for time with my DD.
I have even gone out with her and the baby, thinking that if we
could just get to know her -----. But, I am sincerely sick of the
sneaking around and the secret meetings that they have to discuss
how my DD is developmentally behind (despite the fact that her pediatrician
does not think so). If I do not agree to a request for MIL to see
my DD immediately, then I have to endure the silent treatment from
DH. I guess it would be important to mention that MIL definitely
has her favorites. Up until my DD was born, that would have been
my BIL and his wife. Just fine with me. Now that our DD has arrived,
she is all over us. I almost feel as though my DH is selling both
my DD and me for the attention and affection that he has missed
previously. I would really like to see this situation calm down
and become peaceful. I do not see that happening until my DH tells
and demonstrates to his mother that she needs to respect his wife.
Right now it feels like I will have to endure this until the day
they bury one of us. God forgive me for my thoughts. LOL.
Signed - God Forgive
Me For My Thoughts
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Worst gift: For my birthday,
my MIL brought a chicken salad for dinner (I HATE chicken!), even
though I was hoping to go out for dinner. My present was fabric
and a pattern to make a skirt. I HATE to sew. I am not very good
at it, and the fabric was hideous! SO, I had yucky food and a present
that I can't do anything with! LUCKY me!
Signed - Lucky Me!
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