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Mother-In-Law Stories
December 16, 2009
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I have not spoken to my
DP in 5 years, since I found out that DF was spending all his money
on three very bad habits and asking me for loans to cover his debts.
DM knew about this and supported him asking for money. When I said
no, they trashed me to the rest of the family. I could have explained
my behavior, but knowing my family, they will still find some way
to make it my fault. So, what is the point? I will still be the
black sheep, and DP will have no support from anyone else. They
have just become pensioners, and I can do without the worry. I
have been with DH for 20 years, and have had the normal problems
that most posters describe of their ILs. From the start, MIL and
SIL made me feel very uncomfortable. From the beginning, I was
just the "passing girlfriend". They freaked out at our
engagement, spoiled the wedding, and tried to break up the marriage.
After two difficult births, they made childbirth about themselves,
not my two beautiful babies. Then came the GC visiting rights at
the wrong times. You name it, they have done it. The ILs even
think they do not need to knock before entering my home. I feel
numb with it all. In their family, there is a pecking order: MIL,
FIL, SIL, my DH, my DC, SIL's DH, the pets, dust, then me. I think
that I married DH because he had similar parents to mine. We both
behaved in the same way to life, and knew how to behave and react
around both sets of DPs. Brainwashed. Unfortunately, he still
is. Around the time I started dealing with my DP, I finally started
to deal with the ILs. My DP's lifestyle is simply too dangerous
for them to have contact with my DC. I send Christmas presents,
but have no other contact. I have been trying to keep a relationship
with the ILs, otherwise my DC will have no GPs. But, I am really
struggling, specially around this time of year. MIL behaves one
way when DH is in the room, and the complete opposite when he leaves.
I really don't like her, and I'm afraid that after such a long time,
it shows. This leaves me looking like the bad guy and her like
the saint. SIL also behaves badly, but after being brought up by
them, no wonder. I have tried to explain it, but if you just hear
it, it doesn't sound that bad. But, it's the looks and the body
language. She completely disregards my wishes, and DH doesn't even
notice or care. He just tells me to deal with her. If I do, he
overrides me. If I say no to a visit, he agrees. If I lock the
front door, so they have to knock, he unlocks it. He says that
he will support me, then openly undermines me and just does whatever
his DM wants. He phoned from work to have a go at me about not
picking up the phone to his mother. That ended with my mobile being
cut off, with no replacement. When I confront him about this, he
tells me that he supports me daily to his mother, when she phones
him at work. Yes, she phones him daily. But, when I try to talk
to him, he is too tired or too busy. But, it seems that if I say
anything, I am the troublemaker and the problem is mine. I just
want to drop the rope and leave him deal with her, but he wants
to use me as a buffer. He knows that she is out of line, but will
not deal with it. I have stopped replying to emails and phone calls,
making him deal with her. That caused a massive fight over Halloween.
I have two weeks over Christmas where we are supposed to see them,
as arranged by the ILs and DH. I know that my DC wants to see the
ILs, but I have come to dread this time of year. I am tried of
whining, ranting, and nagging, and I think I am actually beginning
to . . .
Signed - Hate Myself
For Not Dealing With This Better
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I have known my DH for
4 years, but I've been married to him for 2 and a half years. MIL
has hated me ever since. After two years of marriage, and two kids,
she still hates me. She tries to convince my DH to leave me and
my kids and get remarried. She has all sorts of people spying on
me everywhere. I hate her as much as she hates me. She wants me
to go to her house every day and clean up after her and her DDs.
What am I, a maid???? She's such a ****. I wish she would just
get out of my life!!!!
Signed - A Very Pissed
Off DIL
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